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I am a blunt, cynical, nerdy nymphomaniac, incapable of shutting my mouth (partially due to chromosomal content). On several past occasions, I've managed to convince someone that my IQ was larger than my breast size, but my general intelligence and comprehension capabilities waver somewhere between a waffle cone and a gerbil.
I know nothing about everything, in stark contrast to poncy intellectuals everywhere, but I can maintain a pleasant facade of knowledge in these categories: alternative lifestyles, (alternative) sexuality and culture, embarrassing nuances of human behavior, grammar, dorkiness, makeup (I wear a shit ton), ancient cultures, art, mental illnesses, body modification.


advice

I met this guy at a series of math conferences. He's really cute, fun to talk to, and really smart. During the conference breaks, we basically spent the whole time talking and hanging out. I know this sounds ridiculous, but...I have a crush on him now. The only problem is---I'll probably never see him again. He goes to school in a different county. How should I get over him?

I know this makes me sound like a moronic, blathering idiot, but at least I can find some advice here without anyone actually knowing who I am.

If you think a different county's far away, try falling in love with someone from a different COUNTRY. ;)

p.s. It sucks.
p.p.s. I drive through 3 counties to get to work every day. I swear it isn't that far.

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Hey..
I just lost my friend to a shooting incident and lately I've been having dreams about her.. like really horrible dreams.
like the other night i had a dream that we were just hanging out and then all of a sudden she pulled out a gun and shot herself in the head.. is there any way to stop haiving these dreams?
also..my mom woke me up after one of the dreams and i starting cursing at her. i didnt mean to i was really upset..and im grounded for a month. i dont like i should be grounded that long. do you agree? should i say something to her about it?
sorry so long. thanks..

Sounds like you could be suffering from Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome. I strongly suggest you see a psychologist or speak with someone capable of counseling you through your shock effectively. I had a friend suffering from PTSS for whom counseling made a huge difference.

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hi i need a job and well lets just say im kind of bad with money lol i need a job that i can do over the summer that i dont need like be a cashier lol i know theres not alot but i would just like some ideas.

being a lifeguard/ ticket taker, etc. at a pool or beach, working at a theater, amusement park, ice cream shop, renaissance festival, grocery store, art store, sandwich shop, gardening/plant shop, babysitting, working at a movie store, game store, clothing store.

So many options! Just look for jobs that say "seasonal" in your local paper or apply anywhere that has a help wanted sign.

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When I breathe heavily or move a little bit, there's a sharp pain a little below my left breast. What is this? Is it something serious?

This might sound a little weird, but I had the same problem. My doctor pretty much had no idea what it was, especially since I get enough exercise and don't eat incredibly junky food. My mom, who goes to a chiropractor for a car accident injury, told me that I might've thrown my back out. She suggested her chiropractor. I was pretty skeptical but went to see him anyway. After cursorily examining me, he came to the conclusion that one of my ribs was out (without me telling him about my issue), put me on his table, crunched me a little, and that was it (except for everything else he did for my back). It felt slightly worse afterward, but later in the evening I noticed that the pain wasn't there anymore, and it rarely has been since. Every time it appears, he fixes it.
Slightly odd solution, but worth a try.
p.s. I am EXTREMELY skeptical about holistic medicine, so it wasn't just psychosomatic.

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I get extremely nervous about everything. like if i was trying out for a team in school, i get extremely nervous and i can hardly focus. or even something stupid like going to a teacher for extra help. sometimes im so nervous about something that I cry about it and cant gain control. it makes me sick, literally, like if i was about to do something nerve racking. what should i do?

Being really nervous in situations out of your control is normal, especially in your teenage years. Excessive nervousness can either be a sign that you're just a more easily emotional person in general (which does happen) or a sign of an anxiety disorder. Either one is treatable. I suggest confiding these problems to an adult you trust, like a counselor or a parent. They'll most likely listen to you (talking about it always helps) or connect you to someone that can test you for an anxiety disorder, like a psychiatrist. Googling "anxiety" or "teen anxiety" (which will give you sites like this)
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/anxiety.html might help as well.
Try not to self-diagnose until you've seen a professional.
Hope this helps.

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i am only 14!! and i am having a baby!! and my ex broke up with me before he even found out! and he's still there for me and we're going back out now! but idk how to handle it!

