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I Googled it, yet I can't find who did the original song! The only lyrics that popped up were the Marilyn Manson lyrics, and I honestly don't think he originally did the song....or did he?


Who originally did the song "Sweet Dreams"?


"Sweet dreams are made of these....who am I to disagree? Travel the world and the seven seas...everybody's searching for something..."

The "Eurythmics" did the original version of "Sweet Dreams"

Here is a link to thier official website:

http://www.eurythmics.com/

~Mysti~

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is there ANY CHANCE of getting pregnant if you give head? like anyy chance at all? because i know its stupid, but im just worried.

If there is no contact between male ejaculation (sperm) and your vaginal opening or interior of your vagina, than no, there is no chance of getting pregnant.

But that being said, if you have performed oral sex on someone, after he ejaculates, if you have it on your hands or his...DO NOT touch yourself or allow him to, until your hands have been washed.

Getting ejaculate inside of your mouth, or swallowing it, will not get you pregnant.

If you have concerns about getting pregnant and the facts of how it may or may not occur than you may not be ready to have sex or sexual contact as of yet, and need to speak with someone, like a family Dr., to get the facts. it is always better to be fully informed with all the facts, before doing anything.

Better safe, than sorry.

~Mysti~

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15/f. Since probably elementary school, I've had "depressed" periods and overly happy periods. I feel a depression coming on. They usually come after a happy period. I usually get one when I feel like my friends don't like me or I just feel like people don't like me in general, or when I feel like my parents nag me too much, or even not being in a musical or performance for a while can do it. Little things can trigger it. Is there something wrong with me? Can I do anything to make it milder? I hate feeling this way.

Being 15, all on it's own, is stressfull and an emotional rollercoaster.

It helps greatly to have someone to speak to about how you are feeling. Sometimes it's hard to go to our parents with what is going on because we fear they may not understand, and we fear thier reaction to what we have to say. But it's important to try. If you truly feel that you can not go to your parents though, you should seek out a willing to listen person. Perhaps a school councilor, a friend, or another relative.

If you feel it is beyond something you can handle or cope with on your own any longer and it is effecting you in ways that you find frightening or highly uncomfortable, than letting your parents know is definatly something you should do. The thought of speaking to our family Dr. or a Therapist about our feelings can be scary, but very helpful.

You may find the answers to many of your questions and be glad you asked for help.
~Mysti~

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Ok this will sound weird but how do you get rid of constapation... lol and how to predent it thank you in advance

Depending on the situation there are several ways to handle this delicate problem. Everyone, at sometime in there life, finds themselves constipated. Diet, stress, and various health problems can cause things to back-up and be uncomfortable.
For immediate relief there are over the counter products that you can purchase at most super markets, and all drug stores. Some work very quickly, but can cause stomach cramping; and others work overnight and are gentler on your body. Be sure to ask your Dr. or pharmacist before try anything. They can give you all the helpful/important information you need.

There are also natural laxitives you can try as well. Such as eating prunes, drinking apple juice, and the little known fact that pop-corn is also a natural laxative.

To maintian a healthy system you should eat plenty of fruits, veggies, whole grains, and drink lots of water. Try to maintain a healthy, stress free outlook on life as well. I know that's easier said than done, but making a bit of quiet time for yourself can truly help your body in many ways.

Good luck and be safe.
~Mysti~



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I technically can't "date" until I turn 16. I've had boyfriends before but not ones you actually go on single dates with and things like that. My parents are okay with that kind of thing, but what if a guy actually asks me out? What should I do then? Thanks!

Perhaps you can find a happy medium with your parents if the situation arises. A compromise you can both live with.

A suggestion would be having dinner at either your home or your boyfriends home. Spending time together in groups of your friends, or with your families.

Most parents main concerns for a teenager dating is that they will make bad choices when dealing with sex. That is why they have the age restriction. At 16 they may feel you will be better able to make a responsible choice.

But it may put their mind at ease, and show them thier little girl can be responsible if she comes to them and tells them that she really cares for this boy, wants to spend time with him, but understands thier concerns, and wants to try to work out a compromise they (yoru parents) can live with.

More than likely they will be very proud of you for coming to them and trying to have a mature conversation on the subject.

I have a 13 year old daughter myself. And this subject has come up in our home. Compromising and allowing her to see a boy she likes at our home for dinner or watching tv, has worked out very well. She gets a little ground to show she is mature and we get some more time to get use to the fact she is growing up. ;)

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I'm a 17 y/o guy in highschool with a mad crush on this girl that I've known since middle school. In middle school, she tried to hook up with me in an indirect way with obvious hints but then I didn't have any idea what to do so we stayed friends. I guess I was still in that cootie phase of puberty. But now I'm a junior in highschool and recently she's been on my mind alot like crazy. There's something about her that keeps my head stuck on her all the time, other girls might catch my attention but damn she got something special. There are a few guys that are trying to hook up with her but I heard from word of mouf that she likes me. Now that I've given you the intel on my situation, I was wondering what would you do to get the girl or to improve the chances of hooking up with her? I'd be real grateful if you can help me out.

