I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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What is the chance of a condom breaking while your using it? (link)
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To be honest, it's not all that uncommon as they are only made of thin latex. However, it usually only breaks during particularly vigorous sex.
I would recommend that if you are considering it as a form of contraception, you back it up by getting yourself put on The Pill. This is what people in Holland call 'Going Double Dutch'. You use the condom to protect against infection and disease and, as they can break and naturally are only around 93% effective as a method of contraception, whereas the Pill is 99.9% effective as a contraceptive but doesn't protect against infection or disease. Using both together, you're pretty much completely safe.
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Okay, so there is this boy that I dated for 9 months, lost my virginity to, and was totally in love with. He broke up with me on Valentine's day and I haven't been quite the same since. I still love him, and he keeps playing with my head and my heart. He said he still loved me and he just needed some time to himself because he's a senior in high school and he's busy, which I understand. But he was busy before, and everything wa fine. We go to different schools, which made things tough, but I think it was worth it.
And I saw him a week ago and he kissed me just like he used to. I mean - it felt like he really loved me, still. So then everything seemed okay and we were talking about getting back together. It seems like every other time we talk, he changes his mind.
So is he actually unsure, or is he just playing me?
Love,
Arlo (link)
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Without knowing the guy, it will bevery hard to say whether or not he definitely is confused or playing around.
I know it's a bit of a cliche, but you need to talk to him about it. If you were together that long and clearly had a pretty serious relationship, he owes you an explanation of his behaviour.
See if you can meet up with him somewhere, sit him down and say that he keeps giving you mixed signals. He can't dump you on Valentine's Day, of all days and then kiss you!! It's unfair to you and he just can't treat you like that, giving you mixed signals and possibly false hopes. Find out from him what is going on in that head of his and once you know, you need to give him the options. He can either be with you or he can be without you but he can't keep messing you around.
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this is long but i need help: my parents wanted to get a divorce a month ago. they didnt go through with it. but this time my mom got the divorce papers and my dad signed and took it to court. something was wrong with the papers. my parents want to do split custidy and i SHOULD go with my mom cause shes more responsible and has a real job. my dad is gone lots and has a lawn and snow plow service. i've told 2 of my friends. but not my best friend who've i'v know for 4 years. but my mom wants to move to milford, and my dad will stay in south lyon( their about 20 mins apart). IF i end up going with my mom when should i tell my best friend. but last time i told her i was moving she freaked out and i ended up not moveing. When and should i tell her i MIGHT move? and should i move with my mom? please help,xoxo
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First of all, I'm sorry your parents are getting a divorce. It's always a pretty nasty affair and I hope you're not caught in the middle of it too much.
Since your Mum is going to offer you a more stable environment then you would be better off going with her. When you're young, you need to have as much of a stable environment as possible and she will be able to offer you that.
As far as your best friend goes, she will be very upset if you do move but since it's not finalised yet, I wouldn't tell her right now because there's no need to worry her unduly. Wait until the whole thing is sorted out and you know that you definitely are going. Then tell her and promise to write/phone/e-mail and stay in touch.
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I have this male colleague that I consider as one of my closest friend in the office. Everything changed when our officemates started making some jokes that he was gay. I asked him straight out if he is and he swears to me he's not. Carrying on with our friendship, we went on a drinking spree with some friends. Tipsy, he started to get touchy-feely all over me and in a joking manner he was suggesting that we go home together in his house. Eversince then, he would praise my looks and point blank flirt with me in a casual manner? I wonder now if he's doin this to erase the rumor that he is gay or he's seriously flirting with me? Either way shall I continue to befriend him?
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There's no real way of knowing whether he is using you or whether he genuinely likes you.
Do you know why the rumours started? If it was merely that he had been single for a long time, that's no cause for concern. If he's been making one too many comments about male singers or something, then you might need to be worried!!
Have a chat with your co-workers and just see if you can find out where this rumour came from. If it's something really circumstantial like the lack of a girlfriend, I doubt you have anything to worry about.
