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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.

I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.












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its my first time nd im nervous like what am i suppose to wear or what to also whats goin to happen will he enjoy it? also im scared how to i keep my cool? wats the chances of me getting pregnant? im 19 and im a female!



I will answer the pregnancy part


The chances pretty much depend on how smart you both are when it comes to protecting yourself. I highly advise you to use a condom every time. Do not let you talk otherwise


No glove no love! Remember you are the one who carries it for 9 months. Be smart and be safe

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My boyfriend and I are in 8th grade. We've been dating for 9 months. He gets upset because we can't find anything to talk about and its really getting on my nerves. I tried to make conversation with him but he said he didn't want to ask me anything :( I think of what to say when I'm not with him but when I'm with him I forget what I was gonna say. I feel like we're going to break up because we don't know what to talk about. What does a 14 year old boy like talking about with a 13 year old girl?



The key to a long lasting relationship is to be able to communicate with one another. Enjoy spending time with one another. Do date night once s week where you both do something fun together. See a movie, Do dinner together or if you got snow why not go sledding?

I am 27, My husband and I do just about anything. In fact yesterday we both went outside and had a snowball fight (lol) there is no limits. Just have fun and enjoy his company. One thing that kills communicating though is if you text 24.7...you are not leaving any room for conversation nor are you allowing the spark to continue.

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I have a friend and we're like best friends. A while ago she messages her crush on Facebook. She finds out tht he has a phone and starts txting and calling him. Then she asks him if he likes her and he said a little bit but more as a friends. Then a month later she tells me that he told her that he likes her. And then I started having problems with my friends and got mad cuz everytime I wanted to talk to her about it it's always "ok, hold on I'm talkin to ????" and then she never texts me until I'm like "HELLO???". I want our friendship to go back to normal but everytime it does something happens again. This is the 5th or 6th time writing about her, all for different reasons. Someone please help!!!



You need to talk to her. Tell her you feel like she put your friendship on the back burner.

If she is not willing to work around it then maybe she was not that great of a friend after all.

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Okay, my friend doesnt like me like i like her but she always doing things for me like she bought me a guitar, gave me some money, and stuff. and like to hangout with me, we use to sit together at lunch and stuff, but when i ask her out she told me she doesnt like me like that...why do she do the thing she does and give me false signals, why is she so caring, but doesnt want to give me a chance.



Your friend may be a caring person, This does not mean she is interested in dating you. You asked her out and she said no.

If you keep being persist ant you will ruin your friendship. Drop it

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I've posted other poems about love and my nan passing, this poem is about my first ever pet. hope you enjoy.please post honest comments. =)

They were all so similar,but exeedingly cute
Finley,Fred,Lucky and Loot (it was a name it also fits in)
Then there you was in the corner, moody from tail to jaw
Hissing and scratching,showing tiny every claw.

The name Lilly did'nt suit you, they are pretty and small
And you was a killer. As social as the floor.
“I want that one” I say and point to the green eyed beast.
“no way” mom says not impressed the least.
with a chuckle dad says “that ones got spirit!”
So he chased you around you acting like a whippet.

We grew together,you and I
Me and my cat, together but why?
Love is the answer,once its there thats it
Run,shout and hide but us you can't split
Now I miss you you see
your fiesty little ways
You had'nt cutenes as a power
But you were my flower.



I like the poem but while reading I felt as if you tried hard to rhyme.

You see, People can give opinions but no poetry is ever wrong. ;)

It is good but I may word it differently.

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Hi.

My best friend moved to Australia this year in April 2012. She had a thing with this guy over there but that didn't last long.

So about a month ago she told me she was dating someone else. She's 28 & the guy is 19. They started dated 17 November. (I only know the date cause of the facebook anniversary date thing) & on 20th December she messaged me saying he proposed and she said yes.

I'm not jealous or anything. I just think she's making a really big mistake. They've only been dating a month & also living together as her lease was ending at her other place. I don't know why she didn't just move back to her aunties house.

Do you think I should say something to her? I'm a bit scared to tell her how I feel cause I was abused by one guy I was dating last year & she was really supportive when I was going through a really rough time. I don't want her to rub that in my face.

We've fought over our relationships with guys before & now that she's marrying this one I think our friendship will end if I say something.

I told my two sisters that my friend got engaged as they know her too. The first thing they did was laugh & said "Is she pregnant?" "Does she want to live in Australia permanently?" & "She's weird, it's only been a month, what the heck."

