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Ok everyone please try not to make tooo much fun of me, but I am 25 and never had a boyfriend. I guess what I am asking is simple: Is my life over? Is there any hope if you haven't had a boyfriend by 25?
I don't know what I am doing wrong. I just haven't found anyone that I find really interesting yet.
Should I stop waiting for interesting just to have someone in my life? Is it better to be bored WITH someone than bored without someone? I don't know anymore! Help!
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hmm..maybe you're scaring men. Men are aaprobably afraid to date you because you may "seem" mean, just by the expression on your face. Do you smile when guys come around? Do you give off a positive vibe? Maybe you should put yourself out more. Start conversations, smile, laugh, show that you're interested :] Be happy. and confidence is KEY! Guys love a girl whose confident and has a luminous personality.
FIERCE & xoxo. (:
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My boyfriend and I always use protection unless I'm on my period. Is it possible for me to get pregnant if I keep doing this? (link)
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YEAH! Always use a condom =)
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so i have this friend. we have been friends since like 6th grade, were in 11th. anyway..she honestly treats me like shit. i dont know why i am still friends with her. well no.. i take that back. i do know why. because if i ignore and just dont want to deal with her anymore she will seriously make my life a living hell. she has done it before. she acts like im not even a human. ive been the one that has been there for her since i dont even know. she is crying, im there triyng to help her. but when I am crying or something is wrong with ME, god forbid she takes 5 seconds out of her life to help someone with a problem and that its not all about HER all the damn time. i dont know what to do. im sick of it. when i get mad, i just ignore her. im not the confrontational type, i dont like bitching at people. i usually keep the peace. but she on the otherhand will rip you apart and make you hate yourself. its happened. today in lunch i was telling her something, because i mean her being one of my best friends..itd b nice if i was allowed to talk to her rtight? apparently wrong. i tell her something, she goes "ok, i dont care" and gave me attitude. so i just got up and went with my friend and i started crying so hard. then these other two gierls that i used to be reallly good friends with, not so much anymore, came up and talked to me., they care more than my so called best friend. she knows im mad but she will turn it around on me and be a bitch. i dont know what to do anymore. please help me! (link)
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hey,
Girll, i've been there for before, except my friends know how to treat me right because they're my friends. Friends as in; there for me when i need them, and respects me. && frankly you deserve to be treated that way too. Yes, you guys may have had some good times and obviously some bad ones too, but with a friend like that...YOU NEED TO DROP HER....and if she does try to maker your life a living hell...act like it's not even bothering you...TRUST ME THAT ALWAYS WORKS. don't sink to her level and try to make her life a living hell in return. From what i've read your'e a really good and people would love to have a friend like you.
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hello well im 16 and my girlfriend is too young for me and here parents decided to that if im gonna keep seeing here there gonna call me sagatory rape i want kno wat u have to do too get in trouble for that (link)
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hey,
well it depends how old your girlfriend is?! How old is she?
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I have to ask that you stop adding this tag
line to your answers.
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You are not supposed to be doing it and
we are getting abuse reports about it.
No need to respond to this. Just read and delete
and it won't how up on your column.
Thanks for understanding. You are doing a great
job with the answers!