However, there's nothing wrong with asking him. Mention that you've been picking up on some signals he's been giving out and that maybe you were wrong but it feels a little like he's been coming on to you. If he says he has, say that you're wondering why he's hitting on you. Don't straight out ask him if he's doing it to clear the rumours that he's gay, because this may insult him. You could perhaps tell a little white lie and say someone was teasing that he was only flirting with you because they thought he was just trying to get rid of the rumour.
If you're not happy doing that, just trust him and go out with him. See what happens. If he seems a little overly camp or starts talking rather too much about Johnny Depp or Tom Cruise, you know to get rid of him!
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ok so last year (i was dumb and i regret it) this guy was EXTREMELY persuasive and i would never do anything like it, but this guy totally made me want to take pictures of myself. not nude but not much on. this year we dont at all talk-i mean at all and he goes to a different school. and i dont want to talk to him. but i always worry hes going to post the pictures of me on teh internet or send them to someone. it really bothers me and no one really knows of my friends/family. it scares me of the possibility of posting the pictures. i know its my fault, but sometimes persuasion works. i want help, but to anyone who reads this-just a reminder from someone, whatever you send to someone or put something somewhere-anyone has access to it. sorry its long.
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You're a little bit stuck here and there's not a lot you can do, I'm sorry to say.
No, it wasn't the smartest idea but yes, people can be extremely persurasive. The only thing you can do now is to hope that it doesn't happen and learn from your mistake. Never ever give anyone pictures of yourself, particularly only half dressed or naked ones because it will almost always come back to bite you in the butt!
Whatever you do, don't try to track him down and talk to him about it. For all you know, he might just have forgotten about the whole thing and bringing it back to his mind might just give him reason to do something about it.
You will have to try to forget about it for now and live with the consequences of your actions, I'm afraid. Please please don't do it again though. It's easy to get swept off your feet by a smooth talker who appreciates you and the way you look but that's how a lot of bad things happen to nice girls.
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Ok, this may sound wierd but...I don't love my family. Yea...it's true. I find it so hard to realate and connect with them. We rarely communicate outside of yelling and complaining. I do want a family that I can come home to every day and feel comfortable with but...I don't think they're going to change. How do I make us closer? (13/f) (link)
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It's not that you don't love them. You might feel that way and insist it to the ends of the Earth, but the truth is that if anything happened to them, you would be devestated. It's just that it's hard to remember how much you care about someone when you don't like them very much.
Unfortunately, the situation with a family like yours is similar to my own and it's very hard to deal with it when you're in the middle of it. When you eventually get older and move out, you will find it improves dramatically but right now you need a way to deal with it.
When families fight, it's rare that anyone is entirely blameless so the first thing you need to do is check the way you behave to them. Do you shout at them? If so, lower your voice and do whatever you need to do to not shout. Hard, believe me I know but once you start shouting, you've already lost control of the situation and you're letting the other person have that control.
Do you do anything to help around the house? Do you keep your bedroom clean? If you don't do anything and/or your bedroom's messy, do something about it. I know that it's more fun to be outside playing with friends than to do stupid boring housework but some day, when you have a place of your own, you'll realise how easy it is to mess a place up and how much work it is to clean it. So give your parents a bit of a break.You help to make the mess, so help clean it up. Make sure that once a day you do something to help make your home a cleaner and more pleasent environment.
Don't bicker with siblings. It's easy to get drawn into petty arguments but usually they're over something really trivial like who left the toilet seat up or who took something of yours. Don't argue over it. Calmly point out what they did wrong, while making eye contact (helps to drive the point home) and then turn and leave, regardless of what they say. Family members can say truly cutting and hurtful things but the situation will only get worse if you confront them about it. It's much better to just let it go.
After that, it's really down to the others in your family. You may find that once you become sweetness itself, they will also improve but it does take time and a lot of effort. If it still doesn't work, try suggesting that you go to family counselling, to work through some of your issues. If you fight a lot, clearly there's problems there and if you can't discuss them at home, you would be best off trying it in a controlled environment.
It will be difficult but please give it all a try. If you do it all thorougly and carefully, there's no reason it shouldn't make a difference.
