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Hello! I am studying esthetics at an Aveda Institute after spending years in retail. I am proof that nothing turns out how you think it will, and that's a good thing. When you think you've got it figured out, you don't. Life would be boring otherwise, right?
Makeup, skincare, and psychology are my passions and I'm also happy to give advice on relationships, particularly for teenagers (so many things I wish I could have told myself a decade ago!) I'm happy to help fellow abuse survivors as well.
I'm a diehard SF Giants fan and also enjoy watching the Sharks and Niners. Addicted to music, especially The Gaslight Anthem. Oh, and my name is Krista. :)

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Tonight my mom saw me trying to scratch my back. I had a terrible itch. She came over and scatched the itch on my back for me. And in a teasing voice said: ech, you are so bony; Should I be upset or just ignore it. She said it a kidding way.

Ignore it.

Can anybody speak a fluent language other than spanish and english?! I need some help...

Yes, I am fluent in french.

Drop one in my inbox or email me- tinkerbell_7141@msn.com .

STORY: Rebecca was with her mom and her mom said; Rebecca you are very thin, I am concerned, I dont want you to lose weight;.
Rebecca then asked her mom; Why do you think I should gain weight?; And her mother said; No I dont think you should gain I just
think you should not lose;. The next day Rebecca told her friends the story and asked her friends is my mom saying I am to thin; and
her friends said; No she is not. All she is saying is that you are very thin and she does not want you to lose any weight and she EVEN
TOLD YOU SHE DOES NOT THINK YOU HAVE TO GAIN WEIGHT. MY QUESTION: DO YOU AGREE/CONCUR WITH REBECCAS
FRIENDS

Rebecca's mom is saying that she is perfect the way that she is- a huge compliment.

I agree with Rebecca's friends.

Ok i am a 15 year old male and ive known this girl for a bout 3 years and she is my nehibor me and her always hang out and she is totally hott and i like her more than ive liked any one beforebut should i tell her and maybe ruine our friendship and if so how should i tell her?

It depends on a lot of things.
First of all, how does she act towards you- flirty or indifferent? Do you guys only hang out with a group or do you go places just the two of you? Signs a girl might like you:
- Touching you or (if she's shy) pulling away from you
- Mimicking your body language (if you rest your head on your hand, she does too)
- Overly interested in who you like
- Doesn't talk about "girl stuff" (shaving, periods, etc)
-Laughs at your jokes, even when no one else does

Talk to her friends about it (make them promise not to tell!). Ask them what they think she'd do if you told her. Generally telling her you like her won't do anything. Ask her out. If you're unsure, maybe a group or double date. If you think she might like you, ask her to the movies or do. Be polite and DON'T tell her you think she's hot. Girls want guys to like them for reasons other than looks. She will probably hint if she doesn't like you, i.e. repeatedly turning down invitations, mentioning guys she likes, etc.

Good luck!

I've noticed that I hardly get excited over anything,nothing seems all that interesting,and it's pretty much IMPOSSIBLE for me to cry.How can I sort this out.Maybe find something that I'm passionate about,show some character,be something besides a total robot.

I want to go through all of my options before I see a doctor or something.

I used to be the same way, I just had to force myself to care. It sounds stupid, but it works. Like in school, I'd "compete" to get a higher test grade than my friend (without telling them obviously)- it was the only way I could make myself care. Get out of the house a lot, do things, go for walks, hang out with people you LIKE. Try some different hobbies and see if you find something you love. For me, reading a really sad book about the Holocaust made me realize how boring, self-centered, and obnoxious I was being by only caring about what I wanted. For you, it might be something really dramatic happening- you never know. If you're a teen, it's probably just a phase you can get yourself out of with some effort.

i had an alergic reaction to veet rasera.

it looks like i took a red ballpoint pin and drew dots all over my legs. its been there for 3 days and i can tell that they are tiny scabs.

what should i do about getting them to go away sooner and not leave scars?

if you need pictures let me know.

Take some kind of OTC medicine, like Benadryl, or apply Benadryl gel. Maybe use some hydrogen peroxide, but only do a little bit at first and see if it hurts.

Don't pick at it, shave, or use any kind of product, even soap, on your legs and it should go away fairly quickly.

16/F.
Alright, I like this boy but I'm not sure if he likes me. I asked him to my prom & he said yes. & all his friends were like "yeah are you gonna hook up with him" and stuff like that. & we would talk all the time and we'd flirt and whatnot. But for the past few days we haven't talked that much. His friends tell me that he's just shy when it comes to girls. They say that he's shy when it comes to girls that he likes.
I think he might of found out that I liked him from one of his friends & I don't know if that could be the reason why we haven't talked that much?