yg (link)
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sorry i give good advice, hahahaha
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I think Im depressed, and I have no help. I can’t see a doctor, and have no one to look up to or talk to. Long story not so short: When I was 5, my not so nice grandma moved in with me and my family. Our house has only 2 bedrooms and 5 people living in it. It may not seem like a huge deal, but its really affected me, and the way I choose to live my life. To cut to the chase, I’m 15 now, I don’t have many friends, never had a boy friend, I’ve never had privacy, I’m a huge introvert, I don’t talk to anyone about my problems or how I’m feeling. The reason I don’t have many friends is because I cant have sleep overs and have birthday parties. Its embarrassing when a friend finds out I don’t have a room. I think its just a waste. I want a normal teenage life. Its my first year of highschool, and I want to have friends, and boy friends. I need someone to care about me. My family says they do, but I don’t feel it. They don’t help. They don’t seem to see whats happening. Not only is this affecting me mentally, but physically also. I have been sleeping on a couch for 8 years now. Two years on a camp cot at the foot of my parents bed. I have bad hips, and its bad for your spine to curve to the shape of a couch. I have no choice. I live out of a corner basically. I only have a dresser for some clothes, and a computer to keep me sane. I feel numb. I have no emotion. I cry EVERY night. I am not some emo kid that wants attention. This IS real. This is my life I have to live, and deal with but I’ve been trying for so long, and its only gotten harder. The plan was that my family would build on to our house. They would add two additional rooms. They have been telling this to me for as long as I can remember, and they have done nothing to even begin the process. Theres always some lame excuse. When I try to express my feelings to my mom, she says “think about all the other kids that have to live in boxes, and don’t have families.” I have thought about that, but it hasn’t made me feel any better about my situation. I have to stop worrying about other people. I have to have a life to. Don’t I have a say in what I want in my life? They are focused a lot on my sisters life, and her college career, and money. Im very good in school. Its one thing im proud of, but its getting old and my parents expect even more. More than I can give them. To top it all off, my grandma is extremely racists. She is not in very good health at all. Shes depressed, she cant sleep at night, which means I cant sleep, because she is always up walking around and eating and making noises. No one knows about how this bothers me. My grandma has two other sons that have huge houses with plenty of room for her, but she had to come here. Its ridiculous. I try not to talk to her, but that’s difficult with the living situations. I have thought about cutting, burning, and suicide. Anything that hurts. I’ve been using a rubberband to slap my wrist to keep me from doing something more serious. I want to live and have privacy. I don’t want to have to go in the bathroom and act like im taking a shower, just because im crying. I’ve been having nightmares about this. Its really getting to me. This is so selfish. Im sorry.
The point is I don’t know how much longer I can live through my parents lies. I want help. I need advice.
Its one thing when you fall asleep crying, but when you wake up and tears are still falling; that’s a whole different issue.
I have no one to go to.
Please help me. (link)
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hey,
i feel empathy towards you. Sometimes when i read these questions i can't believe how much they compare to mine. I don't believe that you're an emo kid who wants attention. When i was about 10-11 yrs. old my family and I were living in my grandmother's house with three rooms and 7 people in the apartment . Situations were horrible. At that time unfortunately i did contemplate doing horrible things to myself to ease the pain. I felt so alone. and i would too, cry every night. I'm 15 now, and i've never had a boyfriend...back in those days it did feel like my parents focused on my older brother than myself. And my parents wouldnt't let me go to parties or sleepovers either. You asking for help isn't selfish. It's a step, in helping you to become better. Even if you don't have alot of friends, talk to a close friend of yours- trust me it helps. you're stronger than this. DON'T let a situation like this cause you to hurt yourself! YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS. and writing in a diary or journal also helps!! What i say to myself o help me keep going is; [BACK AND STONGER!!]. To me, back and stronger means that i've gone through alot, i've been through things that have changed my life...but i'm back...and stronger so i REFUSE to let anything and anyone BRING ME DOWN!!!!
please feel free to write to me anytime.
_BACK AND STRONGER
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Ok well im going into eighth grade and i have never had a boyfriend. everyone is always like aww you should try to get one. and i tottaly have. but i dont hang out with guys to much. so wat do i do? (link)
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hey,
well um i'm about to be a junior and i still haven't had a boyfriend so your'e not alone. and trust me you don't need to have a boyfriend in the eighth grade.
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hi I like this 20 year old guy and he likes me I'm 16 in october. I really like him and he likes me. he is scared of what people will think if we date and the law my parents his ect ect ect. what I need to know is what can I say to him to make him ask me to be his girlfriend. thank you (link)
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hey,
i definitely understand what you're going through. two years ago i was 14 yrs. old and i liked this eighteen year old guy. I liked him alot....a lot like love. But because of the sagatory rape issue i chose not to get in a relationship with him. I wouldn't want him to get arrested even though i still wanted to be with him. You should just wait until you're eighteen. I know that's a long time but it's better to be safe than sorry!
