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I have this boyfriend, whom I cheated on 3 times already. (He lives 14 hours away from me, he moved). I love him so much, but sometimes I just get lonely of not having him here and I go out and do stupid things. I love him to death and everytime I cheat on him I tell him. I hurt his feelings so much but he always takes me back. I don't know what to do... it's just sometimes, he doesn't even get mad when I tell him I cheat on him. (Or maybe he just acts like hes not mad, but he really is). I've been with him for almost a year, we BOTH love eachother so much.. I just don't know why I'm always cheating on him if I "love" him... help?
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honestly... i dont think you love him... yeah i understand u get lonely... but when u truly love sum1... u just CANT cheat on them... especially not repeatedly i think u should break up wit him... cuz if u stay wit him u are just gonnna keep hurting him... always remember what goes around comes around... & i kno u arent gonna be too happy when it comes around to u
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I'm always cheating on him if I "love" him... help?
y did u put love in quotations?? i have a big trust issue with guys bc of things ive been through with guys and what i seen my friends and moms go through. ususally its the guy cheating. but see i think if u truly love the person u wont do it. but i think ur right about that lonley thing. if u dont want to hurt him break up with him bc its not fair to him even though u tell him it happens. wats the point of a relationship where "love" in ur words isnt there? or even the lust?!!? ur hurting him and u see that! i dont get how u can still be with him. and plus u never see him. 14 hours!? long distance never works... and if it does usually they are able to see eachother and they both fgeel the same for one another. im not gonna call u anything bc u are cheating on him. but i am going to say this: if u kno ur hurting him why stay with him? even if he keeps taking u back... its not good for u or him! this guy must really love u to have taken u back. and if hes gonna take u back, are u going to hurt him again? and then tell him and he still take u back and its the same thing repeating itself? wat got me in ur responce was the word LOVE in quotations. i thought when i read that.. "she dont even THINK she loves him" love is not only a feeling its a decision. u choose to love. u have to make the decision to be faithful and LOVE that person. other wise its jus a FEELING that isnt fully there. and right now u havent made the decision to love him. u only feel it. bc if u made the decision to love him, u wouldnt do what u do. u made the decsiion NOT TO LOVE him.. but U FEEL IT.
Manda
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hun u guyz should break up. long distance relationships dont wrk. ur gonna keep cheating on him cuz u feel lonely. so u mite as well jus break up.
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Why don't you ask him if you two can just see other people? Then its not cheating. You are obviously feeling lonely and wanting to play the field. Tell him you don't mean not seeing him, but that you need some companionship. He probably doesn't get mad because he is lonely too. There may be a time in the future when you can be closer together, but if its 14 hours you won't see him or have much of a relationship.
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You were right to put the word love in quotations. Cheating constantly on someone isn't love, but in this situation I think you should cut yourself some slack.
This guy might be wonderful, and you might have been wonderful together - but you aren't together anymore.
A long distance relationship is draining. It requires a deep commitment on both sides, which is lacking here. Sometimes life is about timing, and I don't think this is the right time for your relationship with the guy.
You're obviously unhappy living so far from him, and that's understandable. You need to do what is best for you - and that could be ending this relationship and finding someone closer to home.
Good luck.
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Since you're cheating on him, you should probably not go back to him. You're just hurting him worse. Next time you cheat, remind yourself of your boyfriend who will be really hurt. Hope I helped.
~Cayd
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WeLl itS probably really hard for you since he moved so long away and youd dont even get to see eachother anymore so you miss having someone there for all the time and you go off and do that prob cuz you wanna feel that feeling of bein loved again and held.
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