The first thing you should be doing is finding an adult (parent, counselor, family friend) that you can confide in and can help you through this. I strongly urge you to tell your parents; unless they're complete assholes, they'll want to help you before anything else. Sure, they might (read:will) be angry, but you're also their daughter and they want you to be happy, healthy and safe. If you feel like there is no adult around you to confide in, please visit an organization like Planned Parenthood in your area to get more information about the options you have in this pregnancy. Your boyfriend should be there for you and be there WITH you when exploring all your options. Please don't listen to people that have their own agendas in mind. You don't have to keep the baby; likewise, you don't have to have an abortion. The choice is up to YOU, and if you were mature enough to accept the responsibility of sex and possible pregnancy, you should be able to make a choice when the pregnancy happens. I'm not trying to be mean, and I'm not going to bitch at you about whose "fault" it is or how you're "too young" for a kid. I know plenty of people whose birth control failed, leaving them pregnant, and I know plenty of people who turned out great despite having extremely young parents (my boyfriend's mom was 15). You guys don't need to be going through this alone. I strongly urge you to read up on the options you have in this pregnancy, and please listen to yourself over everyone in this matter. It is your body, and your baby.
Please try to seek non-judgemental, non-biased help. Whatever decision you make will not be the end of the world. I know several people who've had an abortion and are healthy, happy and finctional, several people who've adopted out their babies and are still sure it was the right decision, and several people my age or younger with babies that have enriched their lives immensely. You need some kind of support. Please call 1-888-4-OPTIONS or google "teen pregnancy help" or visit plannedparenthood.org. to find a location near your house. You can get through this, I swear.

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I've been working with this one company for about 5 months now. My 3 month probation is over and I'm in the union now. It's quite a large store; it has grocery and clothing and everything else. Anyways; I havent been very happy there for a long time. For one thing it's only 20 hours a week and pays minimum wage. My supervisor can be extremely moody. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells around her. In the past she has yelled at me. She also gave me crap for signing out 1 minute early once and warned if I did it again she'd deduct 15 minutes off my pay. She was being nice to me yesterday but then threw in a dig. She told me she had been hearing I havent been putting my garbage away after putting out stock. This wasnt true. She was really mean about the way she said it too.
I don't think anyone in my department is happy; everyone has been really grumpy lately. All I know is that I show up for work and give it my best. I've never phoned in sick; have covered for others, and I'm pleasant to everyone. I think for the ammount of effort I put in for a minimum wage part time job far exceeds the ammount of respect I'm getting. I'm sure I could find a better job that treats me nicer.
Does anyone have any advice for me?

I was in a job for 3 years that I hated exponentially more every day. It really was the little things that got me- my manager treating me like a child, subtle digs on my performance (which was in no way sub-par), lies or rumors being taken as truth by management, being paid too little, having too much expected of me (picking up extra hours and overtime was expected, and you were punished if you chose not to), etc. There wasn't anything huge, but the low-grade mental anxiety really screwed me up over time. It has been scientifically proven that anxiety affects your health in a negative way. When I finished school and began working full time, I started getting sick more often, angry without provocation and extremely depressed while thinking about/at work. I finally quit about 3 months ago, and, while it was scary (I was dumb and didn't find another job first) it was a really great feeling. I have 2 jobs that I love now, in which I'm treated equally, paid enough, and the expectations are reasonable. Honestly, you're too young to live with that much crap for minimum wage. I say get out of there. I swear it'll be like a huge weight is lifted off your shoulders. Even if you don't have a ton of experience, there are MANY jobs that pay more than minimum wage. Try places like the help wanted ads or google "jobs" to find some in your area.
I will tell you that working retail is synonymous with having pissed off bosses that resent the fact that they're powerless and take it out on the employees. The only way to avoid it is to look for work in which you're not constantly supervised.
What skills do you have? What hobbies do you have? If you like books, try a book store; art, art store. What would you like to learn about? My friend ended up working in a game store (he didn't know ANYTHING about games until then) and it was incredibly fun and informative. Don't ignore obvious jobs, ex: babysitting or being a lifeguard at a pool. Almost everyone can handle kids or swim, and they both pay more than minimum wage. Or if you're going to get a minimum wage job and there's no other option, try to make sure it has other benefits that make up for that, like a really big discount or free merchandise or something. For example, working at a theater means you get to see all of the movies free. Sometimes seasonal work pays more, has more flexible hours and doesn't insist that you stay there forever. Don't be afraid to get another job if you dislike one- you have more options than you think, especially at your age, and you'll be happier in the long run. Hope this helps.
p.s. Trust me, get another job before you quit this one. Not only will you have a more continuous job history, but you won't be as stressed out about money coming in.