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My girl friend recently broke up with me...... i do not want to live any more..... i want to end my life....... she was all i had... she loves me still i know she does... her mom just passed away and she said she needs to be alone....... every day i cry all day. its the only thing i think about...... im 24 and i have never been hurt this bad in my life.so i think i am going to kill my self or badyly injure my self so she will stay with me in the hospital....... i am prescribed methadone, i take 100 mgs a day..... to day i am thinking about taking 700 mgs... dont you think that wil kill me in a quiet way.. if it doesnot kill me i am screwed becausei wont have my medicine and ill be even worse off and suffer withdrawl.. like i said i am prescribed methadone, i am the farthest thing from a drug addict ..... ive been sober for 2 years and this is the first time i have had to deal with my problems with out the use of drugs.. i want to die.. another option i am considering is taking a jog at night wearing all black and just jump in front of a car... i figure more than likely this will not kill me and it will look like an accident according to every one else... i know then my girl will stay by my side.. i am also tempting driving a honda civic into a wall or tree going at least 70 miles an hour.. i want to die, but i dont want to hurt my mom,, if she was not in the picture i would have done it already... so please tell me what you think and dont say shit like o go get help....... dont kill your self... god wont accept you in the after life... thats bull shit.. god will forgive me... i just can not go on with out this girl. please reply quickly.. (link)
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hey,
First off: your young,and handsome. Don't let your pass relationship run the rest of your life and ultimately decide if you're going to end it. Your ex is going through a rough time right now. Let her heal, she needs some room, and that's okay. Killing yourself would make you selfish because there are people out there, especially your mom who loves you. you've been sober for two years...don't go back! please don't do this to yourself. you only have one life...live it!
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ok so im lookin for a way to get skinnier because
im startin to look like a white queen latifa
so will someone plz give me tips on how to get a littlier stomach ya know with out becomin anerexic
lolz all answers will be greatly appreciated . (link)
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hey,
lol that queen latifa comment was funny. Well maybe you should start going to the gym. Not by yourself but with a friend so you can stay commited. That way you're having a good time with your friend and getting a great workout all at the same time! At home, you should try doing 100 crunches a day and don't forget to eat healthy!
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well i have a question. =] (obviously)
i am usually 99-100 lbs. I like seriously think of being anorexic, but i'm sort of scared. I want to be skinnier and excercise and all that, but i don't want to like kill myself in the process. I am like obsessed over this. I always think about not eating or counting calories or even purging.
is this something to be concerned about? (link)
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hey,
Yes, i think this is something you should be concerned about. If you think about purging (can lead to bulimia) is a major concern. For now I think it's best if you try your best to stop counting calories and eat more than you excercise. This won't make you overweight or "fat" This will make you healthy and more beautiful than you already are.
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OK- here's my story:
I am blessed to have the greatest job in the world. My grandfather was an acclaimed prof. photographer- the best man I've ever known. He passed away, that was the worst pain I've ever felt. I salvaged my life (from partying & getting into trouble- I'm now only 21) and decided to follow in his footsteps. I work for an amazing portrait studio, where all of my dreams are coming true. I've worked here for almost 4 years now. It all started when I began taking photography classes that were given by the owner & chief, master photographer & CEO. (This company has 4 seperate locations, it's kind of a big deal, the most prominant & well known studio in the state, can you tell that I feel important to be a part of it much? lol) Well, now that I think about it, it started when I had been here for maybe 2 years. The owner would make little comments here & there, I ate it up though, I loved the attention. He's 62 years old & I admire him in the same respect that I admire my grandfather- there's only two people I hold in that light, him & my grandfather. I called a psychic when I was struggling & the psychic told me that my grandfather wanted me to know that there's someone in my career around the same age as him that is my guiding light, & for me to go to him when I wanted to give up. This was a sign I thought for sure, so I told the owner about it, & he proceeded to tell me how much he cared about me, & he was making it his duty to see me succeed. So now, after photo class one night he calls me into his office. We chat about life for a minute (he decides to tell me how unhappy he is in his marriage, & I proceed to do the same & complain about my engagement- yes- that's the kicker- I'm engaged!) He tells me he wants me to model for him semi-topless, & he tells me he doesn't trust himself because he is extremely attracted to me, & tells me to stop him if he makes me uncomfortable. So I agree (I know, I know, but I've always liked way older men & the thought of turning him on, turned me on I can't lie.) So the next week I go to class knowing what's going on after hours. Everyone leaves, we start the shoot- he makes the move & I took it, hook line & sinker- kissing nothing else. That was a confusing time for me, sorting