I've known my friend since I was 15 in Year 10. I'm really stuck about this & don't know if I should say something to her or not.

Any advice would be good.

Thank you :)



From past experience, Leave the situation alone.

Sometimes people need to learn from their mistakes. By interfering with relationships is exactly the reason I lost my friend of 14 years.

You can express slight concerns but if she is against it then let it go.

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As a 22 year old male, I feel ashamed and embarrassed about myself. I don't believe that I have any friends, a hint of a personality, or any redeeming thing about me. I have been fortunate enough to come from a loving, upper-middle class home and have been given many opportunities that most people could only dream of, so it makes me feel even worse that, despite these fortunate circumstances, I am still talent-less, useless, and friendless. If I were to god-forbid pass away tomorrow, people (other than relatives) would only come to my funeral if they feel obligated, not because I had any true impact on anybody other than my family. I don't know how I can improve my personality when I don't believe that I have much of one, and I'm not sure how to make friends or connections when I don't feel that I have any interests or abilities. How do I make something out of nothing (personality, talents)?


I am 27, I don't have many friends either. This does not make you odd or unusual.

Judging from what you have written, You are smart and well educated. Not many people have the brains to sit here and word something as good as you just did. So, talent-less? I would say not.

On another note, If I could I would be glad too be your friend. You seem like the kind of guy who is easy too talk too. Sometimes in order to make these friends we have to be the ones to make the first approach. I am one of those people, I am extremely shy until someone starts too talk to me. We all have something we are good at, we just have to search for it. ;)

Want to talk more? Email me

One.last.breath.for.2013@Gmail.com


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My brother and I don't always get along, but when we do, we're good friends. As siblings will do, we pick on each other all the time. I usually laugh his comments off, they don't bother me, but if I say anything to him, he flies into a rage, and starts attacking me. And occasionally he may have no reason to attack me, but he does anyway. When we were younger it was okay, because even though I'm a girl, I was always taller than him, but now he's put up weight and is at least twice as strong as I am. I have often received injuries from him; a cut all along my hairline when he banged my head against a door frame, a bruise on my upper-abdomen when he kicked me in the stomach, a bruise on my ear, bite marks on my legs, he knocked one of my baby teeth out when we were kids, amongst many other things.
I have told my parents about it, but my brother has always been the golden boy. They say that I probably provoked him. If I call the cops, I will be the one to get in trouble, so I don't think I can do that... To be honest, I'm not worried about myself, I'll be going to college next year and I'll see a lot less of him. However, I am worried that he will treat other women the way he has treated me all my life. How do I make him see how dangerous his behaviour is? (Please note that I've broached this topic with him before, but it only made the abuse worse.)



It is never okay to abuse someone even if your kids. If your brother is putting you in danger them you need to withdraw yourself from him and cut him out. Take pictures of the abuse and report him to the police. Grab a restraining order against him and change your way of contact.

You may not like or want too hear it but its the truth. He is an asshole

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I met this girl and really liked her, but held back telling her for a few months. I finally summoned the courage to ask her out. She said yes and we went to the circus. Then I asked her out again and we went for ice cream. I had a really great time and told her, but played it cool for a couple weeks. I didn't want to come on too strong. Then, I hear she decided to go back to her jerk of a ex. A few weeks went by and then she broke it off with her ex again. So I started talking to her again and then wrote her a poem which she told me she really liked. A week later I asked her out again. She said yes, but on the day of said she couldn't go - I found out later she was talking to her ex again. A couple weeks later, she says it's definitely over between her and her ex. I had been wanting to tell her for about 6 months that I really liked her, but I told myself to be patient - she needs time to get over this jerk of an ex. Two weeks later, she had gone back to college and we were communicating by phone. Then I heard from mutual friends that she is talking to her ex again and I couldn't take it. I got worried I had waited too long. So I made an unannounced visit to see her - about two hours away. Everyone said it would be sweet and that I should go for it. I arrived, saw her car in the parking lot, parked next to her car and asked myself if I was doing the right thing. Two girls walked by and I asked them what to do. They said I should tell her how I feel, she's just confused. After waiting for 30 minutes, I thought to leave, but then she showed up. She smiled and hugged me when I greeted her and told me she'd meet me after classes. I said okay and cleared my day. When her classes were over, she said she had appointments. I asked her to be honest, so she said that her boyfriend wouldn't like it if she was hanging out with me. I said okay, I respect her decision, but thought it was wrong. I told her I want her to be happy and that I didn't like it when her boyfriend would make her cry. I told her I think she deserves infinitely better and that the guy that wants what she wants is right under her nose. She told me, this time her boyfriend really IS going to change. I told her she's really important to me and that I'd like to get to know her much better. I said all this as I walked her to her dorm. We got to the door, I asked for a hug, she reached for me and I picked her up. I put her down, but still held her - our heads came together and she was smiling so I looked her in the eye and asked her to reconsider - to at least think about it. She promised she would. I gave her a kiss on the cheek and she smiled. Then I left, but when I got home I received a text that she doesn't want to have any contact with me anymore. Then her parents called and yelled at me that I'm a stalker and they're calling the police, that she's too young to be interested in me (she's 20, I'm 26). According to her father, she only hugged me because she was scared of what else I'd do to her. I calmly said I'm sorry you feel that way to them. Nothing happened since. A week later, she broke up with her ex - for good this time according to people I spoke to. Her friend called me twice since then, but I ignored the messages. I heard her voice on another voice message, but I deleted it. She said she didn't want to talk to me, so I've not contacted her in any way because I respect her. It hurts because I'd like to be with her no matter what, but I don't know what to do. I can't believe everything blew up in my face the way it did. It's clear my timing was worse than bad. Has anyone been in a similar situation? The only thing I'm doing is living, praying that if I give it time everything will work out. Let me know if you think I should do anything else, and what. Thanks.



