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Okay.. well Ive been with my boyfriend for 16 months (on wednesday) Anyways.. he got drunk last night and cheated on me with his ex.. and he said that he didnt even mean to, he was just drunk.. and that he loved me he just wanted to take a break.. and he came back online, and we were talking.. and it was like.. we were still together.. i mean he still called me "babygirl" and said I love you when he had to leave.. what should i do? :/ Thanks!~
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*Well if you really love him then stay with him! You guys have been together for 16 months, and thats a really long time! If he said he didn't mean to then more then likely he didn't! He made a mistake and we all do it! Everyone deserves at least a second chance, so just give him another chance and see what happens! But if he messes up again then you might want to leave him! Maybe you guys should take a break and see other people! If you guys were meant to be in the end you will end up back with eachother* xOxO Kaela <3
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Blaming his actions on being drunk and the fact that he wanted a break is no excuse.
He made the decision to drink and get drunk. Therefore, he has to be responsible for teh consequences. Most people know that they do stupid things when they are drunk, so if they go ahead and do it, they can't blame it on the booze.
And if he wanted to take a break, the way to do it was TALK to you about it, not cheat on you and then not take responsibility.
Not to be overly negative or excessively pick on your boyfriend, but anyone can call you babygirl. I could call you babygirl. That doesn't mean I want to be in a relationship with you.
You need to spend some time thinking about this situation and about how he's disrespected you. The decision is entirely yours
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sit down think hard and talk it out with him and maybe take a mini break but not a official one if you understand where i am coming from -trix
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Oh my.. maybe you two really do need a break .. to see what other people are like.. you know i mean because if you stay with one guy you might miss mr. right or something. But if he cheated on you with his ex then i see something defintly wrong there... I think that you should try to find someone else .. and see if you still like him the way you do right now .. because then you will find out if what you and him have is serious or if its just a waste of time.. and maybe you should ingore those little comments hes making and tell him to go tell that to his new girlfriend.. after all hes the one that wanted it to end in the first place.
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first...dOnt talk tO yOur man Online...it Only causes mOre prObs...i suggest yOu give him anOther chance if yOu realli lOve him...if yOu dOnt realli lOve him...maybe yOur nOt meant fOr eachOther...hOpe ii helped!
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Im sorry to say but i say you ditch him cause alot of guys use the excuse of being drunk all the time to hide that they were cheating on you or someone else even though he still calls u baby girl and that he loves you hes just tryin 2 have two girls on 1 hand at the same time im really sry but u should let him go u deserve someone way way better...!!!
~BUBBLES~
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Well in any other situation I'd say 'ditch him', but one thing that you've got to consider is those 16 months of being together!! 16 months is a long time to through everything away in one drunken night. You have to look back at those 16 months...have they been good, has be been great to you? Has he devoted his time to you, and do you really feel something special? If you do, than you need to talk to him...not over the internet. you need to sit down and discuss what happened and talk through it. most importantly, GET through it. it'll take awhile to rebuild the trust, but you can do it! and one more thing....if he EVER does this again....drunk or not, its a sign he's taking advantage of you. then i go back to my first line...DITCH HIM.
i really hope everything works out, and feel free to ask me about anything in the future~
Lani :)
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It was his decision to get drunk, therefore regardless of how you look at it, he cheated on you.
People should not be given second chances in these situations. "I was drunk" is no excuse for anything. If it is, then all he has to do when he wants to get away with something is drink first. Ditch him.
-Maisie
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Don't let him off the hook so easily. Being drunk does not mean that he's has completely no control over his actions. Yes, it probably didn't help him think clearly, but that is absolutely no excuse.
I think a break would be good for you two. He obviously cares about you because he was honest with you right away. He probably needs to get his thoughts straight and think about what he did and how awful it was and how he should never do it again. You should think about whether or not you really do love him and whether you will be able to trust him after this.
A break would be good. By break I mean not hanging out or talking like your still going out. If your really in love with each other, then being apart will make you two realize how much you need and want to be with each other. And it will make him realize that he can't cheat on you and get away with it so easily.
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if you are comfortable with him cheating on you with his ex.. then tell him you still want to be with him and try to make things work... but if it happend this one time after 16 months its likely to happen again.. so i think you have to follow your heart on this one and your feelings for him
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i think u should let him off easly cause he obviosly still likes u alot because he told u and didn't try to hide it from u but i have been drunk before thats no excuse cause if u are so drunk that u wont remember what happened the next day then there is a good chance he wouldn't be able to get it up so don't beleave that shit 9 times outta 10 he prolly just feel into the moment and did somethings he regrets now but i still wouldn't let him forget what he did but anyways
good luck
Gabe
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just cause he's on a break..he still probably calls you those names because they feel like it's a special connection you guys have and those are HIS names for you..you know? maybe ..im not sure- ask him what's up
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i would say end it (unless of corse you are madly in love w/him n u know that he IS 100% the one..)becuz you never know if he does it drunk he could always do it sober... but if he is for sure 100% the one then i say give him another chance...well hope i helped! xoxoxo -Kayla
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i think u should forgive him everybody makes mistakes just forgive him and u will be happy
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Yep! He still loves you! When your drunk you have no clue in the world what you are doing. Give this guy another chance. Tell him if this ever happens again that you guys will be done for.
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People act differently when they are drunk. He didn't even know what he was doing. He deffinatley still loves you. Talk to him about it, and then give him another chance.
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well i think u need to sit him down and give him a talk about gettin drunk!and tell him next time it happens that u guyz are over 4 good. then ask him wat he meant by "takin a break." Good Luck
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hmmm my brother had the same situation.he was drunk n cheaded on his gurl which he really loved..things happens...expecially when he was drunk...i think u should forgive him this time but make it clear to him that this would b the last time that he does that!!! the only thing that i dont like is u guys takin a break....:-/ think bout it...see if u relly relly like him n want to b wit him...if u do then i say forgive him!! ;) good luck xoxo effy
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Hmm try giving him another chance.If he blows it then id loose him!Good luck babe.Much <33
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