I'm sorry if this is confusing & not really understandable, if you get what I mean.
I'd really appreciate it if you could help me.

Guys are a lot less complex than girls. If he said yes for prom, then he likes you at least a little bit. Since you asked him to prom, he knows you like him. Chances are that he is shy, not ignoring you. You're going to have to take action on this one. Invite him somewhere with a group of friends (not just girls) or talk to him about prom- how you're getting there, will your outfits match, what you're doing afterwards. Talk to him and he should talk to you. Try not to stress about it, chances are he hasn't even thought that you might be slightly freaking out (lol).

I had a friend, last year. We were pretty close. Now it's like this year we've done a lot of fighting. He'll hit me with a horse whip or try to push me out a window, and I'll respond the same way. I've tried ignoring him, though I want us to be friends agein, I;ve tried talking to him, not reacting, being nice, nothing works, could you help me? I really want my friend back. But then sometime he can be so sweet, he's bi-polar and his medication makes him depressed so he dosn't take it, I don't know what I did to him, but I want things to be like they used to be. We go to a boarding school, so I can't get away from him, everywhere I go (But the girls dorm) it seems like he's always there. So I want to know, how can I refill our gap?

Much love
Willow.

Have someone with you when at all possible if you know he's going to be somewhere. If you honestly feel like he could majorly hurt you, pepper spray. Sounds extreme but do what you have to. Slowly stop making plans with him, etc- don't ignore him, just act nonchalant (like you don't care- completely monotone). This is a really dangerous situation that you need to get out of ASAP regardless of how "sweet" he can be. He sounds very manipulative and obviously needs better help than what he's getting. If you feel like you should, tell someone, whether it's a strong (preferably male) friend who will help protect you or your school's counselor.Things will not be the way they used to be, most likely ever. You're going to get majorly physically and emotionally hurt unless you do something.

does anybody know any good summer songs that have really good lyrics and also are just good songs? thanks so muchhhh!

Don't know what kind of music you like. Here's popular music, if you like some other genre let me know in your feedback.
Summer Love- Justin Timberlake
Summer Girl- Smashmouth

That's all I can think of right now, but I'll post if I think of more.

I was babysitting this ten year old... he was bein a brat and wouldnt go to sleep... my girlfriend was there and we couldnt have any time alone... so we had coke n we did it cause we were gonna have to stay up to watch him... he said he wanted to try so we let him... he started running around and actin like an indian... we got a pipe and some pot and smoked... he wanted to try but when he did he coughed n said he didnt want to do it... i told him if he didnt he would die... so we smoked 3 bowls with him and he got sleepy and went to bed... I feel bad that i gave this kid drugs... His parents never found out... what should i do???

Keeping in mind that I'm not in any way antidrug...

First of all, I highly recommend not babysitting again, at least for a while. No offense, but you're obviously not responsible and/or capable of taking care of the kid. Rule one of babysitting is not to hang out friends/girlfriends, it's distracting. And you need to be alert and take care of the kid. There has to be a better way for you to make money...

Coke can kill people the first time they use it (yes, it's actually true). What if you had killed the kid? When (it's not "if") his parents find out, you're gonna be in a ton of trouble. Like I said, you really shouldn't be babysitting, but next time, try reading him a story or sitting with him until he falls asleep.

Really hoping this is a joke question, if not...well...just try not to get caught.

13/f

everytime i try to remember an important date, I end up forgetting, like my orchestra lessons, I miss them and now my score has gone down to a B and i'm scared Ms. H might pull me out of the class. How do you remember things?

Write it down. Buy a calendar book/planner/organizer/whatever you wanna call it. Every day go over events, major projects/tests, etc and WRITE IT DOWN. It actually takes a very short amount of time and it's worth it. Get into the habit of checking your planner every day.

If your cell phone has a calendar or alarm system, that works too.

hi! i'm the girl who asked about the field trip to the amusement park and what to wear. and i loved your advice and i felt like you were the only person who actually took the time to come up with some good advice. so i have just one more question.

now the weather changed and it is suppose to be like 70 degrees but rainy all day. and i'm afraid i'll be cold in shorts and a tshirt. so what other options do i have?

thanks soooo much!!

