Hey everyone 15/m here. Well as you can tell from my title, I just lost a special friend of mine. We used to go out for 3 1/2 months 'til she broke up with me and we've been pretty good friends since then, 'til today. All of this started cause I sent her a text message saying I had sex with another girl, but I really didnt. I just wanted to get an honest reaction from her. And of course she got mad...real mad this time. *sigh* If I knew this would have happened, I would never had done it. I talked to her about it tonight and the end result was that she didn't want anything to do with me, ANYTHING. So I told her if she really wanted it to be that way, I would get rid of all my contacts with her, and I did. I went from maybe getting back together with her(heavy emphasis on maybe), to being absolutely nothing in her life. She just means so much to me that I don't want to lose her, I still wanna marry her if I could. I love her, but I don't think she has any for me anymore. I basically cried my heart out again. Does anybody know what I could do to get her back? I don't wanna lose my angel. ='( Help me please...Life is meaningless to me right now without her.
send her a note telling her why you did what you did. Tell her how you feel about her and how you just wanted to know how she would react. Tell her that you know now, that it was a mistake to write the note but you can't change that. Make sure she knows it wasn't true. Tell her how you can't stand not being her friend, then give her time and see if she feels the same way. She is probalby just really hurt and confused right now. If she got so upset about it then she must still have some love for you.
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Now I have this friend (boy) who i tend to like a lot! and sometimes it's weird we see each other a lot but in not the right places and we barely really know each other...but we do...i know this is kinda confusing..lol..but anyways, he asked my friends if i like him and they asked me...i mean i would say yes but the only thing is i dont really "trust" these friends...because they could come out and tell EVERYBODY! and i dont want that..you know..i think he figured out that i like him...i dont constantly stare...he does sometimes...does that mean he likes me? is it wrong for me to like him when i barely know him? should i ask my friend to ask him out for me? HELP!
Signed,
Confused Cupcake (lol)
The fact that he even went as far as to ask your friends if you like him probably means he likes you. I wouldn't worry about telling your friends that you like him. Even if they do tell everyone, chances are he already likes you back. I say get up the nerve to ask him out yourself and everything will be all good.
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well out of all my friends i am the only virgin. they all tell me I should lose but I am not confortible with my body and hate people seeing it i mean I am skinny but its like skin and bones. and I don't know if I am ready. I am only 15 I want to find the right guy firts but I do want to lose it everyone talks about it and i have nothing to talk about I get teased and all the stuff should i lose it and get it over with or wait tell I find Mr right please help
Signed,
VIrgin GIrl
Don't let your friends pressure you into having sex just to be able to say that your not a virgin. Thats a stupid reason to have sex. You can only lose your virginity once and you should wait until it's with someone special. It can either be a really good memory, or a really bad one that you regret. Either way you will probably remember it forever. So wait until your ready and have found someone you really care about.
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This category probably doesn't match my questions but oh well. Anyways... I really don't have that much body hair but most of what I have is black hair. Does anyone know how to bleach my like arm hair blonde? Don't say "be happy with who you are and don't try to change your looks" but just to make it clear to yall, I am doing this for myself, not for any 1 else. Please help asap atleast answer b4 like July 9 or 10 or w/e. Please and thank you! I will rate you if you answer and if it's a reasonable answer. Thankz so much! Luv yall!
Don't listen to xl0r31x shaving will only make your hair come in thicker. I have never heard of anyone ever shaving their arm hair, and it doesn't sounds like a good idea at all.
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are you starving yourself if you eat one salad per day?
I have heard that a healthy diet consists of eight small meal (about the size of your fist) throughout the day. It might sound like a lot, but it's helped me keep a constant, healthy weight. If you think you need to lose weight, then try eating healthy, small meals, and also working out.
But one salad is not going to help you. If you starve yourself all day, and then eat one salad then your matabolism is going to be all messed up, and even that little salad will make you gain weight, because, you wont be used to having food in your stomach. Does this make sense?
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how long do female orgasims last ? plz thanks
hmm... well, It's different almost every time a female has an orgasm. It's hard to tell you exactly how long because I don't really keep track of how many seconds have passed when I'm having an orgasm. I would say... five to ten seconds is a good long one.
Are you a female or male? If your male I would say a female orgasm lasts about as long as one of yours. The only difference is that females are much more likely to have multiple orgasms. They're the greatest :)
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Alright, as extremely cliche as this sounds, I have fallen for my best guy friend. We both have seperate boy and girlfriends, and both have expressed the desire to break up with them. (Because we can tell each other everything.) Well, almost everything. Some how over the last year I have fallen for him, hard! He's really understanding but I don't want to ruin our friendship if he doesn't like me that way. I have turned down a lot of guy friends and I know how awkward it feels to be around them. But it would feel so goood to get it off my chest.
