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bad for her
I have a friend that is going out with a guy who is really bad for her. He has hurt her before. He has sprained my wrist purposely and he is a drug dealer. He deals hardcore stuff; cocaine, crystal meth, heroin, etc. She has done coke in the past and she was beginning to develop a dependancy, but my friends and I helped her to kick it. We think that she has started using again and has probably started with other drugs, too. We've tried talking to her, but she won't seem to listen. Is there any way we can get her away from him? Thanks.
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If she continues to get worse, I would reccomend sending her to the counselor. If she refuses you need to talk to them for her, because what she's doing is dangerous.
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This is a very tricky situation. Under these circumstances, it is very tempting to decide that since she isn't listening, you have no choice but to let her pick her own path.
However, I suspect that, for whatever reason, she is trapped in this situation and she doesn't really know her own path. She isn't listening to you probably because she is addicted to the drugs her boyfriend can give her or because she has some form of other attachment to him. The problem with either of these is that she will not be herself right now and it will be very hard, if not impossible to get through to her. I expect when you do try to talk to her about this she probably laughs it off, saying she's fine or knows what she is doing or she's aggressive about it.
The fact of this matter is that you alone won't be able to get through to her because she needs to see what a jerk her boyfriend is and what sort of state she has got herself in. Now, what I will suggest isn't favourable but it is an option. You could make an anonymous call to the police and tell them about her boyfriends drug dealings. If he's a bad guy, he will get caught by the police and he may well get sent to prison. If you make this call anonymously, neither of them will know it was anything to do with you or your friends and the time away from this guy may be what your friend needs to sort her head out.
If you really don't think this is an option, the only other thing I can suggest is to get her family involved. I don't know how old she is or whether she still lives at home but if she does it might be worth having a word with her parents about it. They might know a way to get through to her and help her realise the damage she is doing to her body and to her life.
Good luck.
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Hey Hun
well you should tell her parents it might cause some problems between use but tell her you love her as a friend and you dont want anything to happen to her and telling her parents was the best option and if dosnt wnat to be your friend well hey look on the bights side she will eventually tell you how right yoy were adn how rry she is andit's better to lose a friend for a while then losing her forever or watching something bad happen to her cause she needs to learn what life is really about
well take acre and gd luk mwa mwa
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Since when are friends not good enough friends to tell the other friends parents. Seriously wtf is wrong with you. The drugs you named are some of the worst around, judging solely on what they are chemically made of. RAT her a$$ out please.
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This question is almost as difficult to answer as it is for you to experience. First of all, you have to recognize that your friend has CHOSEN this person knowing what you already know. Her perception is clouded, at least according to you and me. She is not being manipulated by him to do drugs; if she's doing them, she has chosen to be with him and has therefore gotten access TO them. Do you see the difference? Another thing you have to recognize is that although it is difficult for you, you may have to go to her parents with this information. It may mean that she'll never speak to you again, and you need to know that going into it. The payoff is this: it may save her life. Drug use does cause addiction, and addiction does not "drop off" due to logic or age. If you do not try to help her (and you as a friend don't have as much power as a close adult) she may head down the wrong path for the rest of her LIFE. Good luck, and I'll keep you in my thoughts.
-WBL
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Unfortunately, probably not on your own.
As you know, or will soon discover, those boyfriends have a LOT of influence.
My suggestion would be to go to her parents with the information you have. Its probably your only choice. :)
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