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I'm sorry to announce that i wont be coming back to this site to answer questions anymore. It has caused one two many problems for me ever since my aqqantice got a column, herself. I apologize to everyone. This is not your fault, but i dont want to deal with problems again. My own problems i mean. So, I'm sorry and i will miss you all.

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When you get your first period is it normal if it just lasts for 2 days?

Yeah! Thats totally normal. Periods usually last for two or three days so you've got nothing to worry about!
~Cayd

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May 17, 2004, ((st. patricks day)) one of my best friends committed suicide. She was 13 years old. She was born on September 11, 1990. Her name was Alyssa, and she was walking to school late and she was walking on the tracks. She heard the train coming and she turned around, put her hood up, and gave the thumbs up sign to the conductor. He couldn't stop the train. Alyssa got hit and died. A month later the investigators claimed it to be suicide, which everyone already knew. She had tried committing suicide a couple weeks before that, but I had to drag her off the tracks by her hair. I had made her go see the school counselor before that and I guess she still wanted to committ suicide. The night before she was hit, she wrote R.I.P Alyssa on her and her boyfriend's bedroom wall. She killed herself for many reasons, but I only know of how her boyfriend was cheating on her and she was in a gang and family problems. She told me there was more though. I tried so hard to convince her that death wasn't the soulution, but she didn't listen. I did everything I could to help her. Anyway, I know it's long but I thought you needed to know the whole story.
So my problem is, I still haven't been able to cope with it. I cry all the time and nobody seems to understand me. I miss her so much. I've already seen numerous counselors but they haven't helped me much. I just want to know if there's any way that I could start the "healing process" or if it'll just take time. I would appreciate all the help. Thank you so much!

Love, RacheL
((xoRachel))


R.I.P Alyssa Gonzalez.. I miss you so much.
9/11/90 - 3/17/04

I'm so sorry! Sometimes it takes time for deaths. It can take a really long time too. Whenever you think about Alyssa, remember all the great times you had together and you can always talk to her in heaven. Make it a daily routine to try to talk to her in heaven. It can be whenever you want! Let's say you did it at night, well, tell Alyssa everything thats going on and tell her that you miss her and you hope she's having a better life in heaven and tell her you love her still and you always will. Things will take time to get better. It'll be okay. Praying always helps me with things. So if you dont already pray, try it.
~Cayd

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hiii...umm, can anyone help me? i need to train my jack russell terrier (hel be one year on the 22nd) to stay away from my dad. every time he gets close to my dad, hell kick him, or hit him, or punch him, etc. I've watched this for too long and I can absolutely take it no longer. i mean like, my little dog means the world to me! i just love him alot and i want him to be happy. last time my dad hit him he stayed in the other half of our house in the corner all day, and he was crying. it will be hard to train him to stay away and this is gonna be hard. jack russells are very active, and mine loves everyone, unfortanitly. :-\..does neone have any advice? thank you

If you didin't know it already, your dad is doing abuse! You need to tell him to stay away from your dog because you are working on training it. Go to your local animal shelter and pick up some forms about training classes. Work on commands like sit, stay, and come with doggy treats. You can do that at home. In the mean time, watch when your dog gets close to your dad and when the doggy does, run to him and take him out of your dad's sight. I hope things get better for you and your dog!
~Cayd

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OK well here it goes....I really really wanna have a relationship with a guy....a REAL relationship....But the thing is When it somes to the kissing part....I kinda dont know what to do..... I freeze. How do i deal with this? I am 14 and everybody is like way more experienced than me. I'm afraid. Please can you give me advice! Thanx in advanced!

