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I love him!
Okay, so I have a boyfriend. And I love him so much nobody would ever understand. Everything reminds me of him and he's always on my mind. Today he confessed that I'm all he ever thinks about no matter what he's doing. That means that he thinks about me a lot because he's always playing football or basketball or soccer or working out. My friends say I'm obbsessed, but I just can't help it. Is there anything I can do that will take my mind off of him or at least tone down my thoughts about him a bit?
Thanks so much!
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There isn't much you can do, but just consider this. He loves you as much as you love him, but don't center your life around him. The old saying "love hurts" is true, and if you spend all of your time with him or thinking about him and something happens between you two, you don't want to feel like you've lost everything. I might suggest that to take your mind off him for a little while at least, plan a girls night. Go out with your girl friends, and just hang out. Don't talk about him, and just try to concentrate on having fun with them. I hope this helps.
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No not really theres nothing you can really do. Thats how you feel and its hard to change that. Believe me i feel the same way about my b/f now and ive tried to change that but i cant. Me and my bf broke up a few times and i still couldnt change that and we're finally back together and he tells me he feels the same about me and its the best feeling in the world. Good luck!!
xoxoJessxoxo
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although its great to have strong feelings for a person and love them a mature love realizes that real life gets in the middle of things. what i am saying is.... you need to realize that without him you are still you. you must maintain that individual side of yourself so you dont loose yourself in him. im not saying to "act"like he is unimportant because i know how it is to love someone and think of them often but dont loose sight of life because in the end all you have is you if he ever left and you have to strike a healthy balance. besides men are more attracted to a woman that maintains her own identity and interest. continue feeling how you do. its ok to do so. just stay busy and concentrate on the important things that you need to accomplish in your life cause i he loves you now he will love you later. not to mention he'll feel proud that he is with such an interesting woman. even though he claims to think of you all the time i really do believe that noone likes to be smothered and eventually they will loose interest. so love him and adore him, think of him often. butttttttt dont make him your only hobby. best of luck hun.
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Sorry, there's not much you can do. This happened to me and I was sooo upset about it. Thinking about someone all the time like that can really mess up your life. Sadly, the only thing that can cure that is good old fashioned time. Try to be patient and try not to change what you would normally be doing. Something that may help a little is writing. Write poems, stories, a journal, or anything like that to get your thoughts out of your mind where they're bugging you and onto paper or your computer or wherever. This helped me a little and hopefully you can find something to help you too. Good luck!
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Honestly? No! Not really anyway.
One of the things about falling in love is that the object of your affections does occupy your every waking thought (sometimes even your non-waking thoughts!) for at least the first few months you're together. This is normal and will eventually start to ease away a little by itself when you realise how fed up everyone is with you talking about him non-stop!!
In the meantime, if you really want to try to think about something else, try taking up some sort of hobby but something that requires some brain power, like sudoku or something. But be prepared for the fact it many not work. Love is that all encompassing emotion that can be our making and our destruction. You just need to accept it and let it work it's course. Eventually you will get over the initial "everything he does is FASCINATING and I just HAVE to tell everybody about it!!!" phase and only talk about him half the time!
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