out exactly how I felt (Is it because I admire & respect him so much? Why am I so turned on by this?) So things snowballed & we both have fallen in love with each other- I can't lie- I am 21 years old, in love with the 62 year old owner of the company! He sees me for who I am, he makes me feel so special & he says things to me that I have been waiting to hear all of my life & he means them. He is a wonderful man who sees the drive in me, & he is pushing me to better myself, & making it his own business to see me succeed. He has told me more than once if I ever wanted it to end he'd be upset but he would never treat me different, he feels selfish because he is so much older than me & knows I deserve better, he just hopes I find someone that treats me better than my fiance. Here's the kicker- I just moved to another one of his studios- the one ran by his son. His son is 32, attractive, charismatic & we get along really well. From the moment I came here I had feelings for him. (I came here before the affair started) When the owner kissed me that's the first thing I thought of, what would his son think? And I've been battling myself as to whether or not I should've told him from the start that I had feelings for his son. I know he see's the chemistry between us, everyone does. His son has a girlfriend but flirts with me nonstop, & the owner has told me he's had dreams that me & his son end up together. He's also said "I hope Jason (his son) finds someone better than his girlfriend, but I hope it's not you." So I know he has some apprehensions about this. Jason & I are also both unhappy in our relationships- & he is realistically someone I could see myself being with, for one he's much closer in age. Like I said, I've had feelings for him before the affair started with his father. Oh here's something really exciting I can't leave out: The owner & I are in his office one day after hours, getting busy if you know what I mean. The doors are locked & we're going at it.....the door downstairs slams! We scramble to put our clothes on- there's a knock at the door- the owner stutters "just a second!" opens the door- it's jason! Unreal right? I'm hoping he won't be suspicious. Of cousre the next time me & him are alone he starts making wise cracks about the door being locked & so on- we always joke inappropriatley with each other so I acted like he was crazy & told him he just wished I was in his office with the door locked lol So....what do I do? Do I tell his father how I feel? Am I crazy for being in this love triangle? I would really love an outsiders opinion on my whole situation here....even my mother is at a loss for words- I mean I can't blame her this is kind of crazy. Please help Thers's so much more I could tell but I think you get the basic idea. Ugh- help please- this is mentally draining! (link)
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hey,
wow my jaw just kept on dropping as i read this story! And it's hard to believe this is all true. Ok where do i start?! So, you originally had feelings for Jason in the very beginning..but your feelings were stronger for his father. I personally think you should end it with his dad/boss. Just think, he's 41 years older than you and by the time your 41 he'll be 82 yrs. old. Age isn't anything but a number, but when you get over that limit it is. And it isn't your fault you fell for his dad. Love comes at any time and when it hits, it hits hard! But, it's good to know that he cares about you pursuing your career and goals. So i think you should break it to him nicely. As for Jason, he seems like a nice guy, and how ironic you two are in the same situation. I think you should give him a chance, but of course...let's not forget you have a fiance. Do you still love him?! or do you just think you don't kove him because of all that has happened within the work place?! I think you should think about that.Please, if you have any more questions don't hesitate to write to me!!!
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14/F
I know this is usually impossible but it has to happen. How can I stop liking someone? I am basically in love with my best guy friend, we are together alot and whenever im with him Im really happy and It hurts me everytime I see him leave. He likes my best friend, alot. Ive liked him for over a year and Im fed up with it. I recently broke up with my first boyfriend because it wasnt working out, basically because I didnt care about him nearly as much as I cared about Jason.(my best guy friend). I cant stand liking him anymore because I know for a fact he would never like me that way. I need to move on, but how? (link)
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hey,
Uggh, i know exactly how you feel. I beleieve everyone goes through that at least one point in their life. So he's your best friend..hmmm well i'm going to introduce you to a new method. See, when I felt like you currently feel now, I would write a letter. In that letter I would write everything that I love about him, basically the reasons why you like him. Then, after you're done read it. Finally, RIP IT..TEAR IT APART....I know it sounds a little crazy..but this this ,method acually works for me. I think you should try it. If you do, tell me it how it works out for you.
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There's this guy that I am seriously like in love with. It's just that every time I try and have a normal conversation with him, I either get really tongue-tied or end up saying something really stupid...
I'm afraid that now he probably thinks I'm an idiot because of some of the dumb things that I've said. I'm soooo nervous around him but I really want to go out with him so...what do I do???
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hey,
Don't you just hate when that happens..ughh. Well this may sound a little stupid but with situations like these.... I think you should write down what you would say to him, that way you'll be fully prepared and you won't stumble on your owns. I know exactly how you feel good luck!
