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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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I've already asked a similar question to this one before, and recieved an answer. Just incase you haven't seen my previous question, here's my problem:There's this boy at my school who's always flirting with me and touching me affectionately. The problem is he has a girlfriend, yet he keeps flirting with me as if he doesn't. I really don't have time to be getting into any fights this year, so i try to show him that i'm not interested through body language. I know I should just tell him straight up that i don't want him, but i still kinda do. I just don't want to show him my feelings so he'll leave me alone and I won't have to deal with his girlfriend.(even though i would kick her ass!) Like i said before in my previous question, it's getting REALLY hard not to let him know that I like him, so PLEASE HELP!!!
*Angel*
This guy isn't good enough for any girl so instead of letting him touch you, go to his girlfriend and tell her that he's been hitting on you and you've been trying to get him to stop through body language and he isn't listening.
Or just tell this guy to stop and to not touch you in any way shape or form. If he disrespects that and keep on continuing, go to the counslor for harrassment.
ok i need quick finger desserts for around 30 teenagers by tommorow night and i dont know what to do. help please
Get donuts, brownies, cookies, cake (cut into pieces) or get fries, chicken nuggets, fruits, veggies, chips, crackers, and don't forget sodas!!
Heyy, my name is Kathleen and i am 14 and im from Canada. i have a botfriend and i love him a lot but, my EX boyfriend Spencer wants me back, in september he had cheted on me and i dumped hima nd moved on but now he has changed, he keeps telling me that he wants me and taht he has his mind set on who he wants to be with. he says that his life ain't the same without me in it. I love my bf alot more then anything but the feeling for my EX are still there loud and clear and wont go away.ill just me in my bed and all the memories will playback into my head, and how happy i was abck then. and i am happy now but i dont know who i shopuld be with, can you please help me
Thankz ; Kathleen Marie,Canada
Woah, my dear you're only 14..you don't love either of them. It may be a huge crush or liking of them but not love
Anyways, your ex...forget about it. There's not point in lingering on and on about someone who stole your trust and threw it away. Anyone--guys and girls--who cheat will cheat again and they're not gonna change that. They could but most likely not. If you want to go through that heartache and anger again, be my guest to go back to Spencer but you really shouldnt. He will lie and cheat on you AGAIN. He's just saying all those overdramatic stuff just to get you back. He may just be really jealous that you're having a happy relationship with some other guy. Bottom line: DITCH spencer. Stay friends with him. Enjoy the time you have RIGHT NOW with your CURRENT boyfriend. If you linger on someone who decieved you while you have a great boyfriend ... that is just so wrong on different levels.
I’m sitting here
Watching everyone
Everyone walk hand and hand
Walking with their girlfriends
Walking with their boyfriends
Thinking and wondering why don’t I have that?
Missing being in a relationship
Thinking it’s a bad thing
Thinking its bad that I want a boyfriend
So I don’t try to find one
When something happens good
I don’t except it
I say to myself
This isn’t right
Boys don’t go out with boys
Why do I want this?
Why do I need this?
It’s killing me not having someone
Someone to walk hand and hand
Then I wont be the kid sitting there
Saying why don’t I have this
It's fine to feel or be bi. I am and so is Lena and Betsy and Cole and Kyler. So you're not alone. I mean if you're a very strong Christian or something..w.ell that may just conflict with your religion.
But really, from what I think you're stilla teenager and we have our hormones and emotions running all over the place. It could just be a phase you're going through or a real thing and either of them is perfectly fine.
Nice poem though. IM me if you want--brokenxchaosx
Hi, i am 14 and my boyfriend and i have een thinking about having sex for the 1st time. i really want to becasue i have done shit him, and we tink that it would be fun to have sex, should we or should we not?
Fun to have sex? My dear, you're a teenager and so is your boyfriend. Hormones are running wild all over the place. Rethink about this carefully.
