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really confused about this guy
well i like or liked (i totally dont know what to think anymore? ) this guy named peter! and well i think he liked me back and he always smiled at me and smiled at me but i'm kind of shy so i never smiled back. so once in my bus he sat next to me and talked to me but i was in a bad mood and very mean to him! well not THAT mean but kinda mean lol so then he never talked to me again but sometimes he still looked at me. so i felt bad and i called him today i was like me: hi my name is cornelia can i please talk to peter peter: yeah i'm peter me: oh well hi its me you know that mean girl? uhm yeah so i just wanted to appologize for being so mean! peter:uhu silence.. me: so is everythink ok again? peter: uhh yeah silence me: ok than silence peter: bye me: bye and well that was it and i started grying cause it totally went wrong! i thought he would say like ok i except it or whatever but he said nothing at all? does he hate me now? i am really upset! i think he's gonn atell everybody now that i called him and then there all gonna laugh at me! but i dont get it! he even told me he loved me once (i was kinda mean then 2) but i tried to be nice now! he act like he didnt care! i need advice i'm really upset!!!! oh and please dont delete this cause i really need advice and i dont wanna write the whole question over again.
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Oh dear!!! It sounds as though his pride and self esteem were probably quite hurt because of the way you were with him before and ESPECIALLY after he told you he loved you. It's a typical male response to save face in such situations which is why he was acting so strangely with you and why he acted like he didn't care. It's because deep down, he DOES care and he's hurt.
I think the best thing you can really do is to talk to him properly about this. He's probably not going to tell all his friends and make them laugh at you so please don't worry about that but you do need to set him straight and let him know that you don't hate him. You also need to let him know how you DO feel about him. If you're not sure, tell him you're not sure but most of all, apologise for treating him the way you did and assure him it wasn't anything to do with him but more to do with other things that were going on.
Hopefully once you have done this, you will be able to go forward, at least as friends and see if you want to progress into more than friends when you know how you feel for sure.
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well when boys get rejected or laughed at they kind of take it hard. He probably likes you but he just wants to play cool. When you phoned him and he was not expecting it i guess he was silent because he liked you sometimes boys are like that i mean if a boy phoned me out of the blue who i liked i think i would be silent to hear what he has to say. Why does it matter if he tells everyone that you phoned him! Just say so??? its not like you confessed you loved him on the phone or did you hehe joking. Erm what to do now i say i don't think he hates you, unless hes childish build it up by smiling at him in school, sitting next 2 him and being nice this time.you have said sorry and im afraid thats all you can do now you have to wait and see what happens next but don't say sorry anymore you phoned and said sorry thats enough overwise he will think ahh this girl is so all over me, hope i helped lv sweetcorn if you need any further advuice don't hesitate to inbox me.
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You probably took him by suprise calling him. He had tried to show interest in you and each time you were mean to him.
He may have thought that it was a joke or that you were going to be mean again so he didn't say much.
Talk to him the next time you see him. Sit next to him on the bus and apologize in person. Try joking and making fun of it or yourself(just not of him preferably)
If he doesn't respond to you, well I can't really blame him and neither should you. You wouldn't take someone you liked being mean to you very well, would you?
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I guess he is trying to move on or just putting on an act to prove something to you.
I think its good that you apologized to him but I don't think you should do anything else. Give it some time and see what happens.
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It sounds like you didn't get anywhere by calling this boy, and you now probably feel like you've made a fool of yourself.
If he tells people about the call and they make fun of you just say "I owed him an apology and if he took it wrong, that's his problem, but it was no big deal really"
You've got to look at this from his perspective, he tried to be nice and you were mean. So you've already sent out the wrong message. Now you have apologized, so at least you tried to make it right and hopefully he realizes that.
The best thing to do now is wait and see what happens. Be polite if he talks to you, say hello if you meet him on the street, but do nothing else. If he was meant to be your boyfriend it will happen someday. If not, someone else will come along.
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