Any advice? If I should tell him.. how?
Is there any way you could sort of find out if he feels the same way about you without actually asking him? Maybe flirt a little and see how he reacts.
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ok people who talk to me on msn for some reason assume im a bitch and then they tell ther friends and they all ask me of i heard u were a bitch and im really not i can be sometimes but all girls are that way. i mean some of them havent even met me in person like they go to my school but i dont talk to them so they cant call me a bitch if they havent met me in person right? it is soo fucked up and im fucking sick of it im fucking not a bitch excuse my language but im so sick and tired of people calling me a bitch and its not even true plus they havent met me so yea what do i do?
If you don't know them, and they don't know you, then I wouldn't even worry about what they think of you.
If they have a problem with any kind of aditude that you have then they're not worth talking to. Some people just don't know how to take others. I was told that I was a bitch by most people who DIDN'T know me all throughout high school. But my friends, and everyone who had actually had a conversation with me at one time knew that I wasn't. Screw them, be yourself and you'll be fine.
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Due to an error that really messed up the site today, I've set up the "give advice" page to operate in "backlog mode" (because, well, we're backlogged). What this means is that instead of just seeing the newest questions first, you're seeing questions with the fewest answers first. After someone answers a question, it gets bumped down. This helps to make sure every question gets answered, and all the questions are answered equally. Questions three days old just aren't shown at all.
I put the site in this mode because we're in an emergency situation, but what do you think of it? Should we have it like this all the time, so questions with no answers are at the top, waiting for you? Or do you think we should go back to the old way, so you always see the newest questions when you click on "give advice"?
Answer with your opinion!
This way seems good. That way there aren't ten questions at the very beggining that have been answered 20 times already.
I want to change this. The only problem with this way is if there are questions at the top that have been rated with the lowest rating, and they happen to not get answered by very many people, then that might be a problem.
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Is it possible for my husbands ex wife and a man to go into an attorneys office and pretend to be myself and my husband in order to make up a will leaving everything to his three children while leaving out my own? I had heard that my husbands former wife and her male friend had my social security number and pertinent info which could be used for such a thing. I heard also that they might attempt to make out a will taking all of the property and giving it to her children (who are also my husbands) . I don't know if it would be that difficult seeing as an attroney would not know my husband nor myself and these two could possibly pull this off. I am paranoid
Wouldn't they need some sort of picture ID?
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hi im 13.f.md... i dont know what is going on with me when i go to pee i have cum in my panties ... and im a virgin and i dont know whats going on whats wrong with me and is it normal? write back asap
HEEELLLPP!!!
thx --shania
It's not cum. Girls do not "cum" the same way that guys do.
What you have is discharge. It's normal to have a little bit, especially when your about to start your period for the first time. Discharge is caused by good bacteria in your vagina that fight all of the bad bacteria. So, it's a good thing
I wouldn't worry about it too much, if you don't itch or burn then it's probably nothing to worry about. If it bothers you then try wearing a panty liner.
But if it gets bad, or already is a lot of discharge, then talk to you mother or go to a doctor. Even though your a virgin, you could have a yeast infection. Even that isn't a huge deal. Also stress can cause your body to go out of whack, so don't worry too much and you might notice it get a little better.
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Hey, ok this is sort of personal, but oh well... I have vegina hair (i know it's gross) and me and my b/f want to have sex so do i shave it or what?
Why is it gross to have pubic hair? Whether or not you shave is a personal choice that only you can make. It's not going to make any difference what so ever while your having sex anyway. The only reason I shave, and the reason I like it when guys shave is for oral sex reasons. It's not very good to come up with pubic hairs in your mouth, which happens when someone doesn't shave or trim. I would suggest trimming your hair, only because, if you do shave for the first time, then having sex will make it so uncomfortable because of the rubbing it will produce on your newly shaved skin, therefore you will have a bad first experience and will not want to do it again.
When, and if you do decide to actually shave then use conditioner on the hair for a few days before, and keep useing conditioner on the shaved spot, and the stubble that grows up every day. Also use lotion to keep the hair and skin soft and reduce the risk of razor burn.
Personally, I don't shave everywhere. I don't leave a line of trimmed hair above my vagina, because that is the most sensative area, and the most likely to get razor burn.
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I hate to abuse this, considering I'm supposed to be using this thing to ask you for advice...
I just thought I'd let you know that I respect the fact that there are some older people coming on this site to offer REAL advice, rather than all these pre-teens and high schoolers who think they know it all. I was afraid I was the only one.
In any case, keep up whatever it is you do. Take care.
-Maisie (also my username)
thanks.
