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Hey guys,
Well heres the problem. My best friend of like forever, up and decides that smoking is more important than our friendship. it really hurts me to see her do it because i know the pain it caused her when her grandmother died of cancer just a few short years ago. She goes on about how she doesnt need a supervisor or someone telling her what to do, but i keep telling her that i only get on her back about it because i care. she doesnt seem to realize that im only trying to help. however, my help cant always be the answer. i am myself, an advice giver on this website, but sometimes you just need others' advice. if anyone has any advice, or anything at all i could say to my friend to help her, please let me know. im scared for her, and also for our friendship. please someone help me.
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Tell her that if she doesn't need a supervisor she needs to prove it. Also tell her that you still want to be her friend and you don't think she should put drugs before friendships. If she keeps it up she could wind up friendless with nobody to blame but her self.
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I think that you should just try one more time to talk to her about it and if yalls friendship meant alot to her she would try and stop for your sake and hers and if it gets really serious and she doesnt listen to you...you will need to consult and adult about it and maybe they could help...good luck
-Hal (((plz rate my advice)))
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hey, i know how you feel...smoking is bad and she should have realized that after her grandmother's death- maybe there's something going on in her life and she uses it as an outlet for her pain...and if so, then maybe that's also the reason for her rejecting your help...i've had a friend like this before and all you can really do is let her know you're there for her...even if she rejects it at the time, she'll remember your words and she will come to you when she's ready and if she needs help- you can't really change a person, even if its your best friend...sometimes people need to figure things out on their own but it always helps to have someone by their side...if things continue to get much worse...consult an adult- if it gets that serious and you're truly worried...good luck and hope i helped =]
love elle
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Coming from someone who would always hassle a very good friend about smoking, and also from a smoker... It's good that you hassle her about how you don't want her to smoke, but don't do it too much.
Most likely, she is going to smoke no matter what, but it's always good to know that someone cares enough to speak out and tell you that they don't want you to get hurt. I would say keep telling her that she shouldn't smoke. Tell her right out that you don't want her to smoke because you don't want her to get sick. Don't hassle her too much about it though, or she just wont want to be around you. But don't stop completely.
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That is so horrible! Ok well maybe you can tell her that she was hurt when her grandma died of cancer and you dont want to have to go threw the same pain of losing a best friend. I dont really know how i can give you advice to what to say because i've never really been put into this situation and I dont know what i'd say but I guess you just need to let your friend know that she is making a bad decision. But at the same time I know this might be some bad advice but maybe you should just accept that fact that she wants to throw away her life with her cancer sticks. Just be comforting, and maybe you can talk to her mom or something about it. Good luck with this, sorry this advice wasnt the best :-/
-Holly-
Hope I helped a little bit
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Honestly, I'd be really grateful to have you as a friend. And I'm not sucking up either. You getting on her back is exactly what she needs. She should realize how you DO really care and also realize how smoking is SO horrible for her! She's gonna get yellow teeth, tons of wrinkles, bad lungs, and maybe even cancer if she keeps this habit up for a long time! I know that sounds extreme, but smoking is SUCH a hard habit to quick. My grandmother finally stopped smoking after 30 years...and I was amazed she hadn't gotten seriously ill from it. I know this sounds like it'll ruin your friendship, but if her mom/dad doesn't already know about your friend's BAD problem, they needa been informed. You as a friend can't do everything. Then be up and honest with her, and say how you're worried your friendship will end. Say EXACTLY how you feel! Say just what you told us advice people. Say how much it hurts you to see her smoke. Tell her that you're worried that she's just going to keep smoking and ruin her health. Tell her how much she means to you as a friend, and losing her because of cigarettes is crazy. Your friend obviously doesn't appreciate you trying to help. Here's just one website I found to (hopefully!) help.crazyworld=truth
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I really hope that you're friend realizes the dangers she's putting on her life. It might not be within a few years, but if she keeps it up, it'll all start showing. I hope she realizes how lucky she is to have a friend that's trying to help her. I hope I somewhat helped! Please rate me.
Sincerely, Cammie
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Hey
Well my advice is that shes getting older and hase a lot on her mind. One of ny friends was doing drugs at one point also but I talked to her.
I told her that if she wants to do what she was doing to do it without me. That I loved her as a sister and if something happend I thought it was because of me and I left. I think you and here need to talk it over. If you lover her like your sister you con stop her (or at least try) it might be difficult for her more then you. She needs her space.
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