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Q: hey, know any bands that arent that well known? like how taking back sunday and the used used to me? lol i said used twice. anyway if you do and you think i might like them n you have their cd...can i borrow it? thanks
~Karen from english last year lol

hi Karen from english last year!! =P
i know a few bands, but im not sure if you'll "love" them..theres hellogoodbye, action action, fear before the marchs of flames, the blood brothers, Lacuna Coil,...probably a few more that i cant seem to think of...my SN is DontWakeMemories, feel free to IM me, i also have a myspace site with a few local and very good bands on there.
ttyl

Q: I'm having a bit of a dilema...I'm dating this girl, and she is absolutely fantastic to me. She treats me like gold, and we like a lot of the same things (same music, movies, video games, same sort of personality, stuff like that). The problem is that I am pretty sure she feels stronger for me than I do for her, and that won't probably change. Why, you may ask? Because I met someone else that I can't get out of my head, and even though I can't be with her right now, I keep thinking maybe something will one day happen. I'm not sure what to do. Any thoughts?

What I would do first, is find out if this other girl likes you too, if she does like you, talk to her, then tell your girlfriend the way you feel, if she doesn't like you, than at least you know, and you can still be happy with your current girlfriend, and evetually the feelings for the other girl will go away. Hope I Helped. :)

Q: Hey hey i gotta problem you can help me with here i know ya can i really really like this girl that i've been talkin to for the past 3 months or so. And i want her to be with me as in more then friends and she sorta knows it and sorta doseant ya know i don't know how to tell her help me out here !! please ty...

Hey. You gotta let her know how you feel. Also let her know that you don't want anything to be "weird" between you too if it doesn't work out. Talk to her when you 2 can be alone. Online could be good or in a note or even on the phone, but in person it might be better so she knows its you and not some "trick" being played on her. Hope i helped! =) good luck!!

Q: Ok, I babysit for a 5 and 7 year old. Whenever i watch them, they are always very loud and run through the house, just VERY obnoxious. lol. I can get them to sit down and watch a movie for about 15 minutes and then they get bored. They also play sports in their house, hockey on the floor, and play basketball in the hallway. Last time I watched them, they got in a fight... because of hockey (fist fight). Is there a way I can get them to calm down and not to be so loud? Or do something that will calm them down?

take them to a park nearby...play "red light green light" or something..pretty much have them just run the whole time..lol then take them back n put in a movie, theyll probably be tired and maybe even fall asleep...=oP

Q: i've never met him in reality before, but over msn we talk like long lost pals, me and him click alot and its amazing how we have so much in common. recently i found out that he actually likes me, but the problem is i dun feel the same way about him! i only treat him like a brother.. i've talked to him about it already, but the problem is how awkward the situation is currently. he isnt really talking much to me anymore and he doesnt initiate, he waits for me to ask first, etc. he wasnt like that before.. i don't know what to do now.. help me please

talk to him about how u dont like how everything is awkward...just try getting into deeper convos too..

Q: i was thinking of babysitting for people..(most likely people i dont know) with a friend of mine..this way the job is easier. Is this a good idea? Do you think i`ll be successful? How should i get perfect strangers to trust me to babysit their kids...any tips? thank you :)

take a class for babysitting first off, then you can put up flyers or something saying that you took that class n you should have people callling ya

Q: I am in drama class this year. i was wondering anybody know or site of famuse past and shakepears sites.. and stuf f do with memories lines and having different vocies

thats something you can search on google, ive searched him before and they had a site were u could read all of his plays..forgot what it was called tho...but yeah if u wanna memorize something by him its a good website..sorry that i forgot what its called tho...

Q: how do i get a girl friend

ne yourself, join clubs, be really nice...dont be shy...=o)

Q: I have this sisgusting red thing on the lip of my eye. My mom said it's a "sti?". How do i get rid of it! ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

hot tea bags work, people have also said to pee in the middle of the road...but i dont really think that works..=o/ =oP they usually go away on on its own...they stay for only about a couple of days...

Q: Does anyone know a good place to get your own website on the net....FOR FREE? I found a whole bunch of cool little knick knacks and I want to show them off on my website! But I can't find a website that is good like that! The website is either dumb or it isn't free. Please help me!

theres hometown.aol.com tripod.com and freewebs.com those are the only ones that i know of

Q: I want to be popular. Case closed. I know some people think its not the most important thing. But I need it. I crave it. I have to have it or I'll go crazy. I need tips! I am kind of shy, alright pretty, not too rich, not too poor. I'd like TIPS... not "popularity isnt everything..." "popularity sucks..." "Just be yourslef..." I am myself, but I want to me myself and be popular. I just need some tips please!
I'll rate good!

be outgoing! no more shyness... join a bunch of school clubs and sports and what not

Q: some one tp'd me n we nee ways to get them back good cause ew know who it is n its a fun and game sort of thing cause its just a war so any ideas ?? X3 the kers

hah..well...im sorry to say that i really dont know...do whatever comes to your mind tho if u think its a good idea..

Q: Ok, today my mom called me fat. Well, I don't think I'm fat because I'm 13 (turning 14 in 2 weeks), I'm 5'5, I weigh 113, and I pretty skinny but I don't have a 4 pack. I don't know what to do. I think I'm just gonna stop eating and become anorexic. I don't wanna go on a diet because I get of them in a few days and they are not help. Also, I don't wanna watch what I eat because I usually eat healthy food. Please help!

that is like, the best weight for someone your age..dont become anorexic!!!!!

Q: what are some good sites that allow u to have a free photo album besides photobucket.com and picturetrail.com? i really need to kno so i can check them out.
thanks i rate high.
Manda

communitywebshots.com i think its called

Q: is it better to wear tampons during your period if your a cheerleader or pads??? plz help!

tampons, but u might wanna use a panty-liner too

Q: how do you get rid of body odors done therE?

clean or shave..

Q: when you are on aim express, how come you can't read peoples profiles? or is it just my computer?

u have to preveiw it a different way...plus, aim express is always really slow so u might have to wait a bit

Q: ok theres this guy that i met online ad we talked and stuff and i sorta like him and he likes me and we talk on the phone everynight now he wants to meet me do u think i should meet him

if u really trust him and its something you really wanna do, go for it..

Q: Am I bi-sexual, or bi-curious if i fantasize about doing more then making out with some of my girl friends?

id say bi-curious...but no worries..nothing wrong with that

Q: i hated life for a long time and i try painless ways to kill myself like pills but it doesnt work i cut myself a few times but im so fed up wit life i dont kno what to do...im only 13 and i have to much 2 handle in my life...i see all of my friends layd back and stuff and i cry..when i talk to people they only tell me the same thing(well think of your mother and how she feels much worse-my moms got cancer-yea i knoo that there's more to the story but im not gonna talk about it but everything rests on my shoulder)..i dont kno what to do..if no1 helps me u'll be seein me one the news--"13yr old from massachussets committed suicied yesturday"
'i cry everynight and even though there r people out there who r less fortunate than me-yea i feel bad- but im npt used to it...hellllp me please

im sure ur sick of hearing this but i go thru that too...ive been trying to change but it hasnt really worked...talking to people help...but so does doing excersizes or going for a jog or something....if u ever wanna talk with me...feel free...all my info is on my page..