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last name! and hoe do i handle this
i am only 14!! and i am having a baby!! and my ex broke up with me before he even found out! and he's still there for me and we're going back out now! but idk how to handle it!
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The first thing you should be doing is finding an adult (parent, counselor, family friend) that you can confide in and can help you through this. I strongly urge you to tell your parents; unless they're complete assholes, they'll want to help you before anything else. Sure, they might (read:will) be angry, but you're also their daughter and they want you to be happy, healthy and safe. If you feel like there is no adult around you to confide in, please visit an organization like Planned Parenthood in your area to get more information about the options you have in this pregnancy. Your boyfriend should be there for you and be there WITH you when exploring all your options. Please don't listen to people that have their own agendas in mind. You don't have to keep the baby; likewise, you don't have to have an abortion. The choice is up to YOU, and if you were mature enough to accept the responsibility of sex and possible pregnancy, you should be able to make a choice when the pregnancy happens. I'm not trying to be mean, and I'm not going to bitch at you about whose "fault" it is or how you're "too young" for a kid. I know plenty of people whose birth control failed, leaving them pregnant, and I know plenty of people who turned out great despite having extremely young parents (my boyfriend's mom was 15). You guys don't need to be going through this alone. I strongly urge you to read up on the options you have in this pregnancy, and please listen to yourself over everyone in this matter. It is your body, and your baby.
Please try to seek non-judgemental, non-biased help. Whatever decision you make will not be the end of the world. I know several people who've had an abortion and are healthy, happy and finctional, several people who've adopted out their babies and are still sure it was the right decision, and several people my age or younger with babies that have enriched their lives immensely. You need some kind of support. Please call 1-888-4-OPTIONS or google "teen pregnancy help" or visit plannedparenthood.org. to find a location near your house. You can get through this, I swear.
<3 good luck, seriously.
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okay well most ppl would tell you 14 is too young to have sex at and i mean dont get me wrong i think it is but there isnt much you can do to change that now .. id tell my parents .. and see what they say .. the sooner the better bc eventually they will find out and im guna be straight up with you its going to be hell either way .. so tell them and make him be there with you for support. if you need anything else feel free to ask <333
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Uhm not trying to be mean, but why the heck are you having sex at 14? It's stupid. The only way to handle it, is to have it. But if you do the baby, and yourself can have serious problems. It can kill you, and the probability of the baby even living long enough isn't a good chance. Your body isn't ready for it yet. I'm sorry if this is harsh, but think next time woman! You're only 14!
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I'm pretty sure talking to someone online isn't the way to go. Please get help from a trusted adult if you cannot go to your parent(s). A teacher, a counselor, or someone like that.
1-800-550-4900; Teen Pregnancy Hotline
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