I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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My girlfriend is almost a week past her period, and we're 16 and we're scared that she's pregnant. She doesnt have any signs of pregnancy, but she said she does have vaginal discharge and we're hoping that's not a sign... any help? (link)
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Discharge is common anyway so please don't worry about this as it isn't a common sign of pregnancy.
You haven't stated what method of contraception you use but if you use condoms alone, it may be a good idea to talk to her about starting on The Pill, as it is free from her GP and it carried a higher level of contraception than condoms.
The best thing I can suggest is that she either sees her doctor, in case something is wrong or to get a pregnancy test. Usually when a period is late or does not come, it can be caused through stress, diet, an irregular cycle, medicines or any number of other things so please don't worry yet.
Please also remember that while sex is fun and everyone enjoys it because it feels good, it's not something that should be taken lightly as sex will ALWAYS carry with it the possibility of pregnancy. No contraception is 100% effective. If you don't want to abstain, get her speak to her doctor about The Pill and you shouldn't need to worry from that point onwards.
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so, a random question bout sex. i was just wondering, since statistics show that the average teen loses their virginity by the age of 17. well.. is it possible to have sex (when the guy uses a condom) and NOT get pregnant? cuz like, other teens have done it and they havent got pregnant riight? but what im scared of is that my sister had an unplanned pregnancy and she already had a baby. she said she used a condom and i guessed it broke.
questions:
is it common for a condom to break?
can a girl get pregant if a guy uses a condom?
thanks in advance. (link)
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Well the good news is that yes it is possible to not get pregnant when the man is wearing a condom.
However, certain methods carry certain contraception percentages. For example, The Pill is 99.9% effective but obviously does not protect against infection or disease. However, condoms carry somewhere between 93% and 98% contraception. Although this is still quite high, it does mean it is still possible to get pregnant while using them. You also need to bear in mind that as they are only made of thin latex, they can break quite easily so most women like to be on The Pill as well, just to be on the safe side.
I wouldn't say it is common for condoms to break but it does happen, especially during particularly 'active' sex, to put it delicately.
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I need advice. well, i hate school so much. I alwasy have. The thing is i get straight A's and I am very popular. Yet, I have gross teachers that i feel uncomfortable around and some of them are pervertive. I have no friends in my classes and the only time i do get to see my close friends are at lunch. Anyway, I am so depressed about school so my mom said she'll homeschool me. I was so thrilled by the idea ut i have to take a few things inaccountant. Like I'm not going to be able to see my friends as much, people will wonder why i left because I'm so well known, and if hihgschool we'll be harder for me to adjust to bc/ I'm getting homeschooled for the next 2 1/2 months until school ends. Please tell me what you think. I mean I really want to get homeschooled because I have major depression in my life because of school but also, i don't want to miss out on the school dances and 8th grade. But I'm still questioning is it worth it, I am so confused! (link)
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Personally I think you would be best off finishing your time in school. There are a lot of obvious advantages to being home schooled, but you would also be missing out on a lot of opportunities. I left school half way through my A Levels and although it was the best choice for me at the time, looking back now I slightly regret it. I missed out on a lot of fun with my friends, I missed out on a lot of 'moments'and I didn't come away with any real qualification.
I know that school is horrible sometimes. I was bullied badly for 2 years and I was so miserable I took to hiding under my bed to get away from going but running away is never the answer. If you only have two and a half months left, it will be much better to stick it out and KNOW that you did everything you could without running from the situation. Also, if you get homeschooled now, it will be a lot harder to adjust when you move up to High School.
If you really do think that some of your teachers may be perverts/paedophiles, it may be best to alert someone to this and/or move out of their classes if you can.
Also, you say that you don't have any friends in your classes. Why don't you try to get to know them a little better? See if you can make friends with them and if you can't, at least you only have a couple of months left. Then you get to make a fresh start at a new school and you can try to make some new friends there.
Hang in there, you will be fine and in years to come you will look back and be glad you stuck it out.