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Jesus, I just got back from the Spelling bee. I had been studying like a fiend the night before (From 4:00pm-10:00pm), I had the whole Paideia memorized, and I was almost sure that I would be headed for Washington D.C. in a few months. OMG! GODDAMNIT! It was the first round, and they gave me a really easy word, and I completely forgot the word. The word was "notary." Isn't that an easy word? I bet everyone here can spell that word. I just blanked out on that word and forgot. They rang a little bell, and that signified that I was the 4th person out on the 1st round. I suddenly remembered how to spell the word when they rang the bell, but it was too late. I lost.



All of that hard work----flushed down the toilet. If it weren't for that stupid word, I know I could have won. I have never lost a spelling bee in my life. I need to talk.

Anyone who at least tries to make me feel better gets a 5

When I was about 12, almost the same age you are, I lived in Montana. I had also not lost a spelling bee in my life. Spelling was my THING, and that year I entered my town's spelling bee and won, and my county's, and I ended up going to state. I made it all the way to the final round, and I was one of four people left, despite the fact that people were mouthing the answers in the audience, which was pretty lame. The guy who pronounced the words had a very odd accent, and sometimes I have this weird mental dyslexia in which I hear or see something completely differently than it is, like a letter or a word. Anyway, the man pronounced the word, and I had NOT A DAMN CLUE what it was. I used all the chances they give you (like asking the root of the word, etc.) and ended up spelling a COMPLETELY different word. My mom and I had driven 6 hours to get there, and I fucked up in the last round. The shitty thing was that I could spell every other word, including the one that won the spelling bee. I hope THAT makes you feel better. ;)

p.s. To this day, I can't remember what word it was.

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i think i may be a lesbian or bi! i have a boy friend whom i love but when i read things about girls and boys having sex it just grosses me out. but when i read about two girls i get sooo horny! i love my boyfriend but i just am really sexually attracted to girls.... i can't be... can I?

While it's common at your age to have sexual attractions that seem strange to you, and maybe don't correspond to the orientation you turn out to have, it's also possible that your bisexual or gay feelings have finally surfaced. People don't TURN gay or bisexual; it's something they're born with, and it's not the end of the world if that's what you end up being. Just because you're turned off by the thought of having sex with boys doesn't mean you're automatically gay. When I was a teenager, teenage boys were creepy and unattractive to me, and I only liked girls. As I got older, boys started to mature, and I found myself growing attracted to them, though I still primarily prefer girls. It's not unusual if one is bisexual to have different needs that are met by different genders. I mean, I still date boys, but I'm more sexually attracted to women.
My opinion: If you're attracted regularly to more than one woman, and your feelings for them are decidedly not platonic, you might be at least bisexual. Hey, it's not such a bad thing-it means that you have twice as many people as potential partners. Maybe you should eventually try girls out if your feelings strengthen over time. Just bear in mind that they aren't abnormal.
Oh, and I'm sure if you ever felt the need to tell your boyfriend about it, he'd be very accepting. ;) Most boys are.
Hope this helps.

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To start off, I guess I should tell you I'm 15 years old. My mom is VERY religious. She goes to church every chance she gets. She is one of the strongest believers God and the bible that I have ever met. I, on the other hand, am confused about all of this. My beliefs in God, the bible, heaven, hell are slim. I've lost alot of faith. It's my age, I guess.. I'm to the point where I need proof and evidence of everything. I can't believe in something over what a book says. I need evidence from scientists. From what I know, there has been no proff of the Bible Days. So my question is this.. How could I tell my mom that I don't believe and that I don't want to go to church every sunday anymore? I NEED to tell her, this is important. But I KNOW that it would COMPLETELY crush her if she ever knew. How could I break the news to her? PLEASE HELP! I rate 10's just for trying. But please give me good, honest answers.

Thank you.