It's perfectly fine! Everybody's nervous for their first kiss. Just go smoothly and it'll be perfect.
~Cayd

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Heya! I'm passing out candy on Halloween, and I want to know how I should decorate my porch. Nothing too big or expensive, just stuff I can do from things I have around the house. I think I'll have the candy in a hollowed out pumpkin, but I'm not sure what to do to decorate my porch. Any suggestions? Thanks!

blow up a balloon and cut out a white sheet to fit over the balloon and have some extra slack hanging down. Tie the sheet so it wont fall off around the balloon. Then make a face on the sheet. You've got a ghost! Also you can make a scarecrow with newspapers and old clothes and buy a scary mask and have your scarecrow sit on the porch next you handing out candy. thats a cool pumpkin idea!
~Cayd

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Hey I wanna be a barbie or a posessed barbie for Halloween; can anyone give me tips on what clothes 2 where; make-up; hair; im 5 feet, brunette w/ blonde highlights, skinny, hazel eyes.
thanx:)

You could wear some girly clothes and have this kinda stunned look on your face. Also get some pale face makeup and make dark circles around your eyes with eyeliner. Being a possessed barbie will be fun! Happy halloween!
~Cayd

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i just want yalls opinions. do u thing black and black and white and white and mexican and mexican ect. should only get married? or should they mix. ok thanks.

I think people should marry whoever they want. Its not up to anybody but them to decide. You have your own choice!
~Cayd

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I have a big poster of aaliyah on my door and its getting kind of old ive had in since i was in 7th grade. what should i do with my door? i dont want it to be empty! nothing i have to go out for just stuff @ home. thanks!

Think: What do you like?
Me? I like guys, like Shane West and Ashton Kutcher. I support the US. Army and I like weird signs. So, my door has pics of really hot guys and a bumpersticker that says AN ARMY OF ONE. I also have a stop sign on it.
You could also take pictures of you and your friends or pets or family or just cool things you took pics of and tape them to your door...whenever you miss someone or something, your doors right there! lol. So, have fun decorating your door! I love decorating, so think of me when ya decorate! Just kidding!
~Cayd

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wats ghost in a graveyard?

Ghost in the Graveyard goes like this: There is one person who is the ghost. They run and hide. *This is an outside game, by the way* Then the other people stay in a group and say this little chant: 1 o'clock, 2 o'clock, 3 o'clock rock. 4 o'clock, 5 o'clock, 6 o'clock rock. 7 o'clock, 8 o'clock, 9 o'clock rock. 10 o'clock, 11 o'clock, 12 o'clock rock. MIDNIGHT! Starbright, starbright, Hope I see a ghost tonight, wish I may, wish i might, grant me my wish tonight. Then the non-ghost people go and look for the ghost person. When they find the ghost, they yell GHOST IN THE GRAVEYARD! And run to the place where you said the chant. Anybody who gets tagged by the ghost, is now a ghost. The last person who doesn't get tagged is the next ghost. Hope I explained it well!
~Cayd

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im having a party . . wat should i have to eat and to do...don't be all perverted and say those nasty things...besides spin the bottle wat good games r there to play...the party is for grls n boys the age of 13.....help

Have out little snacks like pretzels, chex mix, oreos, chips, maybe little sandwiches, candy. Play Light as a feather stiff as a board, Twister, Uno, catch phrase, cranium, play outdoor games like ghost in the graveyard and volleyball. Hope you have a great party!
~Cayd

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all my life i had never had a boyfriend and i thought it was me but 3 days ago my brother finally confessed. he told me that he told all the boys i like not to go out with me, its a rule not to go out with my sister. hes 17 and i'm 13. y does my brother want to........... y did my brother ruin my life?

Sounds like your brother either doesn't want you to grow up or he just doesn't have anything better to do. Ask him why he does this...Dont expect us to know! If he does it because he doesn't have anything else to do, tell him to find a new hobby instead of ruining your chances with guys. Hope I helped!
~Cayd

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Hey guys! I wanted to let you know that each and everyone one of you gives great advice. Well, this isn't a question of "advice", more like a question. I was just wondering.. do any of you guys know any good quote sites? Thanks so much!

You could go to google or ask jeeves and type in Websites for Quotes. Thnx for the comment!!! C ya!
~Cayd

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well .. my best friend is mary -- nd i love her to death !! and her boyfriend is -- wel'l say tom .. nd im best frienz with tom too -- lOl nd i have a boy friend .. lets say tim -- here qoes

mary went to florida for too weekz -- me nd tim when on a break --.. i started messinq around w/tom just u know liek flirtinq stuff -- but then we had a trip nd he liek felt mee upp .. nd we liek made out and all this .. then liek that was over i never stopped him i never said anythinq about it to hiim - then we had another trip nd we - were messinq around nd he finqered mee ' nd i qave him head -- nd liek aqaiin it was over we didn't ever talk about it aqain .. but mary nd {tom" qot into this fiqht nd he was liek yaa thats y i did all this stuff w/ur qerl jackiee . nd liek i don't know what to do should i tell her or deny itt cuz its a huqe mistakee - i dun't know what was wronq w/meee but it happened nd lieek she'll flip if i tell her nd i dun't noe wat to doo -- pleaz help ..