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Okay, Ive been in this relationship for almost 5 months and Im very much in love with the man I lost my virginity to. I dont know if it'll last long because hes so hard to be with, partly because hes so close to his friends. Their inseperateable and he doesnt realize it but hes alot nicer alone than with his friends around, also we cant drink together because he gets super irritated and acts like a dick and like he doesnt want me around him so I get emotional because ive been drinking and then i become a mess. I love to party and im the happiest drunk ull ever meet, but for some reason when I drink with my boyfriend he destroys that mood in an instant by doing something to make me upset. Funny thing is, he tells me its because he gets more irriated when he drinks hard stuff, but beers okay with him and he says i act stupid when i drink and that he doesnt like it when i drink cuz i get emotional. Well....probably becuz im drinking with him!!! Dont get me wrong, i love him to death i just dont see how its going to work because for once in my life ive come to realize that maybe love isnt enough anymore. I dont like being with someone i see maybe once or twice a week and its always on him whether we see each other or not. Im always the one to call after school and find out from his sister that he left with his friends. I work, he doesnt. Hes 19. Im 17. He thinks that if we care about each other so much that when he goes to college a couple hours away that we wont grow apart and that we'll see each other on weekends, however i know better. I can wake up to reality and see that if we have trouble seeing each other now, being 15 minutes away, how can it possibly work out when hes 2 hours away? And i know what some of you will say..tell him how you feel...tell him you think he needs to hang out with you more often and not his friends. Thing is I dont want him to think im some controlling girlfriend that wants to pussy whip him. One relationship in his life he always talks about is him and this girl lets say named Whitney. And she had him pussy whipped like no other that he blew off his friends for her. That was 2 years ago and after it ended badly he hadnt had a g/f since...until now. And unfortunately his friends mean soooo much to him that he doesnt know how to balance it out and so hes blowing off me for his friends. I find it unfair. Because he cant use something like that as an excuse and I am not going to pay for some dumb bitch's mistake.
Sorry for basically spilling out my lifes story but theres just some issues I have in this relationship and I just am not secure about what i should do. I hope someone has some great advice to help me (link)
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Oh dear, this is a predicament. I can see what the problem is because you can't just tell him to see more of you. That wouldn't help at all but at the same time things can't carry on the way they are.
In all relationships there needs to be some form of balance of power and you need to work how to get back some of this power because at the moment he holds it all and he's taking advantage of the situation. Perhaps not purposely however, as it sounds like he may be overcompensating for what happened with this other girlfriend.
The best suggestion I can come up with at this moment in time is that you need to stop your efforts to contact him and try to arrange things. Don't call, don't text, don't go around, don't do anything. By letting you do all the chasing, he's grabbing any of the power in the relationship from you. If you make him do some of the chasing, you will get your power back.
However, I should warn you that although this would work on most men, you need to be prepared for any eventuality. That is, you may find he disappears from your radar altogether, at least for a while and you may not hear from him for a time. If he really does love you then he will come to his senses and wonder where you've been because he hasn't heard from you. If/when he does contact you, throw the "We need to talk" line at him and say you need to meet. Go somewhere neutral like a restaurant, cafe or a park and make sure you have his full attention. Then you can tell him exactly what you feel is wrong with your relationship and tell him that although you love him, your relationship just can't continue in the way that he has because you feel as though you are the only person in it.
Unfortunately, if he still doesn't get it or thinks you are being unreasonable (which I don't think you are at all but being a man, he might), you may need to consider ending it. Sadly you were right, sometimes love just isn't enough.
Good luck.
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I need to know how to block a phone number because someone keeps calling me I don't want to talk to and it's getting to the point where I can't take it anymore because they aren't nice. So how do you? (link)
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If this really is a problem, you can normally telephone the phone company and they should be able to block the number. I know this definitely works on mobile phones, although I can't be sure about landlines. If you're being harassed, it might be worth speaking to the police. This is the route I went down when a similar thing happened to me and I got the person's number blocked.
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Okay, so I have a boyfriend. And I love him so much nobody would ever understand. Everything reminds me of him and he's always on my mind. Today he confessed that I'm all he ever thinks about no matter what he's doing. That means that he thinks about me a lot because he's always playing football or basketball or soccer or working out. My friends say I'm obbsessed, but I just can't help it. Is there anything I can do that will take my mind off of him or at least tone down my thoughts about him a bit?
Thanks so much! (link)
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Honestly? No! Not really anyway.
One of the things about falling in love is that the object of your affections does occupy your every waking thought (sometimes even your non-waking thoughts!) for at least the first few months you're together. This is normal and will eventually start to ease away a little by itself when you realise how fed up everyone is with you talking about him non-stop!!