I think pretty much everyone raised in a specific faith goes through a period where they question it. It's an assertion of free will and deeper thinking, and is a healthy and normal behavior. This would be an ideal time to figure out whether or not other religions besides Christianity fit you, and if not, whether you identify as agnostic or an antheist, et al. Sometimes no label fits, and it really doesn't seem important to identify yourself as ANYTHING, and that's also fine. If you want to break it (loss of faith/confusion, etc.) to your mom gently, you should keep the explanation simple; example: "I feel that my religious beliefs are equally meaningful whether I attend church or not." Of course you don't have to word it like that or you'd sound like an attorney. Try making a comment that, while true to what you feel, doesn't necessarily have a religious connotation. The previous phrase is equally true whether you're a Christian or an atheist. If you feel like you have to let her know that you've lost faith, try to focus on the things you still believe in that you and she share. For example, treating people with respect isn't necessarily a religious concept, but it's a large part of Christianity. Try to reiterate the fact that you won't fall into moral oblivion without religion- I hardly think that you're going to immediately start stealing and killing people, etc. Stay away from contradictions of her belief; if she's as religious as you say, you won't sway her. Calmly state that while you respect her beliefs, you don't share them.
Hey, I was raised in a very religious family, and I'm not at all religious. I'm not going to lie to you- separating yourself from her religion is probably going to cause her to be very upset and sad. She may temporarily either reject your beliefs (or you) or pretend that you haven't changed them. She may deny it, get angry, try to use guilt, etc., but she will eventually get the point, trust me, and if she's a good mom, the fact that you're her family will win out over the fact that you don't share her religion. And if it doesn't, I hate to be bleak, but there's nothing you can do except hope that she comes to her senses. I am positive, though, that a religious parent would rather have contact with a non-religious kid than no contact with their kid at all.

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is there anyway to slow down your period? like i got it on saturday and i really really need it to be down by friday cause im going away. please help!! ill rate super high!

I'm not sure if you take birth control pills, but if you do, start a new pack on Thursday, regardless of whether your period's done. If it doesn't stop it, it'll at least make it manageable.

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My hair is unmanagable.
Even when I straigten it, it is all frizzy and poofy. Its so frustrating.
I hate it.
I heard on advicenators someone telling someone else you can get your hair permanantly straightened in a salon for like 75 bucks. I don't want to get in Japanese straightened because it costs a lot of money. If I get it done at a salon for 75 bucks, how long will it last?
Does it really work?

Try a ceramic flat iron. My friend's hair is CRAZY, and it worked perfectly. Plus, they're only $30.

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okay so i am in 6th grade and tomorrow me and my boyfriend are planning on hooking up. It will be my first time, but the only problem is that i don't know how! i know what it is and all, i just don't know how to do it so that it's feels nice for him also. If you could please give me some pointers on how to do it, that would be greatly appreciated! i rate 5's! Thanks!

Dude, I still think 12 is way young to have sex, if that's what you're talking about, but I'm sure you'll go ahead with it regardless of what I say, so I'm going to save you a lecture.
First times of anything (sex, oral sex, making out, etc., etc.) are all awkward. They're not going to be perfect; please don't expect them to be. It'll probably be more embarrassing than anything. And don't worry about making him happy or you'll just ruin your experience. Guys bodies are built to be able to make themselves happy.
My conscience won't let me tell you the physical ways to do what you're planning to do, but for god's sake, use protection. A baby would SUCK at your age.
All I'm going to say is that anything with sex isn't as hard as it looks. Bodies are pretty self-explanatory.

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okay well on friday this kid is supposed to eat me out. this is the first time that its gonna happen to me and like im kinda scared. like i dont have any regrets or anything like i know i want to do it im just scared like idk.. can someone tell me like what to expect and like tips or something.. ill comment high but if its stuff like about stds and to young or sumthing ill rate loww :]

If it's the first time anyone's going down on you, I think the most important thing to remember is to stay relaxed. I know this sounds selfish, but don't obsess about the guy (what he's feeling, whether he likes it, whether you look or smell or taste weird, etc). Guys really aren't thinking about whatever flaws you think you have. They're just happy to be there. This is about getting YOU off, not him (at least, right away)and he obviously feels the same way, or he wouldn't be doing it. So just relax and don't worry. It's common to be nervous, and if he's not a douchebag, he'll take this into account. Laughing or blushing or feeling ridiculously shy aren't weird, and if you get overwhelmed and want to back out, hey, if he's a good guy, he'll respect that. Anyway, laughing takes the tension out of situations.
Don't expect him to be perfect. Guys don't have girl parts, so there's a good chance they're winging it, at least partially. PLEASE don't be afraid to give him (non-judgemental) pointers. It'll lead to a better experience for you and him. He really will appreciate this, and it won't come off bitchy. And if it takes a while, don't get frustrated or embarrassed. You probably know your body pretty well, but he doesn't. Likewise, (I know this sounds weird) your body doesn't know HIM very well. It can take a while to get used to different techniques. Finally, if he doesn't end up getting you off, don't be embarrassed or ashamed. I mean, it'll just lead to more chances for him to do so, which are probably okay with you. ;) Good luck.

