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Yesterday at work I was in the breakroom with Laurie, Torry, and Andy. Laurie says to me Nancy is supposed to meet Laurie and if I see Nancy I should tell her that Laurie will be finished with lunch in about 20 minutes. Also Laurie said Nancy looked like me and talked like me. When I saw Nancy I was a little bit insulted because Nancy is pretty and not pretty. Nancy had short cropped hair and black glasses that pointed at the side. Later on I was talking to Laurie and Laurie looked at me and said;you know you are better looking then Nancy and younger looking. Then last night I had to call Laurie to remind her of her appointment today and innocently asked; What did you say I looked like Nancy or I dont; and Laurie said; You are better looking and younger looking then Nancy. KEEP IN MIND I WAS TOLD BY PEOPLE THAT I COULD BE A COVER GIRL AND SARA (A COWORKER) TOLD ME ON THURSDAY THAT I AM PRETTY. MY QUESTION:SHOULD I BE INSULTED BY LAURIES ORIGINAL COMMENT THAT I LOOK LIKE NANCY; AND SHOULD I BE REASSURED THAT I DONT LOOK LIKE NANCY AFTER LAURIE TOLD ME I AM BETTER LOOKING AND YOUNGER LOOKING AND HOW WOULD YOU INTERPRET THE ENTIRE CONVERSATION.
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First of all, I agree with Nallie. Competition is not healthy. It does NOT matter whether or not you are prettier/younger-looking than Nancy because everyone is pretty in their own way.
Stop fishing for compliments when talking to people, that tends to irrite nearly everyone.
It's fairly obvious you're exaggerating so next time please tell the entire story- I happen to know that you are not young. Believe Laurie, she said it twice, she wouldn't have done that if she didn't mean it.
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While it is normal to be competitive in the workplace, it's not a good thing to compare your self to others by the way they look. It seems insulting to one person or the other, and is games that Jr. High students play in the cafeteria at lunch. My interpretation is, you shouldn't worry about it, don't bring it up again and just be happy with yourself and accept others as they are.
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it really depends on how they said it. but it seems that your selfasteam is a little bit low. i would take that as a complement. it feels good to get a complement but what really matters is what you think about your self. but i would interpret that conversation as just a normal conversation not really a big deal.
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I personally wouldn't interpret it at all. You're reading far too much into appearances and passing remarks.
It's really not that big of an issue! There's no point in creating drama where there shouldn't be any.
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