Your best bet is to simply be direct and honest. If you like someone don't bother with wasting time sending friends back and forth. Information can get jumbled from person to person, and you may not get what was truly said.

Not to mention she'll respect you much more for being man enough to come to her, rather than sending someone else.

Catch her after school, and ask her if she'd like to go to a movie, or for a bite to eat. If the face to face thing seems a bit hard for you, call her up and ask her.

You'll be better for knowing. If she says "yes" then way to go, congratz. If she says "No" then you're better off knowing, moving on, and finding someone who does want to be with you. Rather than wasting your time on someone who doesn't.


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I am 13 years old, i am about 5'2 and i weigh 115-120 pounds. i want to weigh at the most 105. I really want to lose weight, but am having trouble. there is never any food that i like at my house that is healthy, so i snack on shit. i swim 4 mornings a week on a swim team, and play sports in school, but i never seem to get thinner. i really want to lose 10-15 pounds before school starts...on the 6th of september. is there anything that i can do to make myself thinner in time? also, i am having trouble ridding myself of acne. i heard toothpaste works, but does it work WELL? also, how long do i have to keep it on for? how much should i put on?
please help! will rate VERY well.

You sound as if you are off to a good start with your physical activity. The problem seems to be the food you are eating. Junk food is very high in things like carbs, sugars, salts, and fats; which all lead to problems with weight gain. Just snacking is also very unhealthy. You need to make sure you eat 3 balanced meals a day. Having small snacks in between meals is fine, as long as they are healthy choices. Like veggies, or fruit. Your body relies on what you eat to get you thru your day and help you do all of those physical activities you enjoy.
Eating healthy is something you must start when you are young and make a life long habit. First off you should try sitting down with your parents and letting them know you are concerned about your wieght and eating habits. It is very important for you to feel that you can talk to your parents about this. They should understand your concerns and be willing to help you. Make sure you talk to them as soon as possible.
As for the acne, the most important thing is to keep your face clean, and DON'T PICK AT IT. I had horrible acne as a teenager and got into the habit of popping them. Doing this can lead to lasting scars. The best thing to do is wash your face, try not to touch your face as your hands will tranfer dirt and bacteria to it, and if you are wearing makeup make sure you wash it off at night before you go to bed.
As far as the toothpaste goes; I have heard that it dries pimples out too. BUT, it can also burn your skin if left on to long, and its simply not worth that risk.
Besides you may find that once you start eating healthy your skin will clear up on its own. What you eat can highly effect what your skin looks like. Junk food is horrible for your skin.
Plus be sure to drink plenty of water. Not only is it good for your health inside but it too will also help to clear up acne.
Eat healthy, drink plenty of water, stay active, keep your face washed, dont pick at the acne, and you will start seeing results.
Just don't expect it to happen all at once. These things take time. So be patient, and keep at it. Don't give up! You'll be better off and happier, healthier in the long run.
~Mysti~


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I am 23 years old. I just moved to California from Alaska with my boyfriend. The problem is, i do not think i love him. I am still in love with my guy friend back home. I am very unhappy in my current realtionship. I told him i wanted to go back home to Alaska. He agreed, but i am afraid once we get there, I will not want to be with him anymore. I want to be happy. My guy friend back home loves me also and i know that he would be with me and we would be happy but i do not want to break my boyfriends heart. What do i do to make this easy for us all?

The longer you wait the harder you are making it on all of you. There really is no easy way out of a relationship and still be able to show respect for another persons feelings. Like it or not, there are going to be hurt feelings, and you will simply have to deal with that. Behonest with your boyfriend is the best thing you can do for both of you. Its hardly fair or right for him to be in a relationship with someone who does not love him, and is simply sticking around because they don't know how to end it. Letting him go will give him the chance to find the happiness, and love he deserves. At the moment you are simply harming yourself and him. And thats no way to live.
Sit him down, tell him you have something you need to say, and its going to be difficult for both of you to deal with. Then let him know you care about him, but you don't feel that you are in love him, and for his sake and yours you feel it is better that you both go your seperate ways. You both have the right to be happy, and feel loved. You are doing both of you a great injustice by prolonging this break-up.
So take a deep breath, steady youself, and do what needs to be done, for the better of all parties involved.
~Mysti~

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hello. all my life i have been made fun of because of my muslim faith. people always say, there is bin laden, get him.they think i support the 9/11 attacks. my parents support them but i don't. please help me get through this before i go crazy.

Greetings....
You need to understand that people lash out in anger, and anger comes from pain, from fear, and from not understanding. It's not right for them to treat you and judge you as they do, but truly there is little you can do about it. There will always be someone else out there who speaks first, and thinks about it later.
Most important though is how you feel about yourself. To remind yourself that you are not responsible for the sins of another. Nor should you feel guilt or be punished for them. The same goes for your parents views. They are thier own, and you have your own. You know what is inside of you, you know your own heart. Never let anyone make you feel as if you have done something wrong for being who you are. You know what you believe and what you feel, and that is most important. Stand proud, turn your back on the ignorance of others, and do your best to ignore them. Just remind yourself it is truly with ignorance that they attack you for the sins of others. You are not at fault.
~Mysti~

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i rele didnt no what to call this
last school year i was rele flat if u no what i mean and now im not but im not fake how do i get people to realize that? because all the guys think i stuff what am i suppose to do take off my clothes and prove it?