You could easily get STDs (And don't argue that he doesn't have any because he could from his dad or his mom's genes, and etc. Even if he is a virgin, he could have an STD unknown to him) Or get pregnant--condoms break all the time and even if he pulls out before he comes, pre cum is enough to get your pregnany.
You're only 14 and if you are fine with having a baby or STD when you're 14, fine with me. I mean you're going to bear all the burdens of a bad outcome yet he will just go find himself another girl. Wait until you find someone that you truely love and yes, that means after the age of at least 17.
thanks! and yes, my friend and the guy she likes will be there. but they both know i like this guy. and i think the other guy might tell him that i like him, but we've never met. so he will go into it knowing i like him...which might be uncomfortable for him. so id ont want to be too flirtacious you know, plus it might be embarassing since my friend and her guy know i like him and will be watching. but what kind of activities would be not awk? a movie might be..
Movies, bowling, laser tag, hanging out at someones house and just watch a movie, play basketball or some kind of sport, go to the mall and just hang out there, go to an ice skating rink?
Just be yourself and don't get too tense because if you tense up, that's going to result in awkwardness so if you get the vibe that this guy is bored or think you're a little weird, tone up or down a bit depending on your judgement of this guy =]
ok so there is a guy that i think is really cute, but i've never met him before. well anyway, my friend's bf is good friends w/ him so she said that us four can all hang out so i can meet him and stuff and they want to hook us up. but i've never met him (just been around him) but i think hes really cute. would that situation be uncomfortable for me or awkward? i know it prob will be but what are some wasy to make it less awkward? or should i just not to do it at all...i know backing out is not the answer but what are some things that'd be fun and how should i act? ive never gone on anything like this!!!!
Okay, well first, inhale..exhale. haha. You need to just relax. You're over analyzing this situation and trying to be too prepared for it.
You should act like yourself because you want this guy to like you for you and not some fake image you put up. So just act like yourself, be a little flirty. And since your friends are going to be there (from what I understand) it woulnd't be so awkward but make sure that you don't cling to your friends too much. Talk to this guy and get to know him better. ask what kind of music he likes or what kind of stuff he likes to do. Anyways, just be yourself, be flirty, make some jokes, and don't be too gloomy over petty things.. Have fun and good luck!
hey girls again....13/f...."canadian"...i kinda have a crush on this guy...hes really good-looking but i dont know how to start a converstaion! Hes been in my school for 2 years and ive seen him around everywhere so it would be really weird if i just went up to him and said "hi, whats your name?"...im not the shy type i just dont know how to start a converstaion with him! also,im not really friends with any of his friends, just one of my good friends SOMETIMES hangs out with him...how should i start the convo?? thanks soo much
Well a good ice breaker is to have your friend have him hang out with you two. That's a great way to start a friendship. If that's not quite possible, just casually go by him and say "Hey, haven't I seen you around before?" or something like that. Just say hey the next time you see him and then eventually say more than 5 sentences. Wheny ou do, get his SN online and talk to him there...the topics? It's limitless. Anyways, just set a goal to get his sn by the end of this week or so.
okay so, i really like this girl, weve been frinds for a long time, and i asked her out, she said no, but as time progressed, she strted to like me, but u see the thing is she wont go out with me cuz of her mom or her religion (its one of those) so my question is is ther a way we can go out with each other?(we dont want to lie to hermom, and shees really into her religion) by the way shhes a jehovahs witness so if there are any jw's able to give and indide point of view, it wud help ALOT. thanks
You can (even if you don't want to ) talk to her mom about it. Tell her that you're not trying to change her religion or stain it or anything. You really like her and you wish she'd allow you guys to. Personally I'd just lie to my mom...haha but that's me. There really is no way if this girl is not going to lie to her parents. The only way is if you be eloquent with your speech and talk to her mom about it.
like topics and stuff to start a convo
Say
Hey, whats up?
