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In the name of love
[Sorry about the lengh, but I need some advice=)}About a year and a half ago, I met a guy who changed my life. When one of my best friends introduced us, I didn't really think anything of it. We hardly ever saw eachother, but talked often and had the most deep, intriguing conversations that would last for hours on end. We had a connection, somthing I had never felt before...but there, of course, was a problem...He lived an hour away. We were 14 at the time, and, me , being an only child, continued to be extremley protected by my parents when it came to dating. I saw him literally once every 6 months, and it would always be someplace public, with each one of our friends involved. A year later, and a year older, my parents agreed to take me out there for a few hours so we could finnaly be together. After that visit, we started seeing eachother more and more often, and our love grew stronger and stronger. My parents started allowing me to spend the night, and I have made so many new, interesting friends. The summer, amazing, every weekend me and him would spend together. Now that school started again, it came to realization that we have different lives, and a lot of things are going to interfere with our relationship. I am in love, and every minute i spend thinking about him...but I'm afraid that our distance, even if it is only an hour away, is going to damage our connecton. I see couples in the hallway at school, around town, and other places, and it makes me so depressed, I never take any time spent with him for granite. Some people really don't know how lucky they are to have such a great person becasue they're always with them. So I guess my question is, how do I keep this relationship strong, despite the fact that I am not around to see his actions. I mean, I trust him, and he trusts me, but all the girls I know from his town love him. He's a ladies man and I am so very jelous. I wish i could do somthing, but he always brings up how far away i am, thats why we held off going steady until the summer....please i really need some intelligent advice.
Thank you for reading this...<3
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If he cares about you as much as you seem to care for him, then you should have nothing to worry about. If he cares for you, he won't do anything to hurt you. Just keep making time for you to spend together as often as possible.
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if this guy really cares for you, he will help you make things work by not seeing anyone either. as for feeling down when you see couples at school an stuff, just stay postive and think of how wonderful things will be the next time you see him and are in eachother's arms. if both of you stay true to eachother you can really make this work.
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Hey Girl. Well this story kind of reminds me of my parents when they met. They were really far apart and didn't see each other that much but after they got out of high skool they moved in together and now they're married. So u never know wat the future might hold. I do understand where yr coming from when u say he is a ladies man and yr jealous. I would be too. It's true, It's hard to have a distant relationship but if yr love is strong enough, the bond between u guys will stay forever. O and to maybe try see wat some of his norm,al actions are, is to talk to some of his everyday friends. O has he told those girls that he has a girlfriend? cuz maybe they don't know, and think that they still have a chance with him. Ask him. Talk to him about where he thinks the relationship is going and see if that helps any bit. Well if u need n e more help, just contact me. My contacts are in my column. Good Luck and I hope it all works out!
~*Michelle*~
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Granite is a rock. You meant to say for granted. And if you don't take it for granted, thats good. That means you appreciate his time. Grammar bugs me. Anyway, on to your advice. If you truly love this man, then the distance could possibly strengthen the relationship, as odd as that sounds. My girlfriend lives an hour away as well, and I miss her every moment I have time to think. But I cherish every second I get to spend with her. Do you have a way of talking to him often? Communication is essential to a relationship. As long as you are constantly talking to him and you get to see him every now and then, I think your relationship will work out just fine. But remember that long distance relationships are very difficult, and only the truely best couples can withstand them. I hope you and your love make it through :-).
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As a survivor of an extremely long distance relationship (Seattle to Scotland, 8 hours of pure time-zone difference!), I'll give a few hints.
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Make sure you have some kind of daily contact -- whether by phone, email, or chat. This will keep your connection "fresh."
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Try to get together on the weekends if at all possible. Find out if you can take public transportation to see him. Be honest with your parents, tho -- parents make everything more difficult when they get worried!
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Tell him about any crushes you have on others, about crushes you think others have on you, and be open to him doing the same: while this is a scary concept at first, it really helps in the realms of trust. (I can actually giggle over other guys to mine, but that's after years of making sure he knows I'm not going to leave him for them!)
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Mainly, just make sure you're in regular contact and that you're both as informed as you would be if you were living closer by. It will take more effort, but it'll be worth it. Using these practices, I've gotten to the point where I'm getting married next month -- no more LDR for me! *grin*
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