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Lying to parents
I always lie to my parents so I don't get in trouble. They're awfully hard on me sometimes, but after I tell the lie I realize it probably would've been easier to just tell them the truth, admit what I did in the first place was wrong, and then take my punishment. What can I do to stop lying, and is there anything that my parents can do on their part so that I don't feel the need to lie - or am I just a weak teenager because I used to be such a good kid and never get in trouble?
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I think you just need to grow up and realize that lying doesnt get you anywhere. Sometimes if you just tell the truth.. possibly cry a little tell them you'll never do it again and mean it then they wont punish you. Sometimes telling the truth is better in the long run! Even if you do get grounded or whatever.. still keeps you out of trouble and you learn from it. Not much your parents can change.. its all about you and wanting to tell the truth.
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Well lying doesn't really advance one's position in life or add to it in a good way... I believe truth is always in all ways the best and highest path.... tell you parents how you're feeling about this and believe me it's good to have parents that care enough to be tough, one day you'll see it much differently...esp when you have your own children. Pick a quieter time when your parents are relaxed and quiet and ask them if you can have a few minutes of their time.... tell them first that you love them very much and care about them and the family and then tell them that there's been this issue on your mind, in your heart and you wish to clear it up so you can focus more on your school work and enjoying it and building their trust in you....
It will work out, but know that each fib you pass along is just another hurdle/obstacle/challenge you'll face down the road a bit...as you grow older. The more you can be honest with yourself now and with your loved ones too, the more life you will have to fully live later.... this is the voice of experience talking to you.
I had to almost die before I 'got it', you don't have to take your life to that dark corner of dysfunction to pull yourself out of your issue right now... it's truly simpler than you believe it is, even tho your parents are tough on you, it can be a good thing... ask them to forgive you and let them know you will be doing all you can to be a better person because you love yourself and them and life more than anything.
Good luck and Happy Heart Day....
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heyy i know what you are going there I've been there & done that. Your just going through a phase right now. I wouldn't say your weak just maybe scared. What you should do is tell your parents where your going what time & tell them to trust you & not to worry, & that will really help you stop lieng.
xo Erikanne♥
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hey it seems to me that your a weak teenager. you used to be good and ow your starting to be rebelious. its okay to lie over big things that you know that your gonna get grounded for for like 4 months but to lie over stupid little things like bad grades is dumb and unnessasry. also try talking to your parents about being a little less strict on you and tell them that sometimes you dont even wanna tell them things because they will make a huge deal out of the littelet things. dont make a habit out of lying. cait ♥
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I strongly sympathise with you. It sounds as if you're caught between a rock and a hard place, between your parents' strictness and the pressure of your peers to be a "normal" teenager. Your question doesn't specify what kinds of things you lie about-is it going out, smoking, typical stuff? If so, then my only advice to you is to stand your ground. You have a right to what friends you like, though you have of course to understand your parents' point of view. It is quite hard to answer your question properly without knowing the specific problem areas with your parents. Perhaps you could give us more information? As to the lying, all teenagers do it-I am lucky in having a very liberal family, but even I still lie to my mother from time to time, or at least do not tell her the complete and unvarnished truth. In response to your last sentence, no you are not weak-a desire to preserve truth and honesty shows you as being potentially very strong. Thriving on conflict is no sign of maturity-it is indeed arguable whether one can truly "thrive" on conflict- it's natural enough to want to keep those closest to you happy.
As I said, give us a bit more information, and feel free to drop a question on my inbox.
Good luck, lucretia x.
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