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i need opinions.
i am 14. my boyfriend (also 14) has felt me up. we've made out. and i've given him a handjob.
a) opinion: am i too young for this?
b) opinion: should i slow things down?
we aren't going to have sex or anything.. i just don't know if we're already moving too fast compared to other kids my age. i can't very well ask other kids my age. it would just sound so odd: "hey, have YOU given your boyfriend a handjob!?"
i don't know.
amateur experts: help me out!
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Well when i did all that i was 14. but i wouldn't tell you to slow things down because you're too young, i would say to slow things down because later, when you guys are really comfortable with each other, you might have more fun. and possibly if you guys broke up in the future it would be less awkward if you didn't do so much. you know what i'm sayin?
so i think you should take it slow to have fun. ;)
hope i helped. =]
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In my opinion I dont think you're too young at all, because im pretty sure there are teenagers your age or younger that has done far more things that feeling up,making out, and a handjob. And if you were to wait to awhile to do that it was bound to happen.
The second part of the question is that it just depends on how long you two have been dating.
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One of the reasons 14 is young for any kind of sexual contact is because at 14 most people ask questions like this.
Its not correct to compare yourself to everyone else to decide if you are ready. Many, many kids do this, and decide that because their peers are doing something stupid that its OK for them to as well.
Not that I'm saying youve done anything stupid yet, I'm just pointing out that deciding if you are ready for any level of sexual activity based on what people your age are doing is a terrible idea.
Another clue, if you are wondering if you are going too fast, then the answer is probably yes. Not yes for your friends, not yes for your boyfriend, but yes for you. Sexuality is an individual thing. You may or may not be ready as fast as others are. Theres nothing wrong with that.
Contrary to popular teenaged belief, sex is not a race.
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honestly it's all up to you. having sex is something big although it may seem little. it means having another person look at your body, feel your body, and you get the point. theyre invading you. so i would suggest to slow down a bit. handjobs are handjobs we all masterbate so nothing wrong with that unless you feel uncomfortable with it then don't let him manipulate you and making you feel bad b/c you won't touch him. take control and do what you feel is right, not b/c other people are doing it or b/c he said so. good luck mama and be careful =]
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Personally, 14 is wayyyyy too young. You've got your whole life ahead of you. You don't want to be stuck with one guy your whole life. Yes, you need to slow it down. You need to wait. You wanted my opinion, there you go babe. Hope I helped!
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I really dont want to be the person to say your too young but im 14 as well going on 15 in a few months. I havent done anything sexual yet....im waiting till i get older and i find a guy who i can trust and will stick with me. If you keep doing this and dont take it slow your boyfriend will get everything he wants and then leave. He'll go back and tell his friends and they will use you believe me i have seen it happen and a guy has tried to do it to me because i was friends with a girl that was a major slut...so he thought i was just like her...boy did he get a suprise and find out that we were the total opposite from each other!!!
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Well I started doing stuff when I was 12 and I regret it I really wish I would of waited. So to me you are too young and you should wait.
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hey,
a) well personally i think you're too young. But if you feel like you that you and your boyfriend are ready for these sexual stages then it's not a matter of age, it's a matter of being ready.
b) I think you should slow things down. It also depends on how fast you're moving with him. For example, if you progressed to the handjob stage in a couple of months since you been going out with him then yea maybe you are going too fast.
just always remember that it's good to have an open and honest relationship. And it's always good to move at a steady pace.
HOPE I HELPED
***HERSHI WISHES HUGS AND KISSES***
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Only YOU know the answers to both of those questions....if you think that things are going too fast and too far, then tell your bf that you want to take things slower. Your not doing anything illegal, and your right, you can't exactly go around asking those questions....so it's up to you. If your feeeling unsure about the way things are going then talk to him and tell him that you feel that way...if he tries to presure you into anything more than your ready for, get rid of him ASAP. A good boyfriend will understand how you feel and not pressure you into things that you don't think that you are ready for. Good luck
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My onpion your young for this.
Sorry but you should really slow down things.
Take it slow its ok to make out is fine but fingering,blowjob,ect. shouldnt be done.Wait till your 16 or above that to do.
i hope i helped :]
your welcome.
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It really depends on opinion. I know lots of people that would say you're too young, but I know as well that there are a fair amount of people your age doing this.
Just in general, though, if you are having doubts that tell you you're too young, that you should slow things down, you should probably listen to them.
If it's any interest to you, a study online I found showed that 16% of adults reported first having sex before they were 15 years old... my source is [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
I'm not sure how accurate it is, but it should give you some idea of sexuality at your age (without having to ask everyone you know) =]
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