backstabber*

You really should tell your best friend and STOP messing around with her boyfriend if they stay together. I know it'll be hard, but think about what you're doing to "Mary". Good luck and make the right choice! :)
~Cayd

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I have this boyfriend, whom I cheated on 3 times already. (He lives 14 hours away from me, he moved). I love him so much, but sometimes I just get lonely of not having him here and I go out and do stupid things. I love him to death and everytime I cheat on him I tell him. I hurt his feelings so much but he always takes me back. I don't know what to do... it's just sometimes, he doesn't even get mad when I tell him I cheat on him. (Or maybe he just acts like hes not mad, but he really is). I've been with him for almost a year, we BOTH love eachother so much.. I just don't know why I'm always cheating on him if I "love" him... help?

Since you're cheating on him, you should probably not go back to him. You're just hurting him worse. Next time you cheat, remind yourself of your boyfriend who will be really hurt. Hope I helped.
~Cayd

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My girlfriend is cutting herself,she has been doing it for about a year.She is not as bad as she was but she is starting to think about it more and more,she says she is addicted and she doesnt know if she can stop, and she really wants/needs help.I dont know wat to do or say.What can i do to help my girlfriend?

I totally understand what your gf is going through. If she wants help, she should go to a counselor or even tell parents. Good luck! I know it isn't easy to stop, but your girlfriend should think about how many people love her and care about her...It's what helped me at difficult times *WINK WINK*
~Cayd

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I have had this one comforter for a long time and now it has holes in it and stains and all that kinda stuff. I want a new one soon, but my mom wants to make me a new one, but she's really a busy mom- she is a pilot- and I know I'll almost be in college by the time she's done! Pleez Help me!

Sit your mom down and have a talk.
Say, "Mom, I think it's awesome that you want to make me a new bedspread, but I'd rather buy one. You're so busy all of the time, and I don't want to make it a tighter schedule for you." I really hope i helped! Good luck with your mom!
~Cayd

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I'm gonna redo my whole room and i need a magazine or somthing to get ideas from. I watch trading spaces but i need sum10 nore. Thanx bunches!

I know a few good stores which sometimes have mags. There is Pottery Barn Kids and the regular Pottery Barn. Sometimes JC Pennys has mags. Well, good luck and I hope i helped!

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my room is soo boring! i have a dresser, a big desk for homework and all this other stuff, plus 2 twin beds and a small closet! the walls are white and the landlord wont let me paint them, how can i make my room look better? dont say whatever you want, say real stuff!!! thanks a bunch!

Save up some money for cool accesories to match your bedspread. Or you could buy a new bespread and new accesories for your room. Hope I helped!
~Cayd

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ok im moving ... im painting my room dark purple and light purple ... but i have no clue what colors to paint my bathroom .... here are some of my fave colors

- green
- purple
- pink
- blue
- yellow
- black

p.s i dont just wanna paint it i wanna paint some cute stuff LOL

Anggie

Once my sister goes to college, i'm painting my bathroom too. First you should find a cool showercurtain. Mine is Dolphins. Then kinda make a theme for the rest. I plan to paint an underwater theme with cheap stencils. I hope it'll all work out! Good luck!

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A new girl at our skool is 17, engaged, and has a baby. Shes still a freshman cause she was expelled from her old skool her freshman year. Everyone makes fun of her cause she has a kid and is a 17 year old freshman. She doesnt let it bother her, but it bothers me. Shes a good friend of mine now, and I want to be able to stop some of the stuff. Is there any good ways to make ppl just shut up about it?
thanks!

If you see your friend being harassed or anything like that, stick up for her. Tell the meanies to shut their mouths, because they don't know what they're taling about. Tell them how they wouldn't even have the strength or courage to raise a child and keep going with school. I hope i helped. Good luck!
~Cayd

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