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Ok..this might be kind of long. I've liked this boy for 2 years. The first year...didn't really know him, so I guess it was just a little crush. Second year...we started talking more and I got to know him better and started really falling for him. Then, he switched schools in the middle of the year....didn't talk to him for months and I just kind of tried to forget about him. Then about May we start talking online...and I tell him how I feel. And he says he wants to wait til the summer then we could see each other. So we talk online talk on the phone...things are pretty good. But its July and we havent seen each other yet. He works 24/7. So I'm beginning to think that maybe he doesn't really like me and just talks on the phone to be nice....or that he's just too busy for a girlfriend in the first place. And I haven't been able to get ahold of him for 3 days...i want to call him and be very straight forward and basically find out are you interested or not? I still care for him but I've waited on him forever and if hes not interested, i dont want to bother him... what should i say to let him know how i feel or what should i ask him???
Just do what you said you wanted to do. Be very straight forward and ask him if he's interested or not. Tell him that you really like him but you can't wait for him forever, and ask if he likes you and wants to go out.
If you don't want to be that straight forward just ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. Maybe go to a movie or go out to eat. If he's still telling you that he wants to wait then give up on him and find someone else.
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I just found out that my best guy friend of 3 years has a crush on me. At first I was so confused about how I felt about him... I told him that I didn't know if I liked him back. But after I thought about it, I realized that I do like him. I would ask him out, but here's the problem: He went out with my sister *she's only a year younger than me* & he was pretty jerky to her. He'd hit on me right in front of her, and as if that isn't bad enough, he broke up with her by calling her from another friend's house (who was a GIRL btw.) Then a day after their breakup, he came over to my house & starting apologizing & crap, saying that his friend made him do it. He was so mean to my sis, so I'm afraid to get involved with him. But I think he might've changed. Should I give him a chance?
First I would talk to your sister and see how she would feel about you going out with her ex. And then, I think you should try giving him a chance. He probably didn't realize that he was being mean to her when he flirted with you in front of her. He must have liked you all along and maybe he is just now realizing it after breaking up with your sister.
If he's still just as mean to you as he was to your sister than break up with him. But it could be different with you. You never know until you try.
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how come whenever i log in it says i have 1 new in my inbox but then as soon as i click on the inbox it says i have no unanswered questions??
I had this problem before also. I asked the advicenator administrator, but I haven't heard back. My advice would be to ask him. Maybe you'll have more luck getting a response.
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this may seem shallow but, why are all the young teenagers(generally below 15) OBSESSED with the fag rock bands, like GC, and simple plan, and that crap?
Isn't it better than the obsession with bands like backstreet boys, n sync, and britney spears?
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Okay.. well Ive been with my boyfriend for 16 months (on wednesday) Anyways.. he got drunk last night and cheated on me with his ex.. and he said that he didnt even mean to, he was just drunk.. and that he loved me he just wanted to take a break.. and he came back online, and we were talking.. and it was like.. we were still together.. i mean he still called me "babygirl" and said I love you when he had to leave.. what should i do? :/ Thanks!~
Don't let him off the hook so easily. Being drunk does not mean that he's has completely no control over his actions. Yes, it probably didn't help him think clearly, but that is absolutely no excuse.
I think a break would be good for you two. He obviously cares about you because he was honest with you right away. He probably needs to get his thoughts straight and think about what he did and how awful it was and how he should never do it again. You should think about whether or not you really do love him and whether you will be able to trust him after this.
A break would be good. By break I mean not hanging out or talking like your still going out. If your really in love with each other, then being apart will make you two realize how much you need and want to be with each other. And it will make him realize that he can't cheat on you and get away with it so easily.
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Hey guys,
Well heres the problem. My best friend of like forever, up and decides that smoking is more important than our friendship. it really hurts me to see her do it because i know the pain it caused her when her grandmother died of cancer just a few short years ago. She goes on about how she doesnt need a supervisor or someone telling her what to do, but i keep telling her that i only get on her back about it because i care. she doesnt seem to realize that im only trying to help. however, my help cant always be the answer. i am myself, an advice giver on this website, but sometimes you just need others' advice. if anyone has any advice, or anything at all i could say to my friend to help her, please let me know. im scared for her, and also for our friendship. please someone help me.
Coming from someone who would always hassle a very good friend about smoking, and also from a smoker... It's good that you hassle her about how you don't want her to smoke, but don't do it too much.
Most likely, she is going to smoke no matter what, but it's always good to know that someone cares enough to speak out and tell you that they don't want you to get hurt. I would say keep telling her that she shouldn't smoke. Tell her right out that you don't want her to smoke because you don't want her to get sick. Don't hassle her too much about it though, or she just wont want to be around you. But don't stop completely.
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Why to u all come to this web site to ask questions these people know just about as much as u
Why did you come to this web site?
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