In the meantime, if you really want to try to think about something else, try taking up some sort of hobby but something that requires some brain power, like sudoku or something. But be prepared for the fact it many not work. Love is that all encompassing emotion that can be our making and our destruction. You just need to accept it and let it work it's course. Eventually you will get over the initial "everything he does is FASCINATING and I just HAVE to tell everybody about it!!!" phase and only talk about him half the time!
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Hey. Well, I am going to be in my county's Spelling Bee, which is in less than 2 weeks. Lately I've been studying out of this booklet of beginning, intermediate, and advanced words they gave us.I was wondering if I should just study most of the words I can, or if there are additional techniques to help me spell these words correctly. Thanks! (link)
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When I had to learn spelling when I was at school, my Mum used to make it into a game for me. I used to sit for a while and try to remember all the words and how they were spelt. Then she used to test me on them randomly and made it a little competition between my sister and I.
It sounds a little lame but it really did work and my spelling now is great!
The only other suggestion I have is to make words into a mnemonic. This is where you write a word vertically and then make a sentence using each letter as the first in a word. For example: Hello: Happy Elephant Laugh Loudly Often.
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i straighten my hair everyday, and i dont use any special conditioners or anything. Is that bad? i use garnier fructis shampoo & conditioner, if that helps. thanks xOx [♥] (link)
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Well.....it's not great for you hair but it's worse depending on what straighteners you use.
Hair gets damaged by intense heats and if you straighten your hair as regularly as every day without using a conditioner or some form of protective serum or spray to help control the damage, you will eventually do damage to your hair that will take a long time to repair.
Unfortunately, I am speaking from experience. I straightened my hair just twice a week for two and a half years and have had to stop because the split ends have now become so bad huge amounts break off when I brush it or just pull slightly at the ends.
Try to straighten it less often if you can and opt for less damaging mousses instead. Or try using unheated rollers to make the most of your curls. I would also recommend you try using a repairing shampoo and/or conditioner for a while. Aussie 3 Minute Miracle is reputed to be very good.
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Hey ok let me in on my problem, i am 18 years old and i am a fulltime nursing assistant at a hospital. my "best firennd" works a part-time job and dont work much and blames us not being able to hang out on my schooling and job. but on the off days that i can hang out if we do, she is constantly on the phone with her boyfriend,(i just broke up with mine). oh yeah and did i mention my ex is her boyfriends best friend. well anyway i tryto tell her that this upsets me but she dont listen she just continues to do it even though i ask her not to and not to mention she is always blowing me off to be with her boyfriend even after me and mine broke up and i needed someone to comfort me what should i do? (link)
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You haven't said why this friend works part time but it sounds as though she is relatively lonely, judging by the fact she begrudges the time you have to spend at work. If you are working hard, you shouldn't let her make you feel bad because of this.
As far as the situation with the phone goes, she needs to learn that when she is spending time with you, she can't just ignore you. Now, you have a couple of options available to you as to how you deal with this.
You can refuse to see her until she learns to give up the phone for a while. It's really quite selfish, not to mention very poor manners to spend extended lengths of time excluding a guest from a conversation and when the guest can't even hear most of the conversation, it is even worse. So tell her once and for all, either she spends time with you or she talks to her boyfriend but you will not be sidelined and ignored constantly.
The other option is to go ahead and hang out with her. Wait until she is on the phone to her boyfriend and call her either on her home phone if she is on her mobile or on her mobile if she is on the home phone. When she answers, explain that this clearly is the only way you're going to be able to talk to her any time soon so you thought you would give that a try!
If this doesn't work, you'll just have to try talking to her about it again and hope it works. If she can't learn to be a good friend to you then perhaps you will be better off without her.
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One of my best friends likes the same guy as me. Well my and my crush (Ross) have been talking alot latley and he told me he likes me. I don't know how to tell her that he likes me. I don't wanna sound like I'm trying to rub it in her face, but I don't want her to find out from like gossip or something so I want her to know so she doesn't get her heart broken, but what should I say? (link)
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The bigger question here is how will she feel if you go out with him at all?
It's a very difficult situation because if you go out with him, you risk losing your best friend but if you don't go out with him, you risk losing out on a really great guy.
Now I'm not going to tell you the whole "Boys come and go but friends will always be there" cliche because in my experience, it's not always true. However, I think you need to talk it over with your friend first and see how she feels about you going out with him.
You need to ask her how she would feel if you were to go out with him. Then break it to her that you really like him and he's said he likes you too but you didn't want to agree to go out with him without seeing if she was okay with it first because you didn't want to hurt her.
