about

I'm 16 years old. I'm in 11th grade. Most of my friends that I give advice to have done pretty well.. either they took my advice or I made them think about things they haven't thought about b4.
I'm good at answering questions about sex. not that I'm like a fein.. but I like to know about it so I can be safe, and now if you ask for advice you can be safe and informed too.
I'm also good with frienship issues.. or anything in that matter! I'll be straight with you and tell you what you need to do or what you should/shouldn't do if its that type of question. I won't hold back.
I'm also not going to judge you, if you're 13 and having sex.. HEY! that's your business! I'm just gonna make sure you know EVERYTHING ABOUT IT!! or if you cut or something going on with ur family or watever, I'm not gonna make you seem like you have a disease.
I hope you all can trust me and leave me one in my inbox and I'll hit you up with the best advice and information I can.
Love Always,
!~$*AMANDA*$~!

advice

Me and my bf are 16 and when we have sex it doesn't last that long the first time he couldn't get it up he has a very small penis just over 3 inches long he really embarrassed about it i told him it doesn't matter to me but he still worried about it could that be part of the problem?
im not sure what to do i don't want to make him feel bad what can we do are their certain positions we could try that would help?

hi. sorry ive took so long to get your message answered. ok him being worried about his size and embarrassed is most likly 90% of his problem. hes not confident so basically hes sittin there in his mind thinking "get up" (talking to himself downthere) or "i wonder if she likes this because im small?!" or something of that nature. and by him doing that hes not getting an erection. and im not too sure on what you can do on the posistion factor. but ill let you know that only about 4 or 5in (or it might be 3 or 4in) from the openining of your vagina and up has nerves. so say you have a guy that was 7in.. you wouldnt feel it anymore than you would feel a guy thats 4 or 3. you get where im going at? (unless you are not tight down there then i would tell you to do kegal excersises. and if you want to kno more about that ill give you the webiste and you can just leave me a message in my inbox.) and maybe you can do something to get him to have an erection. it is always best to have a little fore play before you have sex. some people are differnt. with my bf we just kiss and make out and we are able to have sex. because he can get an erection fast because hes not worried about himself. nor does he have to be. so id say for you and your boyfriend... if you want him to get an erection do some other stuff that will lead to sex and see how it goes. and just always inform him that his size doesnt matter to you and you love him the way he is.
hope i helped.
please rate.
Manda

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whats a good place to have sex where there are no parents?

ummm if you are friends with someone and youre cool with them and i mean really cool with them... talk to them about it. maybe when you are off of school and they mom and dad are at work you can use their house. thats what i do when i can see my bf.

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when you're multiplying 2 numbers with a exponent do u multiply the 2 numbers and then square that or square only the number the exponent is over and then multiply by the other number. -2(-1) with a 2 over the -1

thanx

and dont tell me to look in my text book bcuz im in algebra 1 and this is pre-algebra.. i just dont remember.

ok if ur sayin the problem looks like this and this is an example: 2*2^2 (2 to the second power. and that seven in parentheses just means to multiply the 2 and 7. so now u do:
2*7= 14 (add rest of problem) 14+4-5 then figure that out. addition b4 subtraction.
14+4=18 so add rest of problem 18-5=13

hope i helped lol.

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I cut...how do i stop?

well i dunno how to tell u to stop. u jus have to realize that hurting urself isnt a way of relieving other pain. ask ur self why u do it. then ask urself if ur firends found out or ur family would it hurt them. and is it worth throwing ur life away? i feel bad bc i had a friend who did it. and it scared me so much i actually cried. but i told her how i felt and how scared i was and that it isnt worth willing to die. im sure u have ur reasons but im telling you its not worth it. and asking me, and admitting to me u have a problem and u want to stop.. thats a step forward. if u need someone to talk to u can talk to me. im a great listener and i dont judge. but ask urself those Q's and see where it leads u. instead of taking ur anger out on urself u can do it in writing or something that doesnt have to deal with u hurting urself.

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y do girls stereotype guys so much? I mean, we may think about "stuff" some of the time, but girls always jus automatically assume thats wat guys r thinking about 24/7. And u also always assume that in a relationship, the guy is always wanting one thing and he will always make the first moves towards it. And another thing that bothers me is y girls are such feminist. ok, back then guys were thought to be superior to girls, but now days we r equal. however, lots of girls are always arguing how they have to go through so much pain, or how they have to endure so many more hardships. it really annoys me. And also, y is it always sexist if a guy does something or says something to a girl, but no one cares if a girl does or says something about a guy? i mean, a male teacher can favor guys and not pay much attention to girls, and automatically he is sexist and fired....but a female or male teacher can favor girls, and no one cares b/c no one thinks that is sexist except the guys who are on the short end of the stick. i jus want to know y.

i think alot of girls are how u explain them. i think we do indure more hardships and its a guy world!!! we have to have a period every month we have to carry the ababy around 9 months then go trhrough the pain of having it. but to be honest alot of girls make generalisations about guys bc they been through things. like the trust issue. a girl may not trust a guy ever again bc the last bf or w/e lost her trust and hurt her. or they think sex is on a guys mind 24/7 bc thats what she has come to learn about guys she knows.