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i am in 8th grade and am a 13 going on 14 female. my parents are really tough and i've had one secret relationship and i didnt work out. 2 years later (today) i want to got out with someone else.i will make the first move but i am afraid it wont work out if i cant date. how do i confince my mom and dad to let me date? (link)
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A lot of parents can be strict about dating. When I first started, my parents actually made my sister go with me!! They only worry and fret and are strict because they're worried something bad might happen to you while you're out with a boy or that you will start having sex underage or irresponsibly.
Of course, the problem here is that you already betrayed their trust by going out with a boy when you weren't supposed to and that would have resulted in them feeling they can no longer trust you. What you need to do is to prove to them that you can be trusted to tell them the truth.
To start with, tell them that there's a guy you really like and you wanted to ask him out but you know they're concerned about you so you wanted to check it with them first. Chances are, they might not take this seriously bearing in mind what happened last time but you need to ask them what you would have to do for them to trust you again and to let you go out with this boy. Whatever they suggest, even if it's something embarrassing like bringing him over for a 'family dinner'first, agree to it. They will want to test your maturity so agree to their terms and conditions because you won't get your way without it!
In most cases, letting the parents meet the 'new guy on the scene' is a good step, because they want to check him out and make sure he will look after you and treat you with respect. Once they are reassured that he will be good to you, there shouldn't be any more problems.
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ok im 13 female and i first got my period in october of 2005 and i havent seen it since. no i havent has sex but i do masturbate so does that have any effect on it or what? also i guess i discharge. my main question is, whats the difference from cum and a discharge for a girl? it looks the same and what nots. please give me good answers!!!!!! i rate HIGH!!! (link)
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When you first get your period and until you have had it for a few years, it will be quite irregular, in your case, since it appeared and then hasn't been around for a while, you should really go to your doctor, just to confirm that nothing is wrong. Chances are it will come back in a month or two but this is relatively normal at the start of puberty.
Masturbation doesn't affect your period and neither does sex, unless you get pregnant so don't worry about that.
Technically, there's no real difference to the discharge you get naturally and what happens when you are sexually aroused. It's the same stuff and it's just a bodily fluid that helps to keep you moist down there. However, if you notice that this discharge changes colour or develops an unusual or offending smell, you should see your doctor to make sure there's no infection.
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ok, my period now has lasted 10 days, its medium but i wanna know what i should do? should i be worried? (link)
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Please don't worry! You're still quite young so your periods will be irregular like this for some time. Next time you get it, it might only last for a couple of days. It's just the way your body works while it adjusts to your hormones.
If it hasn't gone away by the end of the weekend, go and see your doctor, just to confirm that nothing is wrong because you should always check with female problems like this. The chances something is wrong arevery slim but if you are finding it difficult, you might want to look into going on The Pill. It's primary use is as a contraceptive but it also helps control your menstrual cycle so it may be useful if you continue to have lengthy or heavy periods.
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ok so my friend's parents both have cancer.. well actually the mom just got over it and is still feeling pretty bad and her dad just found of he has a tumer. they have to do surgery, radiation, AND chemo. its really hard for her because a while back i found her outside (at my party) crying and she told me what happened. i dont no what to tell her because its so hard for her. what do i do to comfort her through all of this? (link)
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Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do to make the situation go away and I know that's what you are going to be desperate to do right now.
The best thing you can do is to be there for your friend. Try taking her out shopping a few times or arranging some fun days out for her to theme parks or events, to take her mind off the situation. You need to remember that she will want to be there for her parents so try not to make it on days when there's chemo going on or similar treatments.
Also, have a chat to your local directory enquiries or library, as there may be a support group she can speak to about this. There are often groups of people who get together who are going through the same things and for something as common as cancer, there's bound to be support groups.
In the meantime, just make sure she knows you are there when she needs you and offer her a shoulder to cry on. She's going to need a lot of emotional support while her Mum is recovering and her Dad is being treated and she'll probably be too concerned to cry infront of them so she will need someone to go to for that and someone to take her mind off things when it gets too much.
However, be careful not to shoulder all the burden yourself because even with the best of intentions, you could find yourself overwhelmed. Make sure you get some of your other friends involved and do some things as a group. She'll feel better knowing she has a lot of people who are there for her.