She is hung up on old baggage. Not only did she back stab you more then once but she is not being honest with you or how she feels. In a blunt honesty, she is immature drama and you are wasting your time with her. If she was into you then she would of stuck with you. Truth be told the younger generation is immature. You want a real relationship then you need to leave her alone and move the hell on.

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My friend committed suicide almost two years ago and I still feel guilty. I am in my senior year of college and I do not want to graduate and I feel guilty whenever I do anything enjoyable that she did not get to do (she died in the middle of her senior year). I feel like I am partly responsible for her death and I do not want to do the things she couldn't. I do not think she would be angry with me now but I still cannot get past the feeling of being partially responsible for what happened. I miss her terribly and I feel like I have not really made any progress in grieving for her, and I'm not sure what to do from here because at this point I feel stuck. Any ideas or support will be helpful because I feel really alone in this, so thank you in advance for your response.




You need to move on with your life, One thing your friend would of wanted was for you to live life to the fullest. Grieving is normal yes, but you should not let it stop you from living. Life your life for your friend and live it for you. Go on and do new things, Enjoy it. It is what she would of wanted you to do.

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DO NOT READ PAST THIS POINT IF YOU ARE UNDER 16 PLEASE . I Wanted to know if i'm the only one who has 1.been caught having sex and 2. been embarassed then looked back and found it funny.
So me and my boyfriend went on a romantic stroll and sit on the beach,time passed and we eventually had sex. I hear somebody on the phone saying something like ″Dude this guy is doggy stylin this sexy chick, get down here″ i think nothing of it. surely i miss heard him, right? My BF then goess ″i dont remember streetlights round here″ i look up properly and find out we were infront of some blokes house. Theres now roughly 10 audiance members on the bank cheering. we grab our clothes and run like shit!!
come oon, share your stories!! Tasha



What exactly is your question...?

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Hi, i'm Meg, i am 13 and LOVE writing. This is a poem i wrote for a loved one,tell me what you think please.

The darkness attacks at the mention of your name
The ache in my heart strikes once again
I remember the times we would sing and dance
Then not saying 'I love you' one last chance

will you think of me wherever you are?
Pillow fights,cuddles,air guitar?
I need you,please come back from our part
Take the pieces and fix my heart.

You went to early we were unprepared
It left us sad,full of sorrow and scared.
He lies here now as cute as a lamb
The grandchild you never met, You'de be proud of him Nan.


RIP Nan. I'll never stop loving you,your the wind beneath my wings. xx



Very nice, very detailed.

This poem is worded nicely. Once the grammar is fixed a bit you should consider posting it in Obituaries in the local paper.

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what age did you lose your virginity and how should I be. Don't worry I am not an judge mental person.I am a female and 12 about to be 13 on may 21.



I was 17 and glad I waited until that age! 13 is way to young.

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I have a woman who says she still loves me and i still love her but she doesn't if she wants to take a chance with and in 3 years i die from illness. I haven't even told her that i have severe ED. Please help if you can! I am a 47 y/o man she is a 38y/o woman.



