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Personality
I'm 16/f and I was talking to one of my guys friends today and about guys that like me but wouldn't date me. He said that I sometimes intimidate guys because I'm cocky and I make fun of people. I don't randomly make fun of people but just my friends like crack jokes about them and stuff. They do it right back to me and don't care so it isn't like mean or anything, just fun/funny. And yeah, I can be a little on the cocky side sometimes but most of it is just confidence; only like .000007% of me comes of as well...conceded.
So my question is guys, do girls like that intimidate you? Because personally, I think if you are intimidate by a girl like that then you're a pussy and I wouldn't want to date you anyways. Or is it just insecure high school boys?
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You shouldn't have to change your personality for any boy. Not only will you end up hating yourself because you're fake, but the boys that'll be attracted to you won't be attracted to the "real" you, just a shallow image, which is pretty stupid. Boys are "intimidated" by confident (which you sound like, NOT conceited) girls because at this stage in their life they're really insecure. So anything that threatens to deflate their egos and turn them into little boys again makes them scared. They'll grow out of it. Every boy I know would rather date a mature, emotionally strong, confident girl than someone who has no spine or personality. p.s. that's CREEPY.
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screw them! no GUY should be INTIMIDATED by a GIRL!!!!
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OMG just reading some of these answers made me want to gag. Don't be one of those dumb girls who acts all stupid around guys she likes. Keep at it! Any guy who is scared by a strong personality and a sense of humour isn't worth dating. I have the same problem, but I decided to stick to my guns, and I've found some great guys now that I'm away at university, and they LOVE that I have a personality. It's high school boys who want to feel superior to someone, trust me. You're just ahead of your time for strength of personality!
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You're not giving the right attitude for dating. I was much like you in high school. I didn't get a boyfriend until my first year in college. If a guy doesn't think that you like them then there is much less of a chance that they would ask you out. Forget about giving the right signals, you aren't giving any signals at all. That doesn't mean that something is wrong with you or that you're not dating material, it just means that you're not going to be attracting guys with the way you carry yourself. I don't think you should change. I didn't and I ended up just fine. I'm in a really great relationship that has gone very well for over a year. High school relationships aren't usually very good ones. You've been with the people for so many years and in just a few more you'll be separated. Very few people stay with their high school sweethearts. I'll bet it's not that the guys you talked to don't like your looks or personality, it's just that it's not the right time or place for a relationship to form. I'd say just keep on keepin on with the way you are and sooner or later you'll find a guy that really likes you and will be great for you and you for him. Don't date just to date. It's silly. Once you get into college or into the work force there will be tons of opportunities for you. I do have one tip though. You really have to let guys you like know that you like them. I made that mistake so many times. I acted the way I would act around anybody towards them. If they don't like me for who I really am what's the point in dating them? Why should I change, right? True, but wrong. Doing that makes guys that you like think that you don't like them so there is much less of a chance that they'll ask you out whether they like you or not. You don't have to change per se, you just have to let them know that you're interested in them in whatever way you feel most comfortable. I went the route of implications and it ended in a really terrible rejection, so try to be kind of obvious about it. If you're not obvious you're more likely to get used. I hope that some of what I said can help you and I wish you the best of luck. Don't worry, you will find someone! :)
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I don't like cocky girls AT ALL.
Cocky girls think that they are to good for people so I definitely wouldn't want anyone like that.
I'm pretty sure you don't come off ".000007%" conceded because why would your guy friend say that you were. I'm sure its way more than that.
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