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hi. i am very sad and i cannot stop crying because both of my parents refuse to get me braces. i really need them and i hate smiling because my teeth are So crooked, and everyone stares. i would feel so much better if i had them and i would stop crying everyday. i know that writing this isnt gonna help me; hence i feel helpless. "we cant afford it", they say. but when it comes to buying something expensive for themselves my parents suddenly can. i'm not going to get into my family because i really dont wanna talk about my neglegence and abuse. anywho..i just dont know what to do. i hate looking at all my happy friends with their braces. i really dont want to get a reply such as "dont care about what they think," or "theres people out there that have less then you." because frankly, i dont really care.

U should have a LOOONG talk to ur parents about it... they cant afford it is just BS... they have insurance for people that cant afford stuff... let them knO that this is causing u to cry everyday... if they still dont understand... y dont u try talkin to a counselor... Hope everything works out for u

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Okay I have acne. Not that bad. And i would love to clear it up b4 school starts which is 8 days away. what can I do to clear the acne. Is there anything that actually works in 8 dayds or less. please I need to get rid of this acneee...

Retina Micro... & u need to go to a dermatologist to get this...

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Ok..all my friends have either madeout or done more with there boyfriends. But i havent done nething not even madeout yet. Ive been pressured to do it by my friends but i really dont want to. Im 14..is that bad?

No its not bad at all... its actually very good... save urself... just cuz ur friends are ready doesnt mean u r...

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ok i have a brother and 2 sisters my brother makes fun of me and turns my sisters against me i have no idea what to do but thing is he is almost 6 feet and very strong and i have bruses from him but its not like child abuse or anything pLZzzz help :)

if it gets to u that much tell on him... & ignore him... keep doing that & hopefully he'll realize that it bothers u that much

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ok i have a BIG problem and im sure that it happens to a lot of people.. but whenever something happens that makes me mad i always want to kill myself and its scary cuz sometimes i almost do.. i dont no wut to do and i need some help before i actually do!!! does this mean im like mentally ill or something?? should i see a doctor or anything?? thanks..
xox manda

that doesnt necessarily mean that u r mentally ill... but it soundz like u r having a lotta problems that r hard for u to deal with... talk to sum1 u can trust about em... it'll make u feel a lot better once u do that... it'd be best if u talk to ur parents... & if u continue to feel that way ask ur parents to take u to see a therapist

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okay i know i shouldnt even be thinking about this or worrying or complaining...but me and my ex bf broke up about 8 months ago, im not quite over him yet...but i broke up with him cause he cheated on me...and i just recently heard that hes been hanging out alot with that girl latly...it really hurts..do u guys have ne advice to not think about it, or how not to get so sad over it?? please dont say, its been 8 months get over it! cause its harder than u think....thanks

first... GOOD JOB... most girls stay with guys even after they are cheated on... second...If the girl did stuff with him knowing that yall were going out... that girl is a str8 up slut... & if he wants a slut let him have 1... third im sure you'll find sum1 that appreciates u for who u r...

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I have this boyfriend, whom I cheated on 3 times already. (He lives 14 hours away from me, he moved). I love him so much, but sometimes I just get lonely of not having him here and I go out and do stupid things. I love him to death and everytime I cheat on him I tell him. I hurt his feelings so much but he always takes me back. I don't know what to do... it's just sometimes, he doesn't even get mad when I tell him I cheat on him. (Or maybe he just acts like hes not mad, but he really is). I've been with him for almost a year, we BOTH love eachother so much.. I just don't know why I'm always cheating on him if I "love" him... help?

honestly... i dont think you love him... yeah i understand u get lonely... but when u truly love sum1... u just CANT cheat on them... especially not repeatedly i think u should break up wit him... cuz if u stay wit him u are just gonnna keep hurting him... always remember what goes around comes around... & i kno u arent gonna be too happy when it comes around to u

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Besides identifiable sexual attraction, how can one tell the difference between a crush and great love for a friend? If a friend really wants physical contact with another friend, but not necessarily sex, what is that?
Please answer. I really will rate.

well a crush doesnt last too long... & when u have a crush u look at other people and start likin them too... but when u really care about sum1... thats the only person u can look @ that way... & you'd never do anything to hurt that person... to hurt that person would be like hurting urself... u can want physical contact with both a crush & a great love... try to figure out what it is based on what i told u

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okay well my two best friends go out... why does that bother me i mean i dont have feelings for my friend [hes a boy] but why does it bother me?? please answer people keep sayin i like him but i dont i need help soon

It probably bothers u cuz u feel like they are gonna be spendin a lot more time with eachother without you...

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My friend KT had a bofriend named James... he wasn't wot u call POPULAR, but he was really sweet. KT went to Albainia for vacation, and James was really nevous she was gonna brake up with him. We were trying to b supportive and tell him shes not going to but she did!!! over emial!!! She's back now and hates him because hes not popular and she doesn't want to b friends with him. she also doesn't want us to b friends with him either even tho we got to no him and he's already our friend. wot should we do???

Well soundz like shes being a really big jerk... just remember... no one can ever tell u who to be friends with and who not... this girl is not ur mother... u should str8 up tell her that... tell her that if he told u not to talk to her u wouldnt listen to him... & u are not gonna listen to her cuz what shes askin u 2 do i very selfish...

