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omg... i can't be!
i think i may be a lesbian or bi! i have a boy friend whom i love but when i read things about girls and boys having sex it just grosses me out. but when i read about two girls i get sooo horny! i love my boyfriend but i just am really sexually attracted to girls.... i can't be... can I?
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ok, now this is something that i have personal experience with. ^_^ i have a boyfriend whom i've dating for a year and 4 months, and i love him very very much (really, i do, we both disgust me sometimes ^_^), although i do consider myself bisexual. i am attracted to 2 or 3 girls right now, and that in no way conflicts with the love and attraction i feel for my bf.
it's actually pretty normal and more common for women to more aroused by reading about or seeing two girls having sex than when reading about or seeing a straight couple have sex. for me personally, it just depends on my mood. ^_^ i think it has something to do with girls being more comfortable with bodies and parts that they themselves are familiar with. also, in my personal opinion, two girls making out can be a lot more sensual and fun to watch than a guy and girl.
also, have you said anything to your boyfriend? my guess is that he wouldn't be too put out about you maybe being bi (and when i say "wouldn't be too put out" i mean he'll probably be freaking out and bragging to all his friends ^_^). my boyfriend knows i'm bi, and he's even given me permission to play around a little with girls (as long as i give him some info, still love him best, and have a story or two for him every now and again ^_^).
just stay open-minded about it; don't knock it till you try it, i always say. and be sure to be conscious and sensitive to how your boyfriend feels about it, and be sure to stay honest with him. finally, don't try and overanalyse your possible bi-ness (pardon my not-so-technical jargon :P ), because whether you are or you aren't, don't let completely define who you are and what you do, because there's a whole lot more to you than who you make out with. ^_^
hope this helped and maybe made you think. good luck, luv!
~*kitty*~
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If your a teenager you have nothing to worry about it happens to me to and as a teenager you have crazy emotions and feelings that you can't explain, but only experiment with. I feel the same way. It may just be a sexual urge you haven't tried yet probably and you need to challenge that urge to see how your sexual emotions are. If you like to kiss guys and get busy with them (just you ingenerally) than you may bi as well, but also as a teenager i wouldn't put a label on yourself so early. This is a natural instinct you just need to flow with. I would say talk to your bf about it if he can handle talking about it. Talk to your best friend about it to if she's that trustworthy and won't get freaked out. Don't freak and just go with the flow and if you want to you can IM ( screen name: Mega hot mama7) me back to tell me your age, ask more questions about this and for me to give you an article to read that will make perfect sense to you. hope i helped!!
(p.s this is something i've exlpored about too for my own self and i've looked up many things to find the answer.)
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While it's common at your age to have sexual attractions that seem strange to you, and maybe don't correspond to the orientation you turn out to have, it's also possible that your bisexual or gay feelings have finally surfaced. People don't TURN gay or bisexual; it's something they're born with, and it's not the end of the world if that's what you end up being. Just because you're turned off by the thought of having sex with boys doesn't mean you're automatically gay. When I was a teenager, teenage boys were creepy and unattractive to me, and I only liked girls. As I got older, boys started to mature, and I found myself growing attracted to them, though I still primarily prefer girls. It's not unusual if one is bisexual to have different needs that are met by different genders. I mean, I still date boys, but I'm more sexually attracted to women.
My opinion: If you're attracted regularly to more than one woman, and your feelings for them are decidedly not platonic, you might be at least bisexual. Hey, it's not such a bad thing-it means that you have twice as many people as potential partners. Maybe you should eventually try girls out if your feelings strengthen over time. Just bear in mind that they aren't abnormal.
Oh, and I'm sure if you ever felt the need to tell your boyfriend about it, he'd be very accepting. ;) Most boys are.
Hope this helps.
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Well i`m guessing your a teenager && this is very common for teens..We get confused about out sexuality..
Yes!It can happen to you it can happen to anybody..But from what you`ve said it does sound like your bisexual or a lesbian..
Yes i`m sure you do love your boyfriend [But are you sure its in that way?]
Don`t get freaked out just yet..
♥Dez
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You better hope you're a lesbian, because bisexuality doesn't exsist.
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You don't have to have a clear black and white answer, just go with what you like. Labeling it is not really important; it's okay to be not sure.. but think of it this way. Imagine having sex with your boyfriend (whether you already have or not)...does the though of having sex with him, or any other guy gross you out? If it does, you just might like girls more sexually, even if you are attracted to guys every once in a while.
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