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Boyfriends?
Ok well im going into eighth grade and i have never had a boyfriend. everyone is always like aww you should try to get one. and i tottaly have. but i dont hang out with guys to much. so wat do i do?
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Oh my gosh, me too. I'm going into 8th grade and I still haven't had a boyfried. And I spend TONS of time with boys! I've always spent a lot of time trying to figure out why... but you know what? I realized a little while ago, that it doesn't matter WHEN you have one. Someday, there's just going to be that special someone, and I know that sounds weird coming from someone your age, but it's really true, and someday, you'll just know. You shouldn't let other people tell you what you should do and when, even IF everyone else has a boyfriend, why should that bother you? I bet you that all those popular girls with perfect boyfriends have that relationship because they're pressured into it. Believe me, I know, I'm sort of observant... So, do you see what I'm saying? My advice is just to try to talk to boys some more, they're really fun to be around, but it's hard to adjust to them from girls. But, still, once you talk to more boys, the better you'll understand them. (Sorry if that's a bit off topic...)
That's the best I got, I hope that helped!
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My friend Jack put it best:
"First- I'm going to tell you that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Sure- they are fun having someone to share things with and be with. But they involve a huge commitment and if you end up with someone who is clingy- they'll want to be with you every minute of every day- and you might not have time for friends or anything else you want to do. I say this because one of my ex-girlfriends was sort of like that- and got mad if I was busy with other plans.. and it was just really retarded."
So just because you haven't had a boyfriend yet doesn't mean you're missing out. You're what, 13 or 14? Big deal! I'm 16 and I've only had one actual boyfriend. And with how it ended, I haven't dated since freshman year.
Just wait until you find a guy who genuinely likes you for who you are. Don't rush into anything, you'll only end up regretting it later.
-Laura. (16-f)
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hey,
well um i'm about to be a junior and i still haven't had a boyfriend so your'e not alone. and trust me you don't need to have a boyfriend in the eighth grade.
HOPE I HELPED
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Forgive me if I sound harsh...
But I'd like to point out that most of the 'relationships' young men and women have during the eighth grade are pretty superficial in general. (Not ALL but MOST.) You're not missing much... Don't sweat it. If any of your fellow students harrass you about your lack of a relationship... Ignore them.
Right now... You have more important things to think about than boys. School performance. College. Your development as an independent individual. The grand, awe-inspiring journey into self-awareness. You will have plenty of time to pursue boys/men later. Appreciate the phase of life you are currently experiencing instead of wishing you were in another phase all-together.
I'm not trying to insult your intelligence or your maturity. I'm simply trying to pass along some hard earned wisdom that I wish someone has bestowed upon me when I was in the eighth grade.
But... If you'd like to meet new people... Including boys... There is nothing wrong with that. Try getting involved in extracurricular activities. What are your hobbies? What are you interested in? Would you like to volunteer? Widening your circle of friends is never a bad idea, no matter how old you get.
And if you really want to attract a boy... Relax. Be yourself. I know you've probably heard it before and that it sounds corny and cliche... But it works. I can personally attest to that.
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