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My boyfriend of two years is really having some issues. We're both 15. And he has an obsession with a band about killing and it is plain nasty. I accept the fact that he loves his music, don't get me wrong, but it's seriously hurting our relationship. He has a MySpace, and I can't stand to see what is written on it. Tonight I looked at it and he was talking about how hott some chick was that his friend was dating and talking about how awesome weed is, and yet he seems to agree with me that weed is a really low and stupid thing to do. He is a completly diffrent person when he's with his friends. I know that he's not suppose to act the same as he does atround me, but it's really diffrent, I feel like I don't know him and we've been together for two years! I've talked to him about what he says on the MySpace, and he tells me that his friend got on his name and wrote it. Everytime I try to approach a serous talk with him about how his music and the way he acts damages us, he takes it like I hate his music and I want him to stop listening to it. I want him to stop acting out the music, and acting like an idiot when I know he's so much better. Can anyone give me advice? I understand that the length of this question is long, but I do promise that I will let you know how great your advice was. Thank you so much in Advance.

Sounds like your boyfriend's trying too hard to fit in. When you play games with popularity, usually someone gets screwed over, and it's usually someone you care about. Guys will always act differently when they're around their friends. It might be a macho thing, they might be trying to impress them, I'm not sure. I know that it's really common in junior high and high school. It sounds like your boyfriend's very unsure of himself and feels like he needs to act like an asshole to fit in. This includes crap like making fun of girls or talking about them like sex objects, and trying everything his friends try (to keep up with them) like smoking pot, etc. I'm not sure his music taste has the intention of hurting you. I had an ex-boyfriend who listened to music about chopping people up, constantly, and he was the nicest guy ever. Just ask him not to listen to it around you.
Ok, honestly, it looks like your boyfriend's starting to fall in with the wrong crowd. I don't want to sound like your mom here, but I'd really examine everything he says closely. I'm sure he loves you, but he's also constantly lying to either his friends or you. Think about it. He's telling two completely different stories. And if he's convincing enough to fool either you or your friends, that's pretty shady. You should think pretty hard about continuing a relationship with this guy. If he's not listening to you now, and you've already calmly discussed with him the issues in a non-accusatory way (example: "I wish you'd treat women like you treat me" rather than "you're such an asshole to her") then you should begin to emotionally guard yourself. He's nearing a point where he's going to choose between you and his friends, and you might not like the choice.
I know your instinct is to throw everything you've got into making him stay. But he's a teenage boy, and they're so damn independent that he'll have to mke this decision on his own. If you try to use guilt, or get angry, or get quiet, he'll think you're trying to emotionally manipulate him. So don't give him an ultimatum, but make it clear that if he's determined to be this fake person, he's not going to drag you down with him. Hope this helps.

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I'm 16/f and I was talking to one of my guys friends today and about guys that like me but wouldn't date me. He said that I sometimes intimidate guys because I'm cocky and I make fun of people. I don't randomly make fun of people but just my friends like crack jokes about them and stuff. They do it right back to me and don't care so it isn't like mean or anything, just fun/funny. And yeah, I can be a little on the cocky side sometimes but most of it is just confidence; only like .000007% of me comes of as well...conceded.


So my question is guys, do girls like that intimidate you? Because personally, I think if you are intimidate by a girl like that then you're a pussy and I wouldn't want to date you anyways. Or is it just insecure high school boys?

You shouldn't have to change your personality for any boy. Not only will you end up hating yourself because you're fake, but the boys that'll be attracted to you won't be attracted to the "real" you, just a shallow image, which is pretty stupid. Boys are "intimidated" by confident (which you sound like, NOT conceited) girls because at this stage in their life they're really insecure. So anything that threatens to deflate their egos and turn them into little boys again makes them scared. They'll grow out of it. Every boy I know would rather date a mature, emotionally strong, confident girl than someone who has no spine or personality. p.s. that's CREEPY.

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my teacher is makin everyone do an extemporaneous speech which is just a regular speech but u only git 24 hours to prepare for it and you have to answer a question. my question is which sex is more responsible for birth control. i need everyones opinions so tell me what you think and why you think that. i rate high cuz this is obviously easy. thnx in advance.

