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I'm a 17 y/o guy in highschool with a mad crush on this girl that I've known since middle school. In middle school, she tried to hook up with me in an indirect way with obvious hints but then I didn't have any idea what to do so we stayed friends. I guess I was still in that cootie phase of puberty. But now I'm a junior in highschool and recently she's been on my mind alot like crazy. There's something about her that keeps my head stuck on her all the time, other girls might catch my attention but damn she got something special. There are a few guys that are trying to hook up with her but I heard from word of mouf that she likes me. Now that I've given you the intel on my situation, I was wondering what would you do to get the girl or to improve the chances of hooking up with her? I'd be real grateful if you can help me out.

Well, I hope for your sake that you want to do more than just hook up with her :-P From the context of your question, it is obvious that you do want more than that, so I'll stop teasing. At any rate, chances are if she liked you in middle school and you didn't undergo this huge character change, that she would probably still be willing to go out with you. You just have to ask her. Now I am not sure what I can say to help you ask her other than you aren't going to get anywhere by any other method. Communication is essential during a relationship, and is also the only way to begin one. So just walk up to her and ask her if she would go with you to a movie, or something along those lines. I know it is "easier said than done" but trust me, the results are worth it. :-)

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Ok I just got over this relationship from an online girl. We were together 5 months but she held so many lies to me and I never saw her. She lived like 4.5 hours away from me tho. But here is the question. I meet this other girl and she likes me and I like her. She lives in the same state and pretty close. How should I go about this without getting hurt again? I would love to be with her but just am scared i'll be hurt. Please help all that can. Thanks Much

Chances are you aren't going to like this answer, but I suggest that you stay away from the realm of internet dating. It eliminates the physical concept of the relationship, which is 1/2 of the whole relationship. Internet relationships are normally not successful. I think it is in your best interest to find a local lady who you can see and spend quality time with. In the end, Pixels really don't mean much. And about getting hurt: That is unavoidable. Love is painful. But when you find that special girl, you realize that the pain is worth it and there is joy to accomodate that pain. I hope you take what I said into consideration when you make your choice.

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I can't make up my mind what I want to study. I am a 21 yr old male. I was going to go to school to learn about video editing because I have an interest in that, but now my friend and I had an idea to go to this design school and get certificates for interior design and start our own business. I can't decide because I am interested in both. Which of the two sounds like a better idea. And if anyone is a video person or an interior designer I would like to know how the salaries of these two occupations compare.

While salaries are important, I do not beleive they should be the be all or end all part of your decision. You should go with what you enjoy more. Do you get more fun out of video editing or home designing? A pro and con list also helps. I've noticed that people can understand things much better when they are in writing. Good luck man, and I hope you do well with whatever decision you make.

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Does anyone know a website where I can earn my high school diploma at home for free?

Try actually going to school.

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OMG my mom is such a bytch! she wont even let me date and i am a 14 yr old female! she doesnt trust neone except herself(which is CRAZY!!) how can i make her change her mind about boys?
signed,
pissed off

Are you sure you are mature enough to date someone? If you believe you are, then you're going to have to prove that to your mother. Help out around the house, when you go out to hang otu with your friends, tell your mom exactly where you are going and the times you will be gone. Share everything that happens with her, and show her that you trust her. Usuallu, when you trust someone, they return that trust.

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hows it going everyone
i'm training for a military parachuting course and it's really physically demanding. anyone got tips on training long distance running?
and how often i should workout at the gym?
thanks alot.

Woah dude. You're going to join the Airborne Infantry? I salute you. I can't exactly answer your question because I honestly don't know, but I just want you to know that I have a lot of respect for the Airborne groups. You rock man, don't give up.

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Okay, I'm a freshman and there's this junior in my spanish class. Well, I always catch him looking at me, like all the time. And he's REALLY cute. But he has a girlfriend, I'm just wondering.. but what do you think about this? His smile like melts me, and i'm just wondering if there's something there.

He has a girlfriend. Doesn't that say enough? If he asks you out while he still has a girlfriend I would think his morals are in question. Put yourself in his girlfriend's position. How would she feel if she knew that her boyfriend was eyeing you up and all? Consider that if this progresses.

I apologize if what I said isn't what you wanted to hear. But not taking other people's feelings into consideration in situations like this is cold and wrong. Hopefully after you grow up you'll realize that for yourself.

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My Bf is really shy around me..if I try to talk to him or something he just kind gives me a thumbs up..i don't know if he just to shy to say something back or hes just doesn't care..I like him alot!! What do I do?

This is a rather odd question with not a whole lot of information in it, but I will do my best to answer it. You need to talk to him. In a relationship, whenever there is a problem, you need to talk about it. Talking is what keeps relationships alive. Once you hear what he has to say, continue from there and decide what you are going to do. I can't really help you much more than that considering I have no iformation on the situation.

