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Need to get that ONE girl

Question Posted Wednesday October 13 2004, 12:24 am

I'm a 17 y/o guy in highschool with a mad crush on this girl that I've known since middle school. In middle school, she tried to hook up with me in an indirect way with obvious hints but then I didn't have any idea what to do so we stayed friends. I guess I was still in that cootie phase of puberty. But now I'm a junior in highschool and recently she's been on my mind alot like crazy. There's something about her that keeps my head stuck on her all the time, other girls might catch my attention but damn she got something special. There are a few guys that are trying to hook up with her but I heard from word of mouf that she likes me. Now that I've given you the intel on my situation, I was wondering what would you do to get the girl or to improve the chances of hooking up with her? I'd be real grateful if you can help me out.

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Additional info, added Wednesday October 20 2004, 9:30 pm:
Well it looks like I got past one checkpoint with this girl,now there's another one hitting me hard.
I asked her to homecoming and she said she had a rodeo and I was alright that but the second time I asked her to a car show,she had a wedding to go to,and the third time she got a baptism. Yo this girl is either one of the busiest girl in the world or she definitely don't wanna go on a date with me. I told her straight up if she didn't wanna go then just tell me but she keep saying she busy.It's hard to believe but I always give her that benefit of the doubt because with her,I ain't gonna stop. Now,I keep saying I'm gonna stop this shit and end all that headache and confusion that come along with her but I always do a comeback. Now what got me even more ticked off is I keep wondering how her ex did it and me, the guy who knew her since middle school, ain't getting squat. What's your opinion of all this? Should I just quit now and move on? I really need your advice,I mean anything you got to say that can help me, just shoot.

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Mystique answered Sunday October 17 2004, 10:30 am:
Dear 'Love sick' :)
First and foremost I must say you have in your favor that the two of you were and (are) friends first, believe it or not that makes things a lot easier. All you need to do is be honest with her, tell her exactly what you told me. Let her know that shes been on your mind a lot lately,and that even though there may be a lotta other girls that may catch your eye they just dont have what she has,and that some people spend a lifetime looking for that special someone,and youd hate to let that oppurtunity slip past the two of you. Yanno? the worst that happens is that the two of you try it out for a while and decide that the best relationship for the two of you is to be the best of friends. Just for what its worth I was in your same situation with my bestest friend in the world. we felt the same way, we did everything together until we tried that oh so awkward next step...turns out we were just too close we felt like we were brother and sister,so for us we tried and we were just better off best friends, and for 15 yr now we STILL consider each other our bestest friend,he was even in my wedding this pat October2nd....and we live over how it turns out 4 hours away from one another! let fate take its course, all you can do is help nudge it along a little bit,...whats meant to be will be, but through it all the two of you must remember you were friends before anything else, so dont lose sight of that! :) Hope this helps! Lemmie know

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bella627 answered Thursday October 14 2004, 5:17 pm:
It sounds like you have a really good chance with this girl. If you guys have been friends for a while that's an awesome start, and it also gives you an edge over other guys that might like her. You should definitely tell her how you's like fate gave you guys a second chance. If you're not positive how she feels, you could always talk to one of her close friends. But I know most girls will wait for the guy to make the first move, especially if she was dropping hints before. Maybe you could ask her to go out to dinner or something and see what kind of vibe you get from her. And even if it doesn't work out then you won't be left with all the what ifs. So definitely give it a shot. And DON'T play any games, like flirting with other girls or ignoring her. It may sound stupid but there ARE guys out there that do that!
Hope I helped!! GOOD LUCK!!!

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Witty answered Thursday October 14 2004, 3:04 am:
Well if you heard that she likes you, I think if you guys are friends, you need to tell her how you feel.Or else, you'll always wonder whether or not you guys had a chance. If it makes you feel better, I've kind of been in that situation before only I blew it by not letting the guy know how i felt about him. It will definitely bother you. Just get enough courage and ask her out. Good luck!

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kristen22 answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 3:54 pm:
Hey, You seem like a very sweet guy... Don't waste no more time! It seems to me that she wants to be with you and you certainly want to be with her. Just ask her out in a not so obvious way...Like, Hey Im going to the movies Friday to see {blah blah} wanna go? Let me know if ya' like that idea or not..I can think of others! Or....slip a note in her locker and tell her how u really feel. Don't sign your name at the bottom, sign it: 555-8542 {ur number}, If you want to know who I am...Call me!

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TheGovernor answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 3:04 pm:
Well, I hope for your sake that you want to do more than just hook up with her :-P From the context of your question, it is obvious that you do want more than that, so I'll stop teasing. At any rate, chances are if she liked you in middle school and you didn't undergo this huge character change, that she would probably still be willing to go out with you. You just have to ask her. Now I am not sure what I can say to help you ask her other than you aren't going to get anywhere by any other method. Communication is essential during a relationship, and is also the only way to begin one. So just walk up to her and ask her if she would go with you to a movie, or something along those lines. I know it is "easier said than done" but trust me, the results are worth it. :-)

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MystikalAngel answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 1:56 pm:
Your best bet is to simply be direct and honest. If you like someone don't bother with wasting time sending friends back and forth. Information can get jumbled from person to person, and you may not get what was truly said.

Not to mention she'll respect you much more for being man enough to come to her, rather than sending someone else.

Catch her after school, and ask her if she'd like to go to a movie, or for a bite to eat. If the face to face thing seems a bit hard for you, call her up and ask her.

You'll be better for knowing. If she says "yes" then way to go, congratz. If she says "No" then you're better off knowing, moving on, and finding someone who does want to be with you. Rather than wasting your time on someone who doesn't.

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OneMan answered Wednesday October 13 2004, 1:48 pm:
It doesnt appear that you would have to do much of anything to accomplish either of those tasks. Your chances couldnt be much more improved if she already has an interest in you. If she expresses that interest, coupled with the fact that she is spurning advancements from others, then what more do you need?
But the question was,'What would I do', correct? Well, having the intel that you so elouquently provided, I take the confidence that came with that, approach her and politley ask her out for something small, say, a movie or something that she really likes to do. I think the rest of it would fall into play from there.
Good luck, cassanova. Sounds like you dont need it ;)

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