I am not sure if you mean erectile dysfunction but why would that stop you from being with someone? What exactly did you mean when you said sick? Either way, Nothing should ever keep someone from wanting too be with someone. If erectile dysfunction is a problem this can be fixed by seeing a doctor. If you love and she makes you happy then be with her. The only regret is you never took a chance if you walk away.

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What do you do when you're in love with someone so much that you you don't ever want to loose them. When you know they can be happier with someone else but they choose you. But when they choose you they choose you with tears in thier eyes. Because they know they could of been happier with someone else but they still choose you. And then you feel as of the whole world has fallen on top of you. Because he chose you with tears in his eyes and not joy. But that person tells you they love you. and you feel as if it's true. That person tells you they will change even tho they have told you that since the beggining. Even tho you've been together for over a year. But yet you still belive them. Even tho they been cheating on you since the start, more then once with multiple different people. Where they got to the point of even having sex. But you still see threw all those flaws and mistakes because you love them. What do you do, when they've hurt you so much even tho you don't deserve it, because you've been faithful to them since the start, because you know you've tried your hardest.. What do you do? Do you let them go to be with someone else.. or do you belive they will change and hopefully start fresh? :'( please help... I'm 17 years old female


Once a cheater, Always a cheater. If you take him back you are allowing them to use you and telling them its okay when its not. You need to move on and withdraw yourself from him. As long as you remain in contact you are making it much harder then it has to be. There is NO excuse for cheating. Also, he has done it multiple times which makes it even worse. Do not show him your vulnerable, stand up on your own two feet and walk away. He blew his chances and you should know it by now. Be stronger then that

As long as you show him you are weak then he is going to take advantage of that and taking him back is weak. He cheated, he knew it was wrong and kept doing it. Was he thinking about you then? No. So exactly why are you taking his feelings into consideration? No way, Run for the hills and don't look back.

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The subject says it all. We have a good relationship otherwise and I do not wish to make a devisive issue out of it, but what is a Christion man to do in this case?



This is s bit difficult to answer.

How old are you and your wife? Do you or your wife take any medication? Have any health issues such as depression? Etc.

Until I know more information the only thing I can tell you is to try marriage counseling.

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Heres a poem that i wrote tips and advice feedback are all welcome.Do you know any good sites for this?

Two cold hands cover my eyes
I hide from the world
Pain overwhelms me
but at least I can feel
If it all ends soon
I think I'd be fine
You seemed to be deaf to my shreiks of agony
But you hear me now?
Mever so alone here
One more cut
deep and clean and I'm done.
No more cold
pain
shame
ugly
worry
agony
hiding
blood
yes with this one cut---
I end it all.



This poem is well written but a bit concerning.

I have been writing for 18+ years, This poem speaks of someone who is depressed.

On another note, well written and heart felt. I really like two cold hands cover my eyes' Very detailed.

Well done

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So me and my boyfriend had sex he had a condom on when we first started doing it but after words he kept saying I need to take a shower and make sure I clean out down there I keep asking why and he just said that he may cummed touched me with it ... I had gotten my pireod the next day so I think I'm in the clear am I??? Still confused because a few days later he had gotten mad at me and said he took the condom off and cummed in me but I got my period!!!... I can't be pregnant right???.... I need some guidance



Listen, It takes more then a day to detect a pregnancy. Yes, there is always a chance. Also, if the test does come out negative (which should be taken 7-14 days after sex) please smarten up and educate yourself.

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i love to boys one of them is a old friend of mine nd he loves nd cares for me the other one i know goes to my school im attending know he just likes me to get head if u know what i mean i love them both but the second one we went out before but were just know i think sex buddies can you please give me advice i need asstiance.... i am a famale 19 yrs old



I would start fresh if you are looking for a real relationship. The friends with benefits guy probably will not work because you both have a history of being fuck buddies with boundaries. Therefore, Try someone fresh out of the sea.

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Well okay.. i was dating this guy 4 over a year. V belonged 2 different religions 2 begin with.. and he had lots of other issues. I thought i was in love and i was blind 2 some extent.. But he was into me madly. When things weren't working I tried 2 ditch him which resulted in him cutting himself.. I met another guy.. fell actually in love and moved on.. But his mom died and i left him within 6 months of that mishap. Somewhere down i feel guilty as he is still no over me. Should I apologize ?? :(


Apologize for what? You two are no longer together and if you are with someone else then you need to focus on your current relationship. You owe him nothing

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