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Hello, I'm 15/Female and was wondering if you knew any tips as to improve my vocal range. Last year I sung soprano and had a reasonably high range. Later that year, though, I caught an illness which brought down my range significantly. Now, as a teenager hoping to major in theatre, I am constantly brought down by my lower range. I find it seemingly difficult to travel from my comfortable chest voice notes to higher head notes. Any tips? (link)
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hey,
wow. it sure sucks when an inconvenient sickness suddenly happens. Well i'm pretty sure your use to rehearsing daily, and warming up your voice, so just keep doing that on a daily basis. Oh and always have confidence too. Because if you're in the right state of mind, then you'll do fabulous and get up to those higher head notes like you use too do. But i'm sure you already have enough confidence. Oh and always drink citrus juices. Good Luck.
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15/Female.
My mom was telling me that I was fat and I should seriously exercise but I don't understand why she keeps on saying that since she ain't so skinny herself. I weigh 109 and I am just about 5"6.
Yesterday, I thought about what my mom said and decided I needed to exercise [On My Treadmill]. After about 2 hours, I stopped and I looked at myself in the mirror and realized how fat I was and started to make myself vomit. I can't stop now. How can I loose weight without throwing up? And how do I stop? (link)
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hey,
I'm sorry to hear that your mom calls you "fat." I don't think any parent should feel the need to discourage their child. You weigh 109 and your "5'6"?!! I'd say you weigh enough. I weigh 123 and i'm 5'5 my friends and random people tell me that's too skinny! I'm basically trying to say that you should stop throwing up, I don't know you but I wouldn't want a teenager to deprive herself of food because of what her mom said to her. I'm sure your a beautiful girl and jealousy may be the cause of your mom saying that to you. I know you wanted people to answer your question, but who wants to help a girl to die?!..Please stop doing what you're doing. It would help if you would talk to someone about your current situation. I know it sounds corny, but it helps ..a WHOLE LOT! You're a beautiful young girl live your life, even though your own mother puts you down. LIVE, LAUGH, && LOVE!!!
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i am 14. my boyfriend (also 14) has felt me up. we've made out. and i've given him a handjob.
a) opinion: am i too young for this?
b) opinion: should i slow things down?
we aren't going to have sex or anything.. i just don't know if we're already moving too fast compared to other kids my age. i can't very well ask other kids my age. it would just sound so odd: "hey, have YOU given your boyfriend a handjob!?"
i don't know.
amateur experts: help me out!
thanks a zillion [: (link)
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hey,
a) well personally i think you're too young. But if you feel like you that you and your boyfriend are ready for these sexual stages then it's not a matter of age, it's a matter of being ready.
b) I think you should slow things down. It also depends on how fast you're moving with him. For example, if you progressed to the handjob stage in a couple of months since you been going out with him then yea maybe you are going too fast.
just always remember that it's good to have an open and honest relationship. And it's always good to move at a steady pace.
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Which is it??
Short hair makes you look thinner, or, long hair makes you look thinner?
i remember hearing one of these, but i dont remember which it is. i'm planning on cutting my hair very short, and i'd like to know before i do. (link)
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hey,
well actually this is what i've noticed:
girls that are big, overweight, or obsese...tend to look better with longer hair. Because then it seems as if they lost weight..or gotten thinner. But really it all depends on the way you look..the color of your hair and your skin tone.
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does anyone know any free animated e-cards websites??
i used to use 123greetings.com.. but now Mcafee site adviser shows it as a red site (probably cos it contains viruses).:(
please help me... (link)
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hey,
well you should definitely try www.yahoo.americangreetings.com most of the ecards free!
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i have a boyfriend, and he is amazing and perfect. But I can't help but to be tempted by other guys. I just really need passion in my relationship and my boyfriend is so awkward about it. How can i resist temptation, because I don't want to mess up my relationship or hurt my boyfriend =/
and i can't really tell my boyfriend to pump it up in the bedroom - he can't help being a little nervous about that kind of stuff. (link)
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hey,
So you need passion in your relationship huh?!..well, each person in a relationship has needs. I think you should wait a while. A while as in a month and see if your boyfriend hasn't turned up the heat in the bedroom. Your b.f COULD be insecure about the way he performs. So just let him know that you want more. Don't demand, just suggest. I'm pretty sure he'll want your needs to be meet without you having to pressure him.
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