Greetings...
Ok, what matters most here is you, not the boys who think you stuff. You don't have to prove anything to them. You're at that point in your life where everything is changing from childhood to becoming a young adult. Everything about you is maturing in some way. And its no secret that boys mature emotionally, a lot slower. They are going to be childish and make you want to scream for many more years to come. I'm 27 years old and I can honestly say their are men my age who still make me want to scream, "GROW UP!". You'll learn to deal with it with time, and experience. For now, the best thing to do is simply tune them out. Thier words have no power over you, if you don't allow yourself to hear them. When they start to tease, think to yourself "They are so childish.", smile and walk away. You'll be better for ignoring their taunts, than if you turned around and yelled at them. Your anger or being upset would only fuel them on to harrass you further.
And another thing. Be proud of yourself little one. You're on your way to becoming a woman, and thats nothing to be ashamed of or to fear. Growing breast is just another phase in a long cycle of growth for you. Being a woman is a fabulous, wonderful thing.
~Mysti~

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I really like this guy (im 15/f) like i think it might be love.. but he has a girlfriend.. me n him always chill n like make out n stuff.. and he always tells me he loves me.. but why is he with her?

Hello...
If he has a girlfriend, and she does not know about you, then you are simply playing the other woman. He is showing a great deal of lack of respect or concern for both of you by his actions. If he truly loves you, as you say he says, he would not be stringing you along, and making you wait to be his one and only. Nothing good is ever kept secret and hidden from others. If you have to hide the fact that he you care about him and that the two of you are physically intimate, then something isn't right. At the moment you are playing second fiddle to his girlfriend. And I'm pretty sure she wouldn't be to happy to know her boyfriend is cheating on her.
He has no respect for either of you. Have some respect for yourself and tell him he needs to choose. Or make the choice for him, and go out and find yourself a boyfriend who deserves you. Because this guy, obviously doesn't.
~Mysti~

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Is it ok to just flirt? I used to like be obbsessed with different guys but now I just wanna have fun...is that ok?

Hello...
There is nothing wrong with a little casual flirting, as long as you are not causing problems for yourself or others. Try to steer clear of flirting with people who are already taken. More than anything its a respect issue. Some people have no problem with their boyfriend/girlfriends flirting, and see it as harmless. Others are not so secure and confident. You can unwittingly do damage to someone else relationship if you get caught flirting with them by their significant other. Not to mention the physical damage that sigificant other may do to you in their anger.
Plus its wise to make sure that unless you are truly interested in someone that you let them know you are only playfully flirting, and "just having fun". Allowing someone to misunderstand your playfullness may cause trouble, and you may end up hurting someone emotionally that you really didn't intend on doing.
Have fun, just be respectful, and mindful of your actions and thier consequences.
~Mysti~

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My boyfriend said that on the first date he wanted to have sex with me but I don't think I'm ready to. I told him I wanted to wait and he said okay we'll wait but now everytime I talk to him he still brings up the subject of "doing it" on the first date. What do I say to him to tell him that I don't want to go that far on the first date?

Hello...
The first indication that something isn't right is the fact that he is pressuring you. Once you said you wanted to wait, he should have told you he respected that choice, and dropped the subject. Don't allow someone else to make up your mind for you. You obviously know it's not right for you, that you are not ready to take that step. And he shoudl be willing to accept and respect that fact if he cares for you at all. Pressuring someone to have sex is a selfish and uncaring thing to do. If he can't wait, then maybe you don't need to wait around for him to understand you, and move on to someone who will respect your wishes far more than he does.

~Mysti~

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theres this guy who started talkin to me on AIM. He lives where I do and all that...definately not a stalker. I know his cousin lol.

Well anyway..hes 3 yrs older than me...hes never seen me but ive seen him..wasnt that attracted to him (not a good look tho..+ it was dark) .ive never been involved with anyone that old before...and i can tell all he wants is a fling. this is cool with me..cuz i want the same. Does anyone have any good ideas on where to meet , what to do when we meet, or should i not kiss him?

Dear "Go for the fling?",

First off if you are planning to meet someone you have spoken with online, or only met once its always best to be safe, rather than sorry. NEVER meet someone you don't really know alone or in a non-public place. Just because someone sounds trustworthy, does not mean they are. Sweet words are easy to say, and easy to hide lies behind. Knowing his cousin does not mean you know how he will be. I'm not saying thats what he is doing, but better to be cautious.

So meet him with other friends. Go to a movie, or to dinner. Hang out in some public place so you can get to know him better, safely.

As for kissing him, or hooking up for a fling. My adive is to get to know him first. Once something is done, you cant change undo it. Its always better to think things thru first. Who knows, you may hang out with him and find out he is not at all the person you imagined him to be.

Mysti

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