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Girl I really like
Ok I just got over this relationship from an online girl. We were together 5 months but she held so many lies to me and I never saw her. She lived like 4.5 hours away from me tho. But here is the question. I meet this other girl and she likes me and I like her. She lives in the same state and pretty close. How should I go about this without getting hurt again? I would love to be with her but just am scared i'll be hurt. Please help all that can. Thanks Much
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OK bro, I feel your pain. I've been doing the internet dating thing a while due to my separation from available sociable females and have had varying degrees of success. ANYWAY, here's a couple tips for you to protect yourself with the process:
1) Pictures, pictures, pictures! One of the main ways a girl will 'deceive' you is by posting a picture in her profile that is old, not of her, or in some other way not accurate about her actual appearance. So, once you initiate contact, get her to send you some additional pictures. Want to be sure that it's her in the pictures? Ask he to take a picture of herself holding a sign or something with your name on it. If you get any fishy feelings, just drop it and move on to the next one.
2) Question her. The wonderful (and sometimes scary) thing about the internet is the ability to create your own identity. People only know what you tell them. Ask youself, does this sound too good to be true? It might not be, but find out. Ask questions about things in her profile. See if her story adds up. Remember, you know who you are, and you're not the psycho, you need to figure out if she is ;) And again, if it doesn't feel right, move on to the next.
But, you're already setting yourself up for failure if you're scared. If you're interested, send me an e-mail or IM and I'll point you in the direction of someone that helped me not only with women but with my own personal confidence issues. And confidence my friend, is what really attracts the women you want.
Good luck!
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If we spend our lives worrying about getting hurt and never letting anyone in then no one hurts us we just hurt ourselves and wind up alone. Stop worrying about getting hurt and go have a life with a real girl that wants to give back to you. If you get hurt then you get hurt and move on but if you never put yourself out there so that no one can hurt you then you live a miserable lonely life. Not much help I know but it is the truth. The way I see it is that you take chances or you live alone. Chances are that one day you will make that leap of faith and it will stick. Unfortunately life doesn't come with a no hurt clause. I sure wish it did. Best of luck... :)
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You need to tell the girl 4.5 hours away that it is over. Then get to know the other girl better and take things slow with her. You might feel better once you get to know her that she wont hurt you like the other girl did. Hope i helped ya.
~***Hannah~***
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SLOW is your only answer. A broken heart really is the worst pain to me, so I understand how you feel.Go slow, move when you want, you make sure you are comfortable. I'm pretty sure it should work out only if you really want it to, but just as a really smart tip stay awya from the internet dating please. good luck.
*ria*
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Chances are you aren't going to like this answer, but I suggest that you stay away from the realm of internet dating. It eliminates the physical concept of the relationship, which is 1/2 of the whole relationship. Internet relationships are normally not successful. I think it is in your best interest to find a local lady who you can see and spend quality time with. In the end, Pixels really don't mean much. And about getting hurt: That is unavoidable. Love is painful. But when you find that special girl, you realize that the pain is worth it and there is joy to accomodate that pain. I hope you take what I said into consideration when you make your choice.
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Im gonna tell you this straight out okay?
Listen if dont want to get hurt again then tell the one gurl that lives 4.5 miles away that its not working out. Tell her how you feel. Get to know the other girl that you like and maybe then u can hook up with her.
Christine
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Everyone gets hurt. It's part of life. Yeah it sucks, but it happens. Just go for it and take that risk!! =) Good luck!
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well i dont believe in online dating..but i met some guy over the summer through his sister some how because we're both the same culture,turkish, anyways n he lives 7 hours away ... and he lied to me too and he did it in front of me!! soo from now on i dont believe in online relationships
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Aww..I would go for it. Even though you have the chance of getting hurt, you should risk it. I mean your always going to get hurt in life, and you somehow are supposed to get used to it. But, you should always take chances. Well, hope I helped. Good luck! L o v e - K a t i e
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ok im sorry to say this but you need to get a girlfriend who lives right by you and if you go to school the same school as you not "cyber girlfriends" they wont work out
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Well, it's okay to be slightly reluctant and scared, but don't ever let that keep you from living your life. You only get one life so you have to live it. Online relationships are totally different than inperson ones because there are so many more things a "real" relationship has to deal with. I think you should go for it with this girl. You have to take risks so you can prove to yourself that you will be okay. Just keep your gaurd up a little BIT. Talk to this girl upfront and tell her than you want her to be honest with you and you will do the same. Tell her everything you want and listen to her wants as well. Don't pass this up because of the past. Live for today! You'll be fine. :)
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