Whats up
Hellos
Just your regular greetings. Talk about on aim what you'd talk about in school. Don't over think it. Let it come naturally to you and you should be fine.
Ask about music, art, literature, or if you like to debate and are articulate when it comes to polictics, government, society, religion and stuff like that like me then talk about it.
I've got everything done but I can't find anything about the various etiquettes for eating. What manners they have..
I googled it and I couldn't get anything.
I know they eat with their hands but what else? I need a paragraph.
I'm not 100% sure if Romans and Greeks had same dining customs but it should be similar.
There was a special room for eating. The men would recline on one side while the women sat on a chair upstraight. They ate with their hands so the slaves would've had to cut up the food into bite size pieces. The guests brough napkins from home and whatever they didn't finish eating, they'd put it in their napkins and take it home.
My friend asked this boy before taking a sip of his soda does he have mono? what is that?
http://www.medicinenet.com/infectious_mononucleosis/article.htm
there's this kid. he's in 2 of my classes (we're both freshmen) he's cute and everything.. but idk if i really like him yet. well, a while ago we worked on a project together & kind of talked. my friend heard him talking about me, saying that i never talk. which is untrue but seems to happen a lot with me. yes, i'm quiet in school, around people i don't know very well. i don't raise my hand a lot in those classes, and for the project i hardly talked to him. i'm shy, not mute. well first of all, why would he care? ok anyway.. i have his sn on my buddy list and the other day my friend imed him.. (i was watching her, freaking out) he actually responded and knew who i was.. after like 2 minutes though he said he had to go but yeaah. how can i continue talking to him in school and online? like idk i feel weird since he thought i was so quiet. and if he says something to me in school about it what should i say?? thankss.
Well, he would first of all care if you talked much or not since you guys are working in a project and maybe he's kind of bored having a partner who doesn't talk much or feels like he's doing much of the work and not being able to communicate with you. Even if you do talk, maybe you don't talk as much as he expects people to.
If he says something about you not talking much, blame it on lack of sleep or say that he should spend more time with you and he'll doubt what he was saying.
Just talk about the project, ask how his day's going, what music he likes, what classes/teachers he likes/dislikes and everything. Just don't feel limited to what you say and just talk about whatever you want. There are limitless possiblities on what you can say to someone.
I have NO idea what to get my mom or dad or brother for christmas, and ideas?
my dad likes-computers
dont know what my mom likes
my brother likes-xbox, computers, cars
thanks
For your dad, buy him a gift card from Circuit City
Mom---Get her a perfume scent she'd like or a gift card from Victoria secrets, bath and body works, or some clothing store. If she's into crafty stuff buy her a gif card from Michaels
For your bro, get him a gift card from target, circuit city, etc.
Key thing: GET THEM GIFT CARDS!! haha seriously, it's much more useful then when someone gets someone an object...gift card=buying whatever they want.
Haha have fun
Okay so I really like to masturbate. But for some reason whenever I do I always picture girls, but I know for sure that I'm not a lesbian. What can I do?
It's probably because you wanna imagine what you'd look like if you were actually having an intercourse and thinking of girls doesn't really make you a lesbian.
If you want to get girls out of your mind, just imagine the guy you really like and want to do it with..
How come some people just answer the question but never read (understand) the question they are answering so their answers never make sense. And if this is the case should the person posting the questions only go by the individuals who read the question and gave the person posting the question an answer that makes them feel better and ignore the other answers they received that did not make sense?
Well, it's never because we don't get it and answer it. It doesn't make sense. They may think they got it but mayeb they didn't. It's just simply because they misunderstood it and if the answer makes no sense whatsoever, the blame is partially on the questioner.
Most of the time many people use horrible grammar, skip from one event to another, and mainly they don't state the questions clearly at all. They barely take it into consideration that when they ask a not so clear question, the reader, who is a total stranger to the situation, gets easily confused or misled.