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Hey. My boyfriend just got me a ring and I wanted to check and see if it is real silver and/or diamonds. Does anyone here know a way to check without getting it appraised? Like a self check? I will rate high! Thanks! (link)
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Real silver tends to be marked with numbers on the inside of the ring, as a sort of method to identify if it is real silver.
Real diamonds are the strongest material known to man. If you try getting a rough corner of the diamond and scraping it down some glass, if it can mark the glass, it's a real diamond.
Of course, if you don't want to risk ruining your best glassware, you could also take it to a jeweller, who would be able to confirm if it is real diamond or not.
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Whenever I'm in 6th Period ( Last period of the day ) I can never concentrate. I guess it doesn't help that it is math class too. My mind is either so tired from the school day or trailing off onto some other thought as to volleyball practice when schools over or how I'm going to get my homework done. I'm falling farther and farther behind in class because I just can't pay attention with all those numbers and being so tired since it's the last class of the day.
What should I do? (link)
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Try taking some nuts to school with you during the day, like peanuts. Nuts contain slow release carbohydrates which will help keep you awake during the day. Try nibbling a few on your way to the class and after a while you should notice a difference. If you don't like nuts, try an energy drink like Red Bull or Lucozade instead.
Also, if you're having problems, talk to your teacher about itand see if there's any extra support they can give you. When I was studying for exams and failing badly in maths, I had extra tuition after school on Thursdays for a few months and although it felt a little humiliating at the time, I passed my exams. If you give it a go, you shouldn't have any problems bringing your grades back up.
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My friend is always complaining about her figure and looks and it annoys me because she is one of those girls who have perfect looks skin and figure. I am overweight, not the best looking girl with bad skin and am seriosuly over my age height. I want to make her feel good about herself but she never does and everytime she starts it makes me feel bad about myself. I want her to feel better but when I reassure her she doesnt believe me. I know its wrong but I am scared I will end up like her. I used to like myself but now I have started feeling really depressed about it. Any advice on shutting her up and getting myself back how I was before? I hate the NEW me (link)
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The problem here is that both of you are suffering from low self esteem and her low self esteem makes you feel bad. After all, you feel she's better looking than you and if she doesn't think SHE looks right, what does that make you?
Don't worry, I do understand this but you have to remember that she doesn't look the way she thinks SHE should look and in feeling that, she's not judging you at all. You should feel comfortable with yourself and your friend shouldn't be able to affect that.
Next time she starts going on about how rotten she looks, try pointing out to her, gently, that she's being a little insensitive because you feel bad about yourself too and given that you think she's much better off than you are, it would be nice if she didn't say stuff like that around you any more. You also need to understand that nothing you say will make her feel better about herself so for the time being, stop reassuring her. The more you reassure her, the more she will come to you, fishing for compliments.
Lastly, if you're not happy with yourself and want to feel better, maybe you could try working on a few personal issues. If your skin is suffering and you can't find something that works, see your doctor about it, as they can prescribe treatments for problem skin and they almost always help a lot. If you are overweight, look at ways you can trim yourself up. Join a gym or take up a physical exercise class. Not only will you feel you look better but you'll feel better in yourself for having tried something and succeeded in doing it well.
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To make a long story short, I used to drink, a lot. Well after a friend passed away from a drunk driving car wreck, I tried not to, but I still did. Finally, I was able to give up alcohol. Since Thanksgiving I've had not even enough alcohol to fill up a wine glass. I'm proud of myself, especially since I'm 15. The bad thing is, I've started to cut my wrists again. You see, drinking took my mind off my problems, and I know it didn't solve anything, because not only were my problems still there, but I had a headach to go along with them. To try to stop myself from driniking, every time I wanted to have some kind of alcoholic beverage, I'd write a poem instead. It helped at first, it kept my mind of the cravings. But then the cravings just got worse. So I turned back to my old ways of cutting my wrists. I really want to stop, but I don't know any other way to just get out my feelings. Well, I do, it's just that when you're so frustrated, or upset, it's hard to think straight so you do the first thing that comes to mind. It's kind of hard to explain. And I would prefer not being told to talk to anybody, because I have, and I don't just mean talking to friends, I've talked to responsible adults too. After talking, I stop what I'm doing for a little bit, but after a week, or a month, or even two-three months, the stress gets so overwhelming that I start up again, and it's just not something I want to be doing. I know I want to change, it's just hard.
