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my brother ruined my life!!!!!
all my life i had never had a boyfriend and i thought it was me but 3 days ago my brother finally confessed. he told me that he told all the boys i like not to go out with me, its a rule not to go out with my sister. hes 17 and i'm 13. y does my brother want to........... y did my brother ruin my life?
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He didnt ruin your life, hes just protecting you, and thats the right thing for him to do. You will probably thank him later.....really
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Your brother seems very protective of you since you're his baby sister =) He probably just doesn't want to see you get hurt or heart-broken by some guy. Maybe, he feels like he should be the only man that you look up to in your life - and doesn't want you spending time with other guys that he doesn't know.
You should comfront your brother and tell him that you know he's just acting like a brother, but he needs to stay out of your business. Also, tell him that you want to start experiencing dating - especially when the guys are coming to you! (You're so lucky!)
I hope I helped you! If you need some more advice just tell me! =)
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Most brothers are over protected and get really worried that some guys gonna break his little sisters heart.My brother gets just like that but he gives them reasons not to go out with and he usually just makes something up off the top of his head.even if it doesnt seem like it, it probably is my brother treats me like ahit adn then if he knows i'm really hurting he does whatever it takes to make me feel better.I'm 13 too and my brothers almost 16 so i kinda understand.hope i helped and dont worry too much.
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I'm trying not to laugh, but I just cant, HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Why not just become a whore then? I'm sure that will teach your brother a lesson
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Your only 13, you have your whole life ahead of you so your brother hasn't ruined your life. He is prolly just doing it to protect and look out for his little sister. Maybe is he emphasizing on that a little to much if he is scaring all the boys away from you. But he is just trying to help you so you dont get hurt. But like I said your 13, you'll have plenty of time for a boyfriend.
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"All your life"? You are *thirteen*.
Now, I don't want to patronize you. I know you aren't exactly a child any more - but at the same time, you aren't an adult, and that means it's your families responsibility to protect you.
Maybe your brother is out of line if he actually scares boys off of you. That must be frustrating, but you are being melodramatic to claim it has ruined your life. Talk to him. Tell him that you think you are old enough to start dating, and that you don't appreciate his interferance in your love life. Maybe if you show him you are mature, he'll believe that you are mature enough to have boyfriends. But honestly, your brother is not a bad guy - it's tough to be on the recieivng end and not fully get why he's doing what he's doing, but I assure you that he does have your best interests at heart in wanting you to wait a bit until you star exerimenting with boys.
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you are only 13!!!! He is doing you a favor. You should be thanking him instead of complaining. This way you won't become a 14 year old pregnant statistic!
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He isn't ruining your life, all he's doing is looking out for his little sister. You are after all only 13, you've got plenty of time to date guys, but if your brother has confessed up to you now, it probably means that he thinks your old enough now, so he'll most likely lighten up. Hope you get a boy soon, Good Luck :-)!
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Sounds like your brother either doesn't want you to grow up or he just doesn't have anything better to do. Ask him why he does this...Dont expect us to know! If he does it because he doesn't have anything else to do, tell him to find a new hobby instead of ruining your chances with guys. Hope I helped!
~Cayd
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Hey babe! Speaking in the view an older sister myself, it's definitely common for protection among younger siblings. It's always good to be a good role model, but your brother seems to be overprotecting you way too much. You're 13 and part of being in that stage is to make your own choices and experince new things. And since he is 17 he should be able to relaize that by now. So if you talk to him about it, hopefully you will get your point across. Dating people is part of life, so you should get out there and date. You can tell your brother although you appreciate his effort to protect you, you need to make your own decisions and meeting people and dating is part of that. He should be understanding because I bet he went through the same thing. You're unsure of who you are or exactly what life holds for you, so this is the time to get ideas about that. I don't think he intended to ruin your life, he just wanted to seem tough and scare guys away. (LOL) I don't know about your brother but if he acts like a jerk a lot he might do this to just be annoying. Either way, if you talk to him about this in a serious matter and get through to him hopefully he will back off. If he doesn't it's probably time to get other people involved to help prevent his actions. Anyways, I wish you the best of luck! Love ya! Love Always, Mandee
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Hey hun....you kno what its okay my brother is the exact same thing..hes 17 and im 15 and he says to me if you ever brings any guys home here ill kill them lol...but dont worry about it hes just being over protective the way older brothers are sopposed to be....your probably going to want somone to be protective of you when you gets older but he will soon relazie that your growing up and your going to have bf's and stuff...so hes going to have to get used to it...he will will grow out of it hopefully....hope I helped <3
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hes prolly just protecting you. but im shua that if you talk to him and tell all the guys who asked you out or liked you in the past then things will get better.
.:*livvy*:.
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Well, he wants to protect you. And with good reason! You're a thirteen year old girl, and from the look of it, none too mature either. I know it feels like hell now, but trust me, you're not ready for it. Anyway, I know how it feels to be thirteen and never have a boyfriend, but it's completely normal. Anyway, in all likelihood when he moves out next year, you'll have nobody but yourself to blame if you don't get any dates. It's seriously not that bad though... if not having a boyfriend for all the two years that you've been interested in one has really ruined your life, you've got a pretty miserable life as it is. I suggest picking up a hobby, like scrapbooking, or rock climbing.
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you're only 13... your brother is only looking out for you... boyfriends at that age are such a pain in the butt and are sooo annoying... believe me hunny you dont want one! I promise! Wait till high school years when boyfriends and girlfriends mean more than just holding hands in the hall. Hes not trying to ruin your life hes looking out for you because he loves you... i'd rather take my brothers loving than to have a boyfriend.
-holly-
hope i helped
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i think you should talk to your brother first (i may kinda sound like a psychiatrist) but you shouldnt do anything to your brother if he didnt do anything. think about it how does he know who you like? if you know he does then tell your parents about it, then they might punish him. trust me i have a brother it's really fun to watch or hear him getting punished. plus if you beat him up or something you could get in trouble. i have a sister who's 13 and she has never had a boyfriend. maybe you could find a super hottie in another school. i have a boyfriend in mexico.
Bebeth94
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i also have older brothers, and they sometimes kid around that when i have a boy freind they will beat him up and all that crazy stuff, but all it is is over protection. and also, we are 13...eventually you brother will be perfectly fine with you haveing boyfreinds, who knows, it could be tomarrow, just talk to him about it. hope i could help.
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First of all, your brother has not ruined your life. You are 13, and your life has barely begun. Even if you could date right now, chances are you would not find that special someone at your young age. That set aside, your brother is being a tad intrusive, but he is doing what he believes would be good for you. If you consider this a problem, the only way to solve it will be to talk to him about it. You would be amazed with what a simple talk would accomplish.
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He's just being over protective. Just forget about him and do what you want, don't let your brother get involved. It's not like your life is ruined forever.
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My brother is 19 and always yell's and screams about guys cuz hes really overprotective. he's doing it cuz he loves u and knows guys just want one thing..and he doesnt want to see you get hurt
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he's being over-protective... he'll get over it... you're only 13 so you've got lots of time ahead of you.
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