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i like two guys. one guy im really good friends with. hes really smart and funny, and hes not really really popular. i mean i guess hes a little bit but not really. im not popular, but im not a loser. im just the average girl. the other guy i like is extremely popular. i could never get him though, so back to the other guy. i really want him to like me, and he doesnt like all the slutty girls. he thinks im really pretty and funny, but i want him to LIKE me. i weigh 135, im 5'3, brown hair with green eyes..any thing i could do to make him like me more? i rate!!

No. There is nothing that you can do to "make" him like you. That isn't possible. But, chances are that if he thinks you are pretty and funny that he already likes you. Talk to him more and get to know him and eventually just ask him out. Just remember to be yourself.

And for the record, popularity doesn't mean a damned thing.

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Hey well I'm starting a low carb diet this monday and ending it in June. I have done this diet before but only for a month and I got great results. I am hoping to lose 35 lbs (I'm not fat but if I lose 35 lbs i'll be underweight and thats cool haha) Anyway, the low carb diet for 7 months will be really really hard. I cant have no bread, rice, pasta, potatoes, cereal,anything with more than 5% carbs...so i cant eat 90% of the things we normally eat. But anyway, I was wondering do you guys know any diets that I can lose 30 lbs in 7 months. Because I wanna know my options and I'm not looking forward to this low carb diet. Thanks:)

Being underweight is NOT cool. It is unhealthy. If you can't eat "90%" of what we normally eat then what will you eat? Are you sure this diet of yours is healthy? You may want to see your doctor about other diets that will do less damage to your body and will still get you to your goal.

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Okay, i like this guy and he can be SO SO sweet sometimes.. but he really can be a jerk too. He's called me names, and i think he takes advantage of a lot of people... but to me, he's still great, and i try to tell myself that he's not, but it doesn't work! i've liked him for over a year now. right now he's mad at me, and he tends to do this a lot. he like finds reasons to get mad, and he won't even tell me what it is! i don't understand it. i just need help on what i should tell him or what i should do. PLEASE DON'T SAY "GET OVER HIM"... I've heard it TOO many times, and I don't want to hear it again..
--*Thanks for the help. I'll rate*--

You have acknowledged the fact that he is a jerk. You have acknowledged the fact that he gets angry at you and makes up reasons for it. You've acknowleged the fact that he taks advantage of people. But he is sweet too? This doesn't sound like an excellent situation to me. If this guy cared about you and you want to have a nice little relationship then he is going to have to stop being such a dick. And if he contineus to act this way, you need to find a new boyfriend. Clinging to this one will NOT help you. From your question you have asked me not to say "get over him." This shows that people have told you this before because they acknowledge that this guy is a two face. Why haven't you taken their advice?

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Ok, I'm 14/f
And there is this guy at my church. He is soo funny and he's a really good Christian, which is very important for me, and he has an awesome personality and is very fun to be around. The only problem is, he is really small. He is like 1/2 a foot shorter than me and weighs about 30 lbs less. Beside all this, I really like him a lot because of the inside, which is really what counts, but I'm afraid of what my friends would say if we dated. Because well, I've been known for going for the good-looking guys. So what should I do?

If you like him, then you shouldn't give a damn what your friends think of him. If your friends look down on you for dating someone you like then they aren't very good friends and you should get some new ones. I say you go out with this guy, he sounds awesome. So what if he is short? Since when did height matter? :-P

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this is going to be long...

I have this gut feeling that my brother is gay. I really believe that he is. I don't have a problem with it or anything because I love gay people. His best friend is bisexual even though he won't admit it. He's kissed guys in the back of school and I've seen him and he also kisses girls. So I pretty much know he's bi. So getting back to my brother, I just really think that he's gay! I swear it's like i have gay-dar or something like that, he's always staring at my boyfriend when he comes over, when he has his friends over, they are in his room for like 2 freakin hours WITH THE DOOR LOCKED and if he hears me walking up to the door he yells at me. I mean come on, he's never had a girlfriend and he always says he doesn't want one and that he'd never get married. He says, and I will quote, "Girls are a waste of my time." When I told some of my friends that I thought he was gay, they all responded with "I always knew something was up with your brother." Or something along those lines. Even guys that barely know my brother say that he's gay. My only worry is that my dad is homophobic, and my mom said that she'd be really upset if she found out that he was gay even though she has gay friends. How do I tell my mom of my suspicions? If it's true how would my dad react in the future when he comes out? How can I deal with this??

It is great that you worry about your brother, but this is truly his concern. If he is gay, it is up to him to convey that news to your parents. As for your parents reactions, even if you could predict them, there is no way to change them. I sincerely hope your parents will be more accepting than you are assuming when your brother, if your suspections are true, confronts them.

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Ok, well heres the thing...I still like my ex boy friend, I think...see I am not sure if I like him...or I just liked making out with him...lol I know it sounds childish but when I am in his arms I feel safe, and it feels like nothing in the world matters anymore...I dont know what to do because we dated for 3 days and then broke up for about a week and then we dated for another 4 days and then broke up and it has almost been a week, both of the times we broke up it was because he was flirting with another girl and had told his best friend that he liked her more then me, and his best friend proved it to me both times...I dono what to do...i want him back, I think...PLease help me I dont know what to do...I feel so good when I am in his arms and when we are kissing but I dont know if i just like the fact of feeling that way, or feeling that way "WITH HIM"....if you know please tell me!!! I need to figure this out because it is driving me crazy!!