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during any type of sexual activities, how long is it supposed to take before a guy has an "orgasm"? i think i have a problem, because in less than a minute i already bust. whats wrong?

dude thats normal. when i was reading this book and it had Q's one guy said it takes about 5 min then i bust. and the lady told him thats actually longer than most guys. so ur normal. im not a guy but my bf can control his somehow.
but ur normal nothings wrong.

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I have a really really sore throat, what are some home remedies to cure it?

ok this alllllways works for me. take a cup of warm water. put salt in it. yes thats right salt. not too much just a little. then gargle the salt water. i dunno why but it works. take my word for it.
Manda
ps take a tylonal or something like that b4 u gargle with the salt water. and oh! dont drink or eat anything either or ull have to do it again.

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i need help & fast. how do you scrunch your hair ? i used moose but minez not working so great. i need help & fast !

ok when ur hair is towel dry. u put ur moose in. then u can blow dry it. just a little. when its mid-dry, use some more of the moose (or gel) and then use hairspray and "scrunch" it.
Manda

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umm...why would u wanna swallow the cum when u giv head?? i think taht is just really sick. i don't think i can do it to my bf. and im not sure wat he wants me to do. i hav also heard that u can get hiv or usmthin from swallowing cum or can get a STD. is this true? and wats sooo great bout swallowing cum from a guy? i would rather just giv head and use a condom. that way i dotn hav to taste it or nething. wat would b best? o im 13/f (and not a slut. im a virgin and ive never gave head and ive been wit my bf for 3 years!!)

ok, i wouldnt kno what is soo great about swallowing cum. ive never gave head or swallowed. but some girls have told me it tastes good.. like sweet. others say bitter. i agree about its really sick. and it shouldnt be up to him to decide what HE wants YOU to do. and u can get an STD just by putting your mouth on his stuff. and u have a better chance if u swallow it. id say ur better off with using a condom. that way u dont have to worry about ne thing...
hope i helped.
amanda

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Recently my bf and i were mucking around
and i accidentally kneed him in the balls
and he was in pain for a few minutes i felt bad
have i caused any damage it wont harm him from
sex or having kids?

hey.. to unknown,
im sorry i took so long to reply. i havent been able to get to this site for some reason. neways, heres my answer..
i dont think it will harm the guy from sex or having kids. unless u knee him in the balls all the time lol. but chances are nothing will be wrong. i kneed my bf a couple times in his balls. never stopped him from havin sex.. the kid issue.. i dunno about bc he uses condoms.. well he did on me. but yeah. there probally wont affect nothing.
Manda
hope i helped.

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My mom doesn't think I should have a boyfriend but I'm 13!!! I think this unfair because a lot of my friends have boyfriends. I had to reject three people I might have said yes to, including the guy I like.I try talking to my mom about it but she just won't budge. I can't have a boyfriend until highschool!

13? some ppls moms make them wait till they are 16!!!! but what momma dont know wont hurt her.
:) manda

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Well... last night I was at a football game with my best friends. We ran into one of their ex-boyfriends. She has been trying to set me up with him.. but I had never met him before that.
Him and I really hit it off. One of my best friends went to watch the game (his ex) so I walked around with my other friend.
The guy and I were first talking.. and then he gave me a hug and we were walking around with our arms around each other. My best friend left with some other girls to talk to someone.. and left me alone with this guy. While she was gone, he kissed me... Well.. we were kissing when she came back.. and she got mad. I went to find out why she was mad... she said i could do better than a guy like him.

Before I left the game.. I asked him if he wanted to go to our school's homecoming dance with me. He said yes to me.
During the car ride home.. my friend told me I shouldnt go with him because he is white trash. She probably knows him better than I do.. but I really like him. Should I listen to her and tell him I dont want to go to the dance. or go with him and get to know him better?

you know some things u need to find out for urself. maybe ur friend still likes him.. or maybe shes just looking out for you bc hes not all that greaet. but maybe hes grown up a bit in his actions that hes not who he used to be. but personally i think u might just have to find out for yourself what this guy is like.

