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RUDE FRIEND
Hey ok let me in on my problem, i am 18 years old and i am a fulltime nursing assistant at a hospital. my "best firennd" works a part-time job and dont work much and blames us not being able to hang out on my schooling and job. but on the off days that i can hang out if we do, she is constantly on the phone with her boyfriend,(i just broke up with mine). oh yeah and did i mention my ex is her boyfriends best friend. well anyway i tryto tell her that this upsets me but she dont listen she just continues to do it even though i ask her not to and not to mention she is always blowing me off to be with her boyfriend even after me and mine broke up and i needed someone to comfort me what should i do?
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You haven't said why this friend works part time but it sounds as though she is relatively lonely, judging by the fact she begrudges the time you have to spend at work. If you are working hard, you shouldn't let her make you feel bad because of this.
As far as the situation with the phone goes, she needs to learn that when she is spending time with you, she can't just ignore you. Now, you have a couple of options available to you as to how you deal with this.
You can refuse to see her until she learns to give up the phone for a while. It's really quite selfish, not to mention very poor manners to spend extended lengths of time excluding a guest from a conversation and when the guest can't even hear most of the conversation, it is even worse. So tell her once and for all, either she spends time with you or she talks to her boyfriend but you will not be sidelined and ignored constantly.
The other option is to go ahead and hang out with her. Wait until she is on the phone to her boyfriend and call her either on her home phone if she is on her mobile or on her mobile if she is on the home phone. When she answers, explain that this clearly is the only way you're going to be able to talk to her any time soon so you thought you would give that a try!
If this doesn't work, you'll just have to try talking to her about it again and hope it works. If she can't learn to be a good friend to you then perhaps you will be better off without her.
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I say bye- bye OR get her in CHECK.
i know i would not like if my "BEST FRIEND" ignored me after a HORRIBLE breakup, and i would just hate it period!!!!!:( you're a VERY good friend for not lashing out on her..if you
think she's worth your time, i say talk to her!!!!even though you said she ignores you tell her ONE LAST TIME!!! if she ignores you that time then i say that's a friend worth throwing away for good!!!!that's no way for a friend to treat you like that especially a BEST FRIEND!!!!! good luck , and i hope you make a wise decision in deciding to throw her away or NOT!!!
***HERSHEY WISHES HGS AND KISSES***
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