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What do I do about my ex-best friend who knows all my secret
My best friend and I are no longer friends after an argument which ended our friendship. She knows everything about me, even my deepest secrets. She has offered to talk to me about things in about a week, and I'd like to bring up the things we have shared with one another. I want to confirm that everything we have said will be kept secret, but I am afraid if I put it the wrong way she will see it as a weakness and threaten me with it. How do I ask her to not tell my secrets while showing that I can be trusted with hers, and am not afraid of her answer?
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If you are concerned she might say something then it might be best not to mention your secrets at all. For starters, if you were to raise it, no matter how you say it, she may feel insulted and then you will have put an idea to the front of her mind.
You would be better off to try to resolve your friendship, if at all possible. I have no idea what your argument was about but if you do want to be friends again, you will be better off trying to resolve the problems towards this than persuading her not to tell your secrets. You must have been friends for a reason so try to work out why you were friends in the first place and build on that.
If you really don't think there's any way that you can be friens again, just tell her that she was a great friend to you before this and you hope you can at least be civil with each other in the future, even if you can't still be friends. If you can part on good terms then perhaps she will be less inclined to spill anything to people or use them against you in the future.
The other thing you have to remember is that these things happen a lot, especially when you are young. When I was 13, my very best friend - who knew EVERYTHING about me - and I had a massive fight. It got so bad that vicious threats were passed. But neither of us told our secrets to anyone and a year later, we were friends again. Seven years on, we're still friends now.
So try not to worry because these things often pass and the chances are, if she really was your best friend, she will still keep your secrets.
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This same exact situation happened to me.
The way I took care of it was, I talked to her when she was alone and I said that we shared a lot of stuff with eachother, and I know we are no longer friends now but I think we should stil respect eachothers secrets and keep them what they are..secrets..
I said that I no matter what will keep them secrets even if she tells people, because I am trustworthy. And of course she didn't listen at first and she tested me by telling a not so big secret and I did not tell any of hers, and she tried it again, and I still kept hers. After that she did not do it again, and those secrets will just be between her and I...
I wish you the best of luck on this..if you need anything drop it in my inbox.
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