If she REALLY likes him, you will have to make the decision as to whether or not you do go out with him. Unfortunately, this is not a choice anyone can make for you but your best bet is to see how your friend takes the idea first and go from there.
If your friend says that it's okay with her then go for it. Just try to remember her feelings when you're happily loved up with him and try not to talk to her too much about it!!
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well i like or liked (i totally dont know what to think anymore? ) this guy named peter! and well i think he liked me back and he always smiled at me and smiled at me but i'm kind of shy so i never smiled back. so once in my bus he sat next to me and talked to me but i was in a bad mood and very mean to him! well not THAT mean but kinda mean lol so then he never talked to me again but sometimes he still looked at me. so i felt bad and i called him today i was like me: hi my name is cornelia can i please talk to peter peter: yeah i'm peter me: oh well hi its me you know that mean girl? uhm yeah so i just wanted to appologize for being so mean! peter:uhu silence.. me: so is everythink ok again? peter: uhh yeah silence me: ok than silence peter: bye me: bye and well that was it and i started grying cause it totally went wrong! i thought he would say like ok i except it or whatever but he said nothing at all? does he hate me now? i am really upset! i think he's gonn atell everybody now that i called him and then there all gonna laugh at me! but i dont get it! he even told me he loved me once (i was kinda mean then 2) but i tried to be nice now! he act like he didnt care! i need advice i'm really upset!!!! oh and please dont delete this cause i really need advice and i dont wanna write the whole question over again.
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Oh dear!!! It sounds as though his pride and self esteem were probably quite hurt because of the way you were with him before and ESPECIALLY after he told you he loved you. It's a typical male response to save face in such situations which is why he was acting so strangely with you and why he acted like he didn't care. It's because deep down, he DOES care and he's hurt.
I think the best thing you can really do is to talk to him properly about this. He's probably not going to tell all his friends and make them laugh at you so please don't worry about that but you do need to set him straight and let him know that you don't hate him. You also need to let him know how you DO feel about him. If you're not sure, tell him you're not sure but most of all, apologise for treating him the way you did and assure him it wasn't anything to do with him but more to do with other things that were going on.
Hopefully once you have done this, you will be able to go forward, at least as friends and see if you want to progress into more than friends when you know how you feel for sure.
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so last night my ex boyfriend called to talk. it was around 11:45. well i have not talked to him in about 2 or3 weeks which is my fault becuase i have not felt that i could talk to him without getting upset. well anyway for some reason i picked up. well the converstion was basichey how have you been what you been up to and so one. and then for some reason i started to get upset and quiet. he kept asking me what was wrong but i would not tell him that i was upset becuase it is still hard to talk to him without getting upset anyway he acted mad becuase i wouldnt tell him waht was wrong and was like know i dont like being lied to and i just said dont worry about it. should i have told him that it stillhurts to talk to him even though i do love him. and it has been a month since we broke up. why would he get mad and upset because i would not tell him what is wrong. is this a sign that he is hurt to or that some part of him still wants to be with me. he wants me to pick him up next week should i? he did not say why? (link)
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Men find women's emotions kind of hard to fathom and it's often what makes them think of us as some form of alien species!!
I can understand why you were still upset. If the guy you love who broke up with you is acting to you like nothing but you still hurt, it's going to be like twisting the knife and all that raw emotion will come back.
There's nothing wrong with telling him that you're still hurting over him. If you really did love him, those sorts of feelings don't go away overnight and he needs to understand that you aren't as resillient as he seems to be.
He was probably upset with you because men often like to be in control and know what's going on with things. If you were quiet and seemed upset but didn't tell him, he was probably feeling frustrated that you wouldn't talk to him. Sadly, it doesn't necessarily mean that he is hurting but this doesn't mean he's not as men do tend to hide their emotions.
If he wants to see you, I think I would probably recommend that you do it. There's no harm in seeing what he has to say but when you go, try not to have any preconceptions of what it might be in your mind or you might end up disappointed. Try to go along thinking of him as a friend. See what happens and try to deal with whatever it is.
Just remember that you WILL get over him in time. It hurts like hell right now but soon enough the wounds will heal and you'll find someone who deserves you.
Good luck.