Thanks! It depends on where you live- if it's going to be cold rain, wear jeans, a tee, and a hoodie- layer so you can take things off. Warm rain, wear a tee, hoodie, and denim skirt. Bring an umbrella if you need to, but chances are you will be getting wet anyway. Who knows, maybe it won't rain after all.

I need revenge. what kind of revenge can i do if my boyfriend is talking to another girl? whats something to make him jealous? whats the best way to make him jealous? answer all those questions please!

Honestly, that's not how guys work. Wear something cute, be confident, that's about all you can do. Any other kind of revenge would just make him angry and possibly break up with you.

Why shouldn't he talk to other girls? You talk to other guys, don't you? Chances are they are just friends, and there's nothing wrong with that. Guys with friends who are girls tend to be better at communicating, etc.

If you really feel it's a problem, tell him. Not, "I feel jealous" but maybe something to the equivalent of "who's she?". If you need to, tell him you feel strange about his spending some much time with girls. But don't bother trying to make him jealous because it will not work.

15/f. for school we are going on a field trip and after we are going to an amusement park. for the amusement park everybody wears their bathing suit with clothes over it for the water park/log fume rides. and we have to pick groups with 5 people in them and the guy i like is in my group!

my question is what should i wear for this trip? i'm already wearing my new plaid bathing bikini. but what should i wear over it to make it look cute but not slutty? lol. like i can't just wear a cami.

oh and what should i use to carry my money & cell phone in? or should i wear jean shorts?

thanks!

Wear a jean miniskirt with pockets and a cute cami/tank/tee with flip flops. Hair wavy (if it's that way naturally, otherwise don't bother).

Don't bring a bag/purse because you'll have nowhere to leave it while you're on the rides, and it'll probably get stolen (my school went on a similar trip and that happened to a LOT of people). If you need to, bring a paper or plastic grocery bag with a towel and sunscreen (don't get burned). Don't bring your cell unless you absolutely have to, because it'll either get wet, or dropped, or something.

This is your major chance to impress him. Don't show off or anything, but take advantage of any chance to laugh with him, flirt, etc. Have fun!

for my project in school i'm doing a report on france, and we have to bring in food from our coutry to feed about 35 kids in the class and i have no idea what to bring! i already tried google but i didn't find anything, i was thinking french fries but i don't think those are really french lol.. does anyone know any simple and easy recipies to make from france? THANK YOU TONS!!

You can try to make a Buche de Noelle or bread, but it might take a while.

I'd recommend buying something. French foods sold in American stores:
- Orangina
- Baguettes
- Cheese/fondue
- Mineral water
- Croissants
- Madeleines
- Nutella
And those cookies that look like tubes, I can't remember what they're called.

STORY: This week Tania (the head of our department) is on vacation and everyone is more relaxed and doing their job much better. Yesterday Patricia (Tania's boss) came to our department for two meetings which was held in our conference room. Today on the telephone Patricia called our Assistant Manager and asked how things are going and our Assistant Manager said great. Patricia said that she noticed everything was going great when Patricia was visiting our department yesterday. KEEP IN MIND THAT right before Tania went on vacation I had to witness a conversation between Kathy, Tania and Patricia and Patricia said nice things about Tania in front of Kathy and myself. But ever since Tania came to head our department she has caused nothing but friction. MY QUESTION: Do you think Patricia realizes that Tania is a hindrance to our department and Patricia is going to replace her. (I found out from a coworker that Tania has been placed in a few other departments before coming to ours. Do you think that Patricia only said nice things about Tania in front of me as well as Kathy in the conversation I had to witness between Kathy,Tania and Patricia because she does not want to say nasty things about Tania in front of us in case she is in the process of replacing Tania)

Honestly, I think you should stay out of it.

Patricia probably does not want to criticize her employees in front of other employees, it's very unprofessional.
I think you'd know if she was in the process of replacing Tania. Unless Tania has done something really wrong (not just causing friction) chances are she will not be replaced.