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nun of mi friendz r cheeleaders and i wanna b 1. idk if i should try out wut if they make fun of me or say its not like hott n stuff. wut do i do?? nd plz dont say dont care wut they think. my friendz r very open nd honest.

go for it! u cant go through life caring about wat eveeryone else will say bc then ull accomplish NOTHING! theres going to be that one person with everything u do thats going to be a downside and not praise u. but u need to take the risk of loosing... U cant always win.. so have some confidence in urself and GO FOR IT!
manda

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I have this boyfriend, whom I cheated on 3 times already. (He lives 14 hours away from me, he moved). I love him so much, but sometimes I just get lonely of not having him here and I go out and do stupid things. I love him to death and everytime I cheat on him I tell him. I hurt his feelings so much but he always takes me back. I don't know what to do... it's just sometimes, he doesn't even get mad when I tell him I cheat on him. (Or maybe he just acts like hes not mad, but he really is). I've been with him for almost a year, we BOTH love eachother so much.. I just don't know why I'm always cheating on him if I "love" him... help?

I'm always cheating on him if I "love" him... help?

y did u put love in quotations?? i have a big trust issue with guys bc of things ive been through with guys and what i seen my friends and moms go through. ususally its the guy cheating. but see i think if u truly love the person u wont do it. but i think ur right about that lonley thing. if u dont want to hurt him break up with him bc its not fair to him even though u tell him it happens. wats the point of a relationship where "love" in ur words isnt there? or even the lust?!!? ur hurting him and u see that! i dont get how u can still be with him. and plus u never see him. 14 hours!? long distance never works... and if it does usually they are able to see eachother and they both fgeel the same for one another. im not gonna call u anything bc u are cheating on him. but i am going to say this: if u kno ur hurting him why stay with him? even if he keeps taking u back... its not good for u or him! this guy must really love u to have taken u back. and if hes gonna take u back, are u going to hurt him again? and then tell him and he still take u back and its the same thing repeating itself? wat got me in ur responce was the word LOVE in quotations. i thought when i read that.. "she dont even THINK she loves him" love is not only a feeling its a decision. u choose to love. u have to make the decision to be faithful and LOVE that person. other wise its jus a FEELING that isnt fully there. and right now u havent made the decision to love him. u only feel it. bc if u made the decision to love him, u wouldnt do what u do. u made the decsiion NOT TO LOVE him.. but U FEEL IT.
Manda

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My friend KT had a bofriend named James... he wasn't wot u call POPULAR, but he was really sweet. KT went to Albainia for vacation, and James was really nevous she was gonna brake up with him. We were trying to b supportive and tell him shes not going to but she did!!! over emial!!! She's back now and hates him because hes not popular and she doesn't want to b friends with him. she also doesn't want us to b friends with him either even tho we got to no him and he's already our friend. wot should we do???

just becuase he isnt "popular" doesnt mean that she shouldnt like him. thats so rude. its good that u and ur other friends got to kno him and like him as he is and want to be his friend. dont listen to her.. u can be his friend if u want! dont be a follower be a leader. and if she has anything to say tell her u shouldnt treat people like that and ur going to be his friend regardless.
Manda

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ive been on my period for 32 days im 12 this is my 3 one what should i do?? and dont say c ur doc be my family dont have enough money

i think u might've counted wrong. i did that too when i 1st started.. umm u can ask ur mom to help you. usually u start from the 1st day u have it and count... it should only last about a week.. so see if u counted wrong and let ur mom or someone a female help u keep track till u get the hang of it.
Manda

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Are you a lesbian?

strictly dickly!!! LOL
IM STRAIGHT.

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i have a terrible fear of drowning each time my body goes into the pool and the water reaches my neck. i was wondering, how can i overcome this fear that ive been having for such a long time already?

i dont really kno wat to say here but on tv and stuff ppl over come their fears by facing them.
Manda

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Ok HeReS HoW It StArTeD:

I WaS OvEr At My FrIeNdS HoUsE(aka person) AnD ThIs iS OuR CoNvO.

Person: Ummm I need To Tell you Sumin Serious But you Cant Tell AnYbOdY!!!
Me: Ok You Can TrUsT Me
Person: I think I mite Be bi
Me: Bi as in Bisexual
Person: Duh
Me: Wow
PersOn: I kno
Me: So r you atrracted to any of our friends?
Person: yea
ME: Are you attracted to me?
Person: Maybe

So Thats It. So Im confused cuz it kinda grosses me out cuz what if she invites me to sleepover and since i cant tell anybody about it she'll get invited to sleepoers nd stuff so she could try to make a move on me nd my friends i need help
ill rate!!

well i think u should just tell her ur into guys and not girls and ur not gonna stop being her friend bc of how she is. but even if she does like you... u need to sit down with her and tell it how it is and that u arent into girls and u want to be friends and nothing more. cause if u dont tell her this.. im pretty sure she will come on to you. n she shouldnt get mad.. she has to be able to deal with this stuff.
Manda

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Ok,i like this boy but were friends and all.Really good friends.But like everytime we talk i get so into the conversation and just want 2 blurt out that i like him.Should I??

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