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My boyfriend said that on the first date he wanted to have sex with me but I don't think I'm ready to. I told him I wanted to wait and he said okay we'll wait but now everytime I talk to him he still brings up the subject of "doing it" on the first date. What do I say to him to tell him that I don't want to go that far on the first date?
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Tell him plain out and straight "I don't want sex." If he doesn't listen to you, then you need to move on. If this boy is always bringing up the subject of sex on the first date, then that means he is using you. He probably wants you for your body, and when he gets bored of you, he'll dump you. So just tell him if he can't deal with the fact that you're not ready for sex, then he better be ready to leave.
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Just keep telling him your not ready. If her really likes you he should understand. Good luck
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LAURA
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Saying 'I'm not ready to have sex yet' should be enough. There's no magic phrase which will make him listen more, except possibly 'If you don't respect me, I don't want to be in this relationship.'
If he really cares about you, then he'd be willing to give you as much time as you needed. Sex isn't something which 'should' happen on a first, third, or twenty-seventh date. It should only happen when both people involved decide, individually and as a couple, that they are ready.
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tell him to go fuck a tree... if all he can think about is sex buy him a porno! if he cant focus on u long enough to have a straight convo bfore bringin up sex then...u know what to do! hope it goes well
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Just wait till you're comfterable when you're with him. Start out with doing other stuff. And if he's older then you and is expirenced and this is your first just remind him how old you are and that you're not expirenced and you want to wait. If he really likes you he'll understand and wait. But jus get it through his head that you're not ready.
xo,
jackie<3
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HEY IT'S NAQUIA
I THINK YOU SHOULD WAIT . HE IS TO INTO IT IS HE A VIRGAN ASK HIM OR BE WITH SOMEONE THAT ISN'T GOING TO TALK ABOUT IT IF YOU ARE UNCOMFABLE
PEACE NAQUIA *BYE
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Tell him that it's YOUR decision, and you won't have sex on the first date. If he's worth your time, he should understand and forget about it until you're ready.
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Don't say nothing! (Well you don't need to keep repeating yourself) Tell him straight up, "HEY I'm NOT DOING IT ON THE FIRST DATE, you keep askin me I'mma kick you in the neck (lol j/k)!" But yeah, don't do anything you don't want to do. And if he can't accept the fact that you don't wanna do it on the first date, then I dun think he respects you, and you need to rethink about the kind of person you are with. Well Good Luck and I hope you make the right decision! God Bless! ~1ne~
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*Tell him to shut the hell up next time he says it. Seriously, why are you with this guy when he's pressuring you to have sex on the FIRST date!!?*
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WOW! It kinda seems like you two are in the relationship for different reasons! If you feel pressured at all GET RID OF HIM! There are sooo many other guys out there for, and you deserve to be treated with respect! So you should tell him No, and that you arent reay and if he doesnt get that forget him and move on ok~! xoxo
GOOD LUCK~!
*~MALLY~*
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Wow... well, I dunno how old u are... and it really doesn't matter, but no1 should be having sex on their first date w/ sum1. That's just wrong. Wait until you find sum1 that u truely love, and better, wait until ur married until u have sex, otherwise u might totally regret it. If he wants 2 have sex w/ u and ur not ready just say "no" and if he truely cares about u and respects u, then he'll get over it. Good luck!
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dump the fucker. u shouldnt go out with a guy thats that pushy. a good guy would wait 4 u 4evr.never let a guy rush u!
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Just explain to him that ur not ready and that u think its to early in the relationship and tell him ull let him now when and if ur ready...if he really respects you he'll stop bringing it up...
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well if you really do love your boyfriend; then go ahead and tell him that your not ready for sex. But if i was you i would break up with him because if thats the only thing he thinkin about then its not worth. cuz to me it just sounds like he wants to have sex and then be done.
- nicicole
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It seems like this guy is using you for sex. If he really liked you for who you are he would respect your answer and not keep bringing it up. Talk to him and tell him your not going to have sex and if he dosn't stop asking you to have sex i would dump him!
xoxo chels
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tell him hes a pervert and that yer not ready! n if he doesnt listen then SCREW HIM
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Just tell him STRAIGHT up, "Hun look i am not going to have sex with you on the first date! i told that already, we can talk about it but i am not ready to have sex with anyone right now!" Believe me he will understand and if you need anything else email me or right me a letter.
-Katie
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tell him if he keeps briging that up u r going to break up with him tell him to get to know each other first
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it's seems like he only wants one thing. i think that you should tell him it's your body, and you won't do something that you don't want to do. dump him if he keeps it up. he's pressuring you to do something u don't want to do and he's doesn't have respect for you in that area. send me a message if you need more help or just need to talk.
xo Kristen
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I think you should wait until you're ready. Just tell him that and if he doesn't accept the fact that you aren't ready, than he really isn't your boyfriend because he should care about you and the choices you make! Hope I helped!
<3 Karen
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Hello...
The first indication that something isn't right is the fact that he is pressuring you. Once you said you wanted to wait, he should have told you he respected that choice, and dropped the subject. Don't allow someone else to make up your mind for you. You obviously know it's not right for you, that you are not ready to take that step. And he shoudl be willing to accept and respect that fact if he cares for you at all. Pressuring someone to have sex is a selfish and uncaring thing to do. If he can't wait, then maybe you don't need to wait around for him to understand you, and move on to someone who will respect your wishes far more than he does.
~Mysti~
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I think you should open up to him and try to talk to him. You never know he might open up and tell you how he feels. The best thing I think is to talk to him and let him know how you feel!
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Tell him that if he keeps it up then u'll have to say good bye cuz u don't want someone like that pressureing u. U should tell him that u'll let him know when ur ready.
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First off, how is this boy your boyfriend if you have never even been on a date? It is obvious this boy is only thinking about sex and it is a clear idication that you should stear clear off him. Tell this boy the truth, that you are not ready to have sex, especially with a boy you hardly know.
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If you don't think you are ready, you aren't. How can he be your boyfriend if you haven't even gone on a first date? I would tell him that I wouldn't even go out with him the first timeif he wasn't going to respect me enough to not have sex with me. If he can't handle it, you need to leave him alone. I would honestly be afraid to be alone with him if I already knew his intentions, and he wouldn't shut up about it.
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just continue to tell him that your not ready and that you think that the first date is to soon. he should understand. just keep telling him that and eventually he should get it. i hope i helped. drop one in my inbox if you need anything else.....:)
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