It SHOULD be both. You really should mention that. Birth control's not really available for boys, except condoms, but they should consistently carry those if they're having sex. Condoms only have a slightly greater risk of pregnancy than birth control. Girls supposedly have the greater access to birth control, but also the greater risk of either misusing it, whether intentionally (to get pregnant, etc.) or unintentionally (forgot pill, etc). Girls also have a greater chance of health risks from the birth control than guys do. I really believe that boys and girls should have access constantly, should they choose to have sex, to methods of birth control they are able to use (condoms) or are already using (birth control). Then there's the social stigma of birth control; example: if a guy carries around a condom, he's a stud. If a girl does, she's a slut. In many cases, it's easier and less time and money-consuming for the boy to procure birth control like condoms. I don't know about you, but when I was a teenager, it was impossible to leave the house without telling parents where I was going (if I wanted to go to Planned Parenthood), whereas a boy could probably say he's going to the drugstore or gas station and be fine. Not to mention the fact that a girl couldn't really go to a family doctor without parents finding out (I know it's not legal, but it happens) and many girls that have sex won't go get birth control because you need to have a pelvic exam and that's a terrifying experience to them. I don't know. I say boys. It's much easier for them to get it than girls (unless the girls have really lenient parents), much easier to carry and remember it (anyone ever missed a pill?) and frankly, they're much more likely to use it. Most of the teenage girls I talked to are for some reason reluctant to keep condoms around or insist that a guy use them. Don't want to spoil the mood or something? On the other hand, a guy can carry around a condom (although he shouldn't for long periods) and it's RIGHT THERE when he's going to have sex. And then there's the empty place in his wallet he can show his friends. Yeah, he had sex with her. Protected sex. I really, honestly think that boys are at least half responsible for the birth control pill and doctor appointment cost if girls are taking them. Yes, we get pregnant easily, but not without the boy's help, you know? Look, I'm not saying girls shouldn't also be responsible. But, having been a teenage girl myself, I seriously would've loved for the stress of birth control to be a shared one, or sometimes not on my head at all. I dunno. We've taught our sons to be respectful toward women in every way. I think sexual health should include that respect.

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I'm only sixteen and I have massive, dark bags under my eyes. And even when I get enough sleep, they're still there. Is there anything natural (in exception to things like plastic surgery) I can do to make the circles go away or hide them?

Thank you very much.

Can't go wrong with makeup. Just don't put so much on it looks cakey. I swear people will look at you funny more often if you're wearing too much makeup than too little. Please remember that the area under the eyes is naturally slightly darker. So don't use too light of foundation. Dark circles + concealer generally = a "grey" skin tone under the eyes, so don't be afraid to mix a little bit of bronzer or something peachy-pink in. You won't need a lot. And unless you want the "fresh zombie" look, please, please, I don't care what makeup brands say, stay away from that yellow concealer stuff that's supposed to work. It very much does not. Finally, remember to blend the area between the undereye makeup and your normal skin really, really well or you might look like you were in the tanning booth for too long. Trust me on all of this (from experience). luck!

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My school is having Roaring 20's day. The girls have to dress up like flappers. The thing is, I don't know what to wear, or where to get my costume! Any body have any suggestions on where I can get the right clothing that's appropriate for the time era, or give me some idea as to what I should get? Thanks!

Any costume shops in your area? Theater groups? Sometimes they'll rent you costumes for a night for like $20. They'll most likely have flapper costumes. Otherwise, googling "flapper costume" or "costumes" will bring up a ton of sites that sell stuff you can use, from full outfits to wigs. Be warned, though, the realistic costumes are like $30.

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I got my belly peirced about 2 months ago and I am wondering if it's normal to have a little bump right next to the peircing.

You should let your piercer take a look at it. When I got my nose pierced, there was a bump that formed by the piercing, which looked funny and was vaguely creepy. I went back to my original piercer, and she said that the piercing was too small (in length) and it was pinching my nose. The dead skin was building up, and couldn't go anywhere, even though I was cleaning it, because the jewelry was too tight. I got a looser nose screw and it almost immediately went away. This occurred about 2 months after I got it pierced. Don't call the piercer-they'll just tell you they don't know unless they see it. I recommend going into the shop. And don't see a doctor, they ALWAYS recommend that you take them out. I'm not sure why. A good resource if you've got future piercing questions is bmezine.com. Hope this helped.

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