Yesterday at work I was in the breakroom with Laurie, Torry, and Andy. Laurie says to me Nancy is supposed to meet Laurie and if I see Nancy I should tell her that Laurie will be finished with lunch in about 20 minutes. Also Laurie said Nancy looked like me and talked like me. When I saw Nancy I was a little bit insulted because Nancy is pretty and not pretty. Nancy had short cropped hair and black glasses that pointed at the side. Later on I was talking to Laurie and Laurie looked at me and said;you know you are better looking then Nancy and younger looking. Then last night I had to call Laurie to remind her of her appointment today and innocently asked; What did you say I looked like Nancy or I dont; and Laurie said; You are better looking and younger looking then Nancy. KEEP IN MIND I WAS TOLD BY PEOPLE THAT I COULD BE A COVER GIRL AND SARA (A COWORKER) TOLD ME ON THURSDAY THAT I AM PRETTY. MY QUESTION:SHOULD I BE INSULTED BY LAURIES ORIGINAL COMMENT THAT I LOOK LIKE NANCY; AND SHOULD I BE REASSURED THAT I DONT LOOK LIKE NANCY AFTER LAURIE TOLD ME I AM BETTER LOOKING AND YOUNGER LOOKING AND HOW WOULD YOU INTERPRET THE ENTIRE CONVERSATION.

First of all, I agree with Nallie. Competition is not healthy. It does NOT matter whether or not you are prettier/younger-looking than Nancy because everyone is pretty in their own way.
Stop fishing for compliments when talking to people, that tends to irrite nearly everyone.

It's fairly obvious you're exaggerating so next time please tell the entire story- I happen to know that you are not young. Believe Laurie, she said it twice, she wouldn't have done that if she didn't mean it.

Just so you know, writing in all capital letters is considered to be "shouting" online and makes the site look ugly in addition to annoying people. Please try to avoid using whole capital sentences if possible. And keep in mind that the more you post these questions, the less people answer.

Yesterday (Saturday) my mom and I were talking about clothes. I said to her; Do you remember when you said to me that you thought I lost weight because my beige pants looked big on me; she said; well they did look big; I then said; what about the white pants I am wearing today; and she said; they look fine; which made me say; well I feel that every time I wear a pair of pants you are or will be thinking they look big; and she said; That is in your mind, I would have told you if I thought your pants look big - again it is in your mind; AND again today I asked her about the blue pants I am wearing and she said they look fine. SO MY QUESTION: IF YOU WERE ME WOULD YOU FINALLY ACCEPT THE FACT IT WAS JUST THE BEIGE PANTS THAT DAY THAT MADE HER THINK THAT. AND HOW DO I FORGET (NOT DWELL) ABOUT THE COMMENT SHE MADE ABOUT THE BEIGE PANTS"

All of your pants fit you differently.

The beige ones are the only ones your mom thinks are big. She is an honest person, she would have mentioned it if she thought all of your pants look big.

If you can't forget about it by yourself, I'm afraid there's really nothing anyone can say (other than a counselor/psychiatrist/psychologist) that can help you. You need to deal with this yourself.

FIRST PART: Ok I joined an online dating service and I was emailing one of the guys who wanted to know about me and what I looked like. My mom said tell him you are tall and slim. I said to her why did you say slim and not thin because I am thin. She replied because it sound sexier. I got a little upset that she said slim because she always tells me I am thin/skinny. She said slim means thin but sounds sexier. MY QUESTION: AM I OVERREACTING AND WHAT DO YOU THINK OF WHAT SHE SAID? SECOND PART: Today at work I had to call my mom. During the course of the phone conversation I asked her about slim and thin. I said to her that I was surprised she said slim because she always tells me I am thin. And she said you are - you are even skinny, but slim sounds nicer. She said; if someone is a bleached blonde you would not say bleached blonde because it isnt nice so you would say blonde. It is the same with thin, instead of saying thin you would say slim. Well then tonight I asked her again and she said the following; (1) at the beginning of tonights conversation - you wouldnt put thin on the online dating service because thin sounds anorexic; (2) towards the end of the conversation - what is the difference between thin and slim. MY QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU MAKE OF WHAT TRANSPIRED ABOVE?

Your mom is right, as always.

It's all about connations.
For example, soft sounds positive.
Mushy sounds negative.
Same concept. "Thin" has negative connations and makes people think super-skinny (NOT a good thing). Guys like girls who are in shape with a few curves. Slim just sounds better.

Slim does mean the same thing as thin but it sounds nicer.

I saw a question about how to get guys to notice a girl at lets say a mall(asked by a girl), and i was wondering how to get girls to notice me in a public place. say like a mall for instance. and if i feel that i should approach a girl, what is a good way to get into a conversation and not make a fool of myself ?

im 16/m by the way(17 in june)

Wear clothes that look good on you- no drowning in a huge shirt and baggy jeans. (moderately baggy is okay)

Be confident, smile. Try to catch a girl's eye, smile at her.

Just in general, girls like it when guys approach them. That gives you automatic brownie points. :)

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