Any advice is appreciated. (link)
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You haven't said what it is that's happened to you to put you in this position but I'm guessing it's not just every day stresses with school and so on.
The problem is that you can't ignore whatever it is that's happened to you and you can't talk about them non-stop because at some point you have to let some of it go.
What you really need to do is to find a suitable outlet for your emotions. You know, Vincent Van Gogh suffered with depression, as did many other great artists and performers. The connection is that they found ways to express themselves without self harming (unless you count Van Gogh chopping off his ear...but we'll look past that for now) and that is exactly what you need to do.
I think it might be beneficial to you if you were to look into taking an art class or a drama class or perhaps something physical like yoga or pilates or tai chi. If you have creative outlets of physical outlets, it can often help, particularly with the problems that you have had because they can keep you moving and occupy your mind enough to distract you from cravings and thoughts of self harm.
Also, I know you say you don't want to talk to anyone about it but I really think it might be a good idea for you to speak to your doctor about this. Personally, I don't like anti depressents but they do work for a lot of people and it might help you if you were on them at least for a little while. You've done so well giving up alcohol that it's a huge shame you're mutilating yourself now as well. I do understand how you feel because I used to have a friend who did the same thing. She said that cutting was the only way to take her mind off everything that had happened and it was like releasing all her emotions. But it's not a good way to do things.
So PLEASE at least consider taking up some form of hobby, creative or physical and consider seeing your GP for either anti depressents or some counselling. You need to learn that there's a great life waiting ahead of you and you're going to destroy that if you don't learn to let go of your past, however hard that might be. Please be strong and you will get through this.
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I've known this girl since kindergarden and we used to be really tight. Now, im 13 and she has horrible personal hygene,spits when she talks, and yet I still think she is a genuinely sweet person. She is sometimes really mean to me and says I'm fat or that im a big and I eat too much. Yet, she is practiccally emaciated and barely eats anything. I'm embarassed to be in public with her. I know that when you are "friends" with someone you should NEVER EVER be embarassed of them, but why do i feel this way? I've talked to her about her hygene but she thinks everything is fine and that her 5 inch long nails are "pretty". I've also told her that It hurts me to tell me im fat because well im 4.11 and im 90 pounds :-\. She has no friends and her family is taking me on a cruise for spring break. I feel like the reason im staying friends with her is because of the cruise.
What is wrong with me im not a mean person!! (link)
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To be honest, I can understand why you would feel this way about her. First of all, she tries hard to knock your self esteem and then wonders why she has no friends. The fact that she isn't particularly nice to you makes you think about all the other things that are wrong with her and therefore feel embarrassed to be around her.
By the sounds of it, this girl has very low self esteem. If she didn't have certain issues like this with herself, she wouldn't make comments like it about you. If she really is too thin, perhaps you ought to make sure she isn't suffering with some form of eating disorder. It's quite common for sufferers to point out when other people are overweight, because it takes the focus away from how they feel about themselves. If you're sure this isn't the case, it will just be because she has low self esteem. She probably is also quite defensive because she's aware of her hygiene issues and the way she spits when she talks.
Try taking the issue with the cruise out of the situation for a minute. Imagine that you aren't going on it at all. How do you feel about her now?? If you still don't really like the idea of being around her, make sure cancel it right now. You have to bear in mind that if you do go on this cruise, you will be stuck with her for the duration and you won't be able to get away if she shows you more attitude.
It's tough to stop being friends with someone if you feel you are their only friend. But trust me, you aren't going to be abandoning her. If she treated people with more respect and sensitivity, she would be able to get as many friends as she wanted.