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I have a friend that is going out with a guy who is really bad for her. He has hurt her before. He has sprained my wrist purposely and he is a drug dealer. He deals hardcore stuff; cocaine, crystal meth, heroin, etc. She has done coke in the past and she was beginning to develop a dependancy, but my friends and I helped her to kick it. We think that she has started using again and has probably started with other drugs, too. We've tried talking to her, but she won't seem to listen. Is there any way we can get her away from him? Thanks. (link)
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This is a very tricky situation. Under these circumstances, it is very tempting to decide that since she isn't listening, you have no choice but to let her pick her own path.
However, I suspect that, for whatever reason, she is trapped in this situation and she doesn't really know her own path. She isn't listening to you probably because she is addicted to the drugs her boyfriend can give her or because she has some form of other attachment to him. The problem with either of these is that she will not be herself right now and it will be very hard, if not impossible to get through to her. I expect when you do try to talk to her about this she probably laughs it off, saying she's fine or knows what she is doing or she's aggressive about it.
The fact of this matter is that you alone won't be able to get through to her because she needs to see what a jerk her boyfriend is and what sort of state she has got herself in. Now, what I will suggest isn't favourable but it is an option. You could make an anonymous call to the police and tell them about her boyfriends drug dealings. If he's a bad guy, he will get caught by the police and he may well get sent to prison. If you make this call anonymously, neither of them will know it was anything to do with you or your friends and the time away from this guy may be what your friend needs to sort her head out.
If you really don't think this is an option, the only other thing I can suggest is to get her family involved. I don't know how old she is or whether she still lives at home but if she does it might be worth having a word with her parents about it. They might know a way to get through to her and help her realise the damage she is doing to her body and to her life.
Good luck.
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ok i like all like techno and that cheesy pop what song arte like that in portugal can poeple list all the best portugese songs?i rate high =] (link)
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I think that group, O-Zone were Portugese. Their song Dragostea Din Tei was BRILLIANT!!
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I gave up gossiping because apparently everyone thinks I have a problem with it and when I hear something, it's the hardest thing to keep my mouth shut! I haven't broken my vow yet, and I don't plan on it, as hard as it is. I have broken it past years with things like candy and complaining last year. I was just wondering, how many teens and young adults here find it hard to keep your vows for lent? Even if it's something simple like, sodas. Have y'all been able to keep your vows completely so far? (link)
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My vow this lent was to stop eating any more than one square of plain chocolate a day. Not because I'm fat or anything but because I truly am a real chocoholic. At one point I was eating 5 bars of chocolate a day.
Unfortunately, I'm not doing at all well so far!!! I'm okay for a few days, maybe even a week but then the cravings get SO bad it's like I HAVE to have a lot of it!!!
My worst incident like this was when I didn't have any chocolate at all for about 2 weeks. Then in one day I ate a mars bar, 200g of Galaxy, chocolate ice cream with chocolate syrup and a load of Cadbury Roses!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Unfortunately, we always give up something we find a real vice and it's always so hard but I guess that's what we're meant to learn about it!!
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My best friend and I are no longer friends after an argument which ended our friendship. She knows everything about me, even my deepest secrets. She has offered to talk to me about things in about a week, and I'd like to bring up the things we have shared with one another. I want to confirm that everything we have said will be kept secret, but I am afraid if I put it the wrong way she will see it as a weakness and threaten me with it. How do I ask her to not tell my secrets while showing that I can be trusted with hers, and am not afraid of her answer? (link)
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If you are concerned she might say something then it might be best not to mention your secrets at all. For starters, if you were to raise it, no matter how you say it, she may feel insulted and then you will have put an idea to the front of her mind.
You would be better off to try to resolve your friendship, if at all possible. I have no idea what your argument was about but if you do want to be friends again, you will be better off trying to resolve the problems towards this than persuading her not to tell your secrets. You must have been friends for a reason so try to work out why you were friends in the first place and build on that.
If you really don't think there's any way that you can be friens again, just tell her that she was a great friend to you before this and you hope you can at least be civil with each other in the future, even if you can't still be friends. If you can part on good terms then perhaps she will be less inclined to spill anything to people or use them against you in the future.
The other thing you have to remember is that these things happen a lot, especially when you are young. When I was 13, my very best friend - who knew EVERYTHING about me - and I had a massive fight. It got so bad that vicious threats were passed. But neither of us told our secrets to anyone and a year later, we were friends again. Seven years on, we're still friends now.
So try not to worry because these things often pass and the chances are, if she really was your best friend, she will still keep your secrets.
