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so last night my ex boyfriend called to talk. it was around 11:45. well i have not talked to him in about 2 or3 weeks which is my fault becuase i have not felt that i could talk to him without getting upset. well anyway for some reason i picked up. well the converstion was basichey how have you been what you been up to and so one. and then for some reason i started to get upset and quiet. he kept asking me what was wrong but i would not tell him that i was upset becuase it is still hard to talk to him without getting upset anyway he acted mad becuase i wouldnt tell him waht was wrong and was like know i dont like being lied to and i just said dont worry about it. should i have told him that it stillhurts to talk to him even though i do love him. and it has been a month since we broke up. why would he get mad and upset because i would not tell him what is wrong. is this a sign that he is hurt to or that some part of him still wants to be with me. he wants me to pick him up next week should i? he did not say why?
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Men find women's emotions kind of hard to fathom and it's often what makes them think of us as some form of alien species!!
I can understand why you were still upset. If the guy you love who broke up with you is acting to you like nothing but you still hurt, it's going to be like twisting the knife and all that raw emotion will come back.
There's nothing wrong with telling him that you're still hurting over him. If you really did love him, those sorts of feelings don't go away overnight and he needs to understand that you aren't as resillient as he seems to be.
He was probably upset with you because men often like to be in control and know what's going on with things. If you were quiet and seemed upset but didn't tell him, he was probably feeling frustrated that you wouldn't talk to him. Sadly, it doesn't necessarily mean that he is hurting but this doesn't mean he's not as men do tend to hide their emotions.
If he wants to see you, I think I would probably recommend that you do it. There's no harm in seeing what he has to say but when you go, try not to have any preconceptions of what it might be in your mind or you might end up disappointed. Try to go along thinking of him as a friend. See what happens and try to deal with whatever it is.
Just remember that you WILL get over him in time. It hurts like hell right now but soon enough the wounds will heal and you'll find someone who deserves you.
Good luck.
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so the two other responses you've gotten are basically the same so i'm gona try to help you see it from another stand point. im going through something very similar & it hurts & it's so hard. im not going to sit here & say i know how you feel, cause i don't know your whole situation but i can say that i relate to the general feeling of being heartbroken & not sure if you should cut him out completely, be friends, or pursue something more. but i'd say follow your gut feeling. definately telling him whats wrong & how hard its been since you guys broke up & that him calling out of the blue almost hurts more then him not calling at all. maybe if you want to be friends let him know that.. or if youre not ready to be friends, let him know that. he doesnt need to know whats wrong & shouldnt get mad if you dont tell him. but it seems like the reason he called was to make sure you were doing alright & by holding it in that youre not, youre sorta shutting him out when he's only trying to be there for you. about having him pick you up or not, like i said, follow your gut feeling.. but id say go.. you dont want to have regrets & wonder what he wanted or what would have happend.
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I wouldn't get my hopes up about him possibly still having feelings for you, but it could be a sign that maybe he doesn't want you to not tell him your problems just because you are broken up.
The next time he calls, I think you should just tell him the truth, you'll probably feel better when he knows what's going on, because now he just may think that you just don't want him calling anymore to just talk. For now, I think you should try moving on from him instead of spending time with him. Especially if you know it's over for sure, the last thing you should do is hang out until you are over him.
Because the more you hang out with him, the more you'll wish you had him back. So, maybe the whole picking-him-up idea isn't a good one.
-TheTeenGirl
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It sounds like you just really need to get this guy out of your life.
I think that you should just really get him away and never let him get back in. Because he is clearly upsetting you.
So just get him away and you will just feel better. So overtime you will just feel a lot of better.
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