The rating, you should probably give ratings. But if you're going to give a 1, make sure it's NOT because it doesn't make you happy because if every answer someone gives you is sugar coated, that's not advice. You're asking questions on here to get advice from every point of view and not just advice from what you want to hear. So as long as they answer your question, they should get a 4 or 5. If it wasn't helpful 2 or 3. But never a 1 because you didn't want to hear it or because they misunderstood it. If the reply didn't make sense whatsoever, re-read the question you posted to make sure it wasn't because you typed it unclearly.
okay, i'm not overweight, but just a bit underweight considering im like 5-10 lbs away from average. i eat pretty much whatever i want with some restrictions. i'm not on a diet, but im on like a semi-diet, eating fruits and veggies for lunch and not really snacks. i'm 5'9, female, and i weigh around 145 lbs. i just ate a part of a muffin and i hate myself for it. whenever i eat some kind of dessert or something, i feel like crying and i just want to throw it all up. i am not bulimic or anything, but i'm starting to believe i have some kind of mental eating disorder. i just feel horrible when i eat anything like that and it really bothers me. i just want to throw it up and sometimes i even start crying after i eat it. can someone please help explain what this is?? should i just keep dieting??
thanks!!
If you go on a too strict diet, that can effect you. Eating desserts or candies once in a while is perfectly fine and you shouldn't feel at all bad about it.
Just don't go bulimic or anorexic and just keep a healthy diet. Don't stress out if you splurge because, hey, we're all living humans and we need sweets to satisfy our cravings sometimes.
um me and my boyfriend wered doing pretty good then i made out with another boy this was a monnth ago he's still mad tho but he tells me he still cares wat do i do?
Well, you need to keep reassuring him that you're going to be loyal to him and not cheat again. IT's going to be a long process since trust is easily destroyed but rather hard to gain back.
Just stick with him as much as you can, invite him to as many things of whatever you're doing, don't hide any secrets from him...
there is this kid that i've known since last year. let's call him chris. and my friend lets call her hallie well she has been in me and chris's classes last year also. (homeroom) well me and hallie and chris have 1st hr together and me and chris have 2nd hour together also. (we're on the same floor hockey team for phys. ed) okay well we had a school dance this week and chris asked hallie to slow dance with him and she did. i think that chris likes her but i dont think that hallie likes him that much. well i really kinda sorta like chris. today on aim i told hallie that she should go out with chris because i think that he likes you (i said that only to make her happy) and she said idk if he asks me out ill probably say yes. so i signed off and i felt like an idiot because i know that chris likes hallie and if he asks her out she'll say yes. and i really really dont want him to ask her out. i don't want to tell hallie that i like him and i really really dont want to tell chris that i like him. ugh im really confused. what should i do? thanks a lott.
Okay, well I must admit that urging Hallie to say yes to Chris was a little idiotic but I'm always like that. It's like I like someone and I know that the someone likes someone else and I tell that someone else to go out with that someone and then it gets of iffy.
So if they do go out together, you know that HAllie doesn't like him much so don't sweat it. It's not gonna work out that well so hope it'll be a short one.
When they do break up, tell Hallie that you like Chris but don't make rash moves until you're certain that you like him genuinly and not out of envy
Good luck my dear
okay i like this guy lets call him ....... "Matt" ANYWAYS...... he's really cute, and shy, and he plays football and basketball! he's like the perfect package. NOw he knows that i like him! all his friends told him ........ and ive had enough of him ..... and i cant move one! what do i do?????
You're not making much sense, my dear. Why do you want to move on and why did you have enough of him?
Okay, he knows that you like him..that's a GOOD thing. If he wants to stay friends, let it be. If he thinks you're weird of mocks you with this, then you'll know that he's a total jerk and not even worth your time. If he avoids you, don't feel so bad because, well we're human...
So, if he doesn indeed mock you, just tell him that he's being immature and that he's grasping onto old news..