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I am thirteen years old and I have two dogs and two cats. As much as I love my dogs right now, they are very old and they cant run or play or anything. Ive always wanted a small dog of my own but my parents say I cant have one. Should I keep on trying to get them to let me have a dog or should I lay off? (link)
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Being absoloutely honest, I think you will have to let it go for now.I understand that it's difficult to 'do much' with dogs who are old but you have to think about the effect it might have on them if you were to introduce a young pup to the family. For starters, they would recognise that you were devoting your time to the younger dog and they would feel neglected.
This is just my personal opinion on the matter and you may diagree completely but I tend to think of animals in the same sense as humans. They have the same emotions and develop similar emotional attachments and I guess the question I would ask myself is whether I would trade off my Grandparents for a younger model because they got too old to do anything. Obviously, nobody would and I'm not suggesting that you would do this either. But in my opinion, the dogs that you have already would be very hurt if you were to introduce a new pet.
Unfortunately, good things come to those who wait. Pay more attention and spend more time with the pets you already have. They're old and won't live forever and you'll probably be very upset when they're gone.
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I love to watch scary movies. My question is, how do you go to sleep after watching one? I just finished watching a REALLY scary movie and I'm really scared! How do I go to sleep without thoughts of the movie? (link)
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I get the same way. I had to sleep at my boyfriend's house after The Ring and it took me HOURS to sleep after The Grudge!! Horrifying!!
The best thing I can suggest is to make sure you put on a comedy or romantic comedy almost straight after. This will hopefully relax your brain into thinking of something nicer.
I also find it helps if you have any films which feature the people in the horror film doing something better. The only reason I was able to deal with The Ring was because I remembered seeing the girl in it appear at an awards ceremony. With The Grudge, I remembered Sarah Michelle Geller kicking the crap out of some stupid vampires.
If all that fails, stay up all night, with the TV on loud, friends in the room and all the lights on!!
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14/f Sry it's so long. So there's this boy and he asked me out like 2 weeks ago I said yes. We've gone bowling a few times with friends and we hang out whenever we can. He comes to my play pratices and whatever he can whenever he can and vice versa. We put our arms around each other and cuddle and stuff but when ever any one asks either of us wheather it's offical or not we say no. The problem is my friends are giving me grief about this. They're like if your not offical then you shouldn't let him hold you and if your not offical and he decides to like some one else he could drop you and you'd get hurt and have no argument. The truth is idc about this and I know he won't just drop me. Does any body know how I can explain this to my friends nicely and does he have to like ask me to be his gf for it to be offical or does time make offical? I rate. Thanx (link)
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Really, you need to ask yourself one question. Is it your relationship or your friends' relationship? There are no rules about this sort of stuff and you should do whatever feels comfortable to you.
Unfortunately, explaining these things to friends with strong opinions is a little harder. You may need to just stand up and say to them "I like him, he likes me and we enjoy spending time together. We don't have to be official to hold hands or put our arms round each other and we don't need to be told how we should be with each other."
It sounds quite harsh but at the end of the day, it sounds as though your friends are trying to get too involved. A lot of people break up because of too much involvement from outside of the relationship and I'm sure you don't want to be another one of them.
I also think you need to speak to this boy about it and see if he wants to be an official couple or not. See what he says and decide if you're comfortable with whatever decision he makes. If you're not, you can choose to stay with him or move.
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it wont go away. i am a guy and 16 yrs old. i'm used to working under pressure and stress, but this started happening all of a sudden... i mean nothing new, nothing bizzare, but ive never had this problem before.
im worried - am i always going to be like this? i mean i know what my triggers are to stomach acid [stress related one]. is it something i can grow out of? any medicine i can take for it to go away? or will it just go away once my nerves calm down. is it permanent? thanks i wanna know cuz im scared (link)
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If you are suffering with constant stomach acid then it might be worth paying a visit to your doctor. If you're working in situations that place you under stress it could be anything from simply being over-stressed to acid reflux or a stomach ulcer. I should stress the last option is highly unlikely and as I am not a doctor myself, I don't want to put ideas in your head.
Generally, stress can cause symptoms like this very easily if you don't learn to control it. Your doctor may recommend some ways to work at this butin the meantime, there are a lot of herbal tablets that help to control stress which you can buy in health food shops. Also, you could consider taking up something like tai chi or yoga. They're not just for girls! They help to balance your psyche and allow freedom of movement and mind as well as helping to allow stress to flow from the body.
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