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theres this boy who i used to really really like for like 3 years. i never told him and during the summer i just kinda gave up. when i saw him at orientation i had no feelings wutsoever and i was so happy that i finally got over him. then when he was leaving i had this really wierd feeling. i kno i dont like him anymore but i wanna be good friends and i want him to touch me but not like nasty just hold me and stuff. i dont want friends with benefits or anything i just want him to hold me sumtimes and i want to be able to goof off witrh him like i always do. what should i do about it?

Go talk to him... get his number or at least a SN... u didnt say if u already knO diz guy or not... so if u dont just go up to him and introduce ur self

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Okay, one of my best friends (a guy) is going out with one of my old friends who i dont really hang out with anymore but we're still nice and evrythng 2 each othr. But my best friend seems like he doesn't like her as much anymore but shes in love. I recently discovered that i really like him a lot but when they break up shes going to be soo upset but i really wana make a move. What should i do?

Give it sum time after they break up... i knO its gonna be hard... but you need to let him have time to himself once they break up... & u dont wanna catch him on the rebound... dont be too worried bout what his X thinks... since u dont talk much anymore it shouldnt be a big deal...

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Hi my name is Jess i have this really really close guy friend who has been my friend since 1st grade now he has a g/f and i dont like him but for some reason i feel jealous. Could anyone tell me y im jealous?

Your probably jealous cuz u knO that hes gonna be spending less time with u and more time with his girl... if this starts happening a lot... invite another guy friend & double date wit em...

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i am extreamly sick today and i have no clue what's wrong with me. i called my doctor and she said it was just a cold but it's REALLY bad. my head is pounding, my whole back is KILLING me, my throat is so soar i can barely talk, i feel like i'm going to throw up, and i keep getting those cold sweats where you start to sweat really bad but you're still cold. what is wrong with me?? i'm so miserable!

you should go to ur doctor... i got sick a couple of times last yr... & at first the doctor thought i had a cold... but later on i got bronchitis and pnemonia.. ( yeah i knO i cant spell ) but u should def go see ur doctor

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ok I just started school and im new.its been about a week and 1 day and im starting to make friends.there is this girl that is nice to me her name is lauren.im sitting at a table with another girl named kaite and some people from my classes.a girl that is friends with the people from my classes comes up to me and says dont be friends with lauren,she is not cool etc etc.then some people move away.so now i dont know what happened or what to do.should I be friends with lauren who I sorta know and ignore the girl who told me to ignore lauren or should I not be friends with lauren and go with the people from my class (I like the people pretty equally)I have no idea what to do help please.
-mal

NEVER judge any1 based on what other people say... judge people for yourself... tell ur friend thanx for lookin out... but u can take care of urself... be friends wit everyone... doesnt diss any1 cuz sum1 else wants u too

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yesterday at the doctors i got a shot in my arm (kind of my shoulder) and it didnt hurt at all, but now today it hurts really bad it feels like i have a bruise where the shot was and it hurts really bad whenever i move my arm. is this normal or should i be concerned? im starting to worry. how long should this pain last?

I think it is normal... depending on what kind of shot u got... i dont think u have anything 2 worry about but u should still call ur doctor & let him/her knO whats up...

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well there is this boy i really think i like him.. and my friends think i should go out w/ him and all this other stuff im like rite.. to go out w/ someone that means the other person has to like you back they say he likes me but i really dont think he does hes really quiet and im kinda shy so i never want to aproach him or when hes w/ his friends i dont want to say hi or anythang then so at school we really dont talk or anythang .. so what can i do to "flirt" w/ him i guess you could say or to just talk to him and stuff you know? well thanks.. oh by the way i rate well =]

lol yeah talk to him... give him flity smiles... suggest hangin out sumtimes... goin to the movies or the arcade... if he says no than he says no... but u arent gonna knO how he feels untill u ask him...

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I transferred to a new school and my friends that i already know ignore me and i try to make new friends but im not good at that stuff. So at lunch everyone is saying ohhh talk and i dont know what to do or say.

well it seems like u are nervous... talk to them like u would talk to ne one else... tell them about ur day... talk about teachers & school work... Televison shows... etc... theres so much... if u feel like u r being ignored... try to find new friends... do this... when u see people in the halls give em a warm friendly smile... be fonfident about urself... if sum1 needs help volunteer to do it... join clubs... get involved... yeah its hard but adjusting to changes is a part of life...

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alright well my boyfriend gets very jelous sometimes. its partly because some of his friends like me. but he lives 40 min away and we dont go to the same school. which makes it worse. i dont know what to do to let him know that i will never cheat on him. i love him too much to do that. i dont know what to do to help him know that he's the only one i love and i will always want to be with him. any ideas?

u cant MAKE him believe you... explain to him that a relationship is based on trust... & you've never done anything to hurt him in the past & u plan to keep it that way... just cuz his friends like u doesnt mean they r gonna get you... i have a couple of buddy icons on my website about that... that would be really nice if u put a buddy icon like that up...

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Okay i can't show the guy that I like that i do like him around people. Idk. it's weird i mean i get all shy and people have to make me go sit by him or something.well what could i do to show him i like him?

when ur with him try to tune every1 else out... focus on him... make conversation wit him... tell him about urself... ask him what u wanna know about him

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