Chances are you just liked being held and kissed by someone. This guy doesn't sound too great if he was flirting with other women. If you broke up with him twice and only dated him for a week total then there is obviously nothing special there.

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Ok i made a big mistake by saying i didn't want to kiss my boyfriend just yet (he wants to) but i've just realised today that i really do! We went shopping after school today and i kept trying to get us into a situation where he could kiss me but he didn't take the hint! How should i let him know subtly that i want to?!

Why does it have to be subtle? Just give him a kiss already :-)

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Ok im not sure what to do Im still kinda in love with my ex and he still likes me but THe like 4th day of school we were forced to sit my eachother so he talked to me about that he lost his virginity and hes had sex like ALOT we vowed to eachother we were gonna take eachothers virginity but then we broke up now I dont know what to do help????

I don't see how he can like you and then go off and have all this sex. If he liked you he would have kept his promise to you. I think you need to find a new guy. One that doesn't have "ALOT" of sex and doesn't break promises.

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heyy .. okay i have lotss of like problemss .. and i really need so0me one i kan have to look foward to and be happy about what i mean is a boyfriend .. and i havent had one for a whilee .. and i havent liked any one for a while .. whats wrong with me .. and how can i find new guys to find a boyfriend .. i really wunt a long relationship

From the context of your question it sounds like you are rather young. You need to ask yourself: will having a boyfriend REALLY solve your problems? I doubt it will. A long, committed relationship is not a game. It is a lot of hard work. Granted, if you find the right person, you will enjoy yourself, but doing that when you are young is very difficult. If you REALLY want a boyfriend so badly, then you should just talk to people. Get to know some guys. When you find one you like, spend more time with him. Although I am warning you that a romantic relationship increases your stress level in life.

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[Sorry about the lengh, but I need some advice=)}About a year and a half ago, I met a guy who changed my life. When one of my best friends introduced us, I didn't really think anything of it. We hardly ever saw eachother, but talked often and had the most deep, intriguing conversations that would last for hours on end. We had a connection, somthing I had never felt before...but there, of course, was a problem...He lived an hour away. We were 14 at the time, and, me , being an only child, continued to be extremley protected by my parents when it came to dating. I saw him literally once every 6 months, and it would always be someplace public, with each one of our friends involved. A year later, and a year older, my parents agreed to take me out there for a few hours so we could finnaly be together. After that visit, we started seeing eachother more and more often, and our love grew stronger and stronger. My parents started allowing me to spend the night, and I have made so many new, interesting friends. The summer, amazing, every weekend me and him would spend together. Now that school started again, it came to realization that we have different lives, and a lot of things are going to interfere with our relationship. I am in love, and every minute i spend thinking about him...but I'm afraid that our distance, even if it is only an hour away, is going to damage our connecton. I see couples in the hallway at school, around town, and other places, and it makes me so depressed, I never take any time spent with him for granite. Some people really don't know how lucky they are to have such a great person becasue they're always with them. So I guess my question is, how do I keep this relationship strong, despite the fact that I am not around to see his actions. I mean, I trust him, and he trusts me, but all the girls I know from his town love him. He's a ladies man and I am so very jelous. I wish i could do somthing, but he always brings up how far away i am, thats why we held off going steady until the summer....please i really need some intelligent advice.

Thank you for reading this...

Granite is a rock. You meant to say for granted. And if you don't take it for granted, thats good. That means you appreciate his time. Grammar bugs me. Anyway, on to your advice. If you truly love this man, then the distance could possibly strengthen the relationship, as odd as that sounds. My girlfriend lives an hour away as well, and I miss her every moment I have time to think. But I cherish every second I get to spend with her. Do you have a way of talking to him often? Communication is essential to a relationship. As long as you are constantly talking to him and you get to see him every now and then, I think your relationship will work out just fine. But remember that long distance relationships are very difficult, and only the truely best couples can withstand them. I hope you and your love make it through :-).

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Hi well see I met this guy from Paris, France, well he is sweet and everything , but my boyfriend dosnt like him , he said if I talked to him that he would break up with me , what do I do?Plz
help

I personally see no problem with you just talking to a guy in France. Some of the comments said below are ptretty asinine and incorect, there isn't anything more wrong with French people than American people. But anyway, if your boyfriend is going to dump you because you talk to some guy on the internet that poses no threat to your relationship what-so-ever, I think it is time you found yourself a new boyfriend. This one sounds rather controlling and obnoxious, from the limited information I was given.

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I really like my best friend... We've been best friends for almost 10 years.... I don't know if she likes me though... i don't wanna look weird.... and i don't wanna ruin our freindship. What should i do?

If you have a 10 eyar strong friendship then asking her to move it up a level can't hurt. I mean, 10 years is a long time. There has to be a lot of trust there. Asking her a simple question won't ruin your friendship. If she says she does want to go out with you, great. If she doesn't, no biggie. She will still be your friend.

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