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well long story short... my mom has been drinking since i was born which would be almost 15 years. she cant go more than 5 days without drinking. When she drinks she starts stuff with me and my dad and her argue EVERY time he finds out she is drinking. my dad pops pills and probably does other stuff. he doesnt know that i know. when my mom isnt drinking i tell her that i think he is and that he talks to people on his cell when im in the car and its obvious that he is talking to someone that is giving him that stuff. Well anyways i tell her that stuff when shes not drinking and i tell her not to tell my dad. and then when she is drinking she tells him everything. shes did it a couple times. and i cant help telling her what i think because shes my mom. i always get stressed out. and my dad yells at me when i tell her. and he says that im a shitstarter.thats not true. i dont like them arguing but i also dont like keeping stuff inside. my dad has a bad anger problem and my mom drinks. ive been going through this stuff and listening to them yell since i was little. i know shes not a good mom and hes not a good dad. but im only 14 so i cant leave unless i run away which i really want to do. tonite was the most recent night the have been fighting and im crying right now. i want to get put in a foster home but people tell me that is will be worse there. i know this isnt healthy for me. i dont want to be upset all the time i want to have a normal mom. and live a normal life. ive always wanted to die and these are one of the reasons y, because i listen to this stuff alot. i never tried killing myself but im scared for my own health because i know one day ill get the courage to do it. i know theres nothing wrong that im doing i just wish i was never born.
any advise will help. im dying inside.
please dont tell me to help my mom and dad get help because that is not a option for me.
love,kaykay (link)
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Oh God you poor thing. I feel so awful for you.
I know that they are your parents so I know somewhere inside you do love them....but you NEED to get away from them and running away is NOT the answer. What you need to do is to report the situation to social services. They will be able to take you away to a foster carer and PLEASE please don't think that it will be worse. I have no idea who you have heard that from but it's just not true.
Thousands of children every year go into care and although it's rare to hear from them after they are settled, so many grow up to be healthy, happy people and right now I desperately want you to be one of them. It's a huge step but next chance you get, look up social services in the phone book, or phone directory enquiries for their number. Call them and explain the situation and someone will come round to perform some form of assessment.
The bottom line is that you have got to get away. You also need to remember that although what you're going through right now makes everything seem so dull and grey, you're only 14 and the experiences you have had so far are only part of what should be a long and happy life. You don't want to throw away the fantastic life you might go onto lead just because of the thoughtles, stupid actions of your parents, who, by the way, clearly need some help themselves. Chances are social services will provide them both with some form of rehabilitation.
Please stay strong. You have your whole life without them ahead of you and you could be SO happy. If you give up now, you'll never know. You could go on to be a successful career woman, wife, mother, who knows what else, so don't give that all up because of this. You can get through it. If you ever need to talk, PLEASE e-mail me. Everything WILL be fine but you need to get some help and support from social services. Take care of yourself in the meantime.
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Can being sexually active irregulate my period, or if i just started having my period this year can it still b adjusting and i took a pregnancy test and it said i wasnt pregnant so what could be going on? (link)
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Don't worry. If you just started your period this year, it's normal for it to be irregular. Sexual activity shouldn't have any effect on your period whatsoever so it wouldn't be this. At the moment, your body is changing and adjusting so the chances are your period will be irregular for the next year or so. In some cases, irregular periods continue until menopause.
However, if you get yourself put on The Pill (which I would recommend if you are now sexually active as it has a higher level of protection than condoms, although you need condoms too to protect against STI's and STD's), it will regulate your periods and in many cases, it can also make them lighter. Just have a word with your doctor and he can arrange to put you on The Pill. There are different ones so you may need to try out a few to find one that suits you.
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im hopefully going to this leadership camp as a counselor (i pray), and i was wondering if anyone had any good songs that are inspirational and motivational, that make you think about who you are and deep stuff. doesnt have to be religious (could be though), i have like the major ones like "go the distance" stuff like that, but anything that really reaches you deep in your heart. much appreciated!
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My absoloute favourite one might be suitable. It's called Vincent and it's by Don McLean. It's a slow song and beautifully written.
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Someone who sits next to me in one of my classes ONLY talks about herself. ALWAYS! She'll ask how I am and stuff, and even if I say "Not so good.." she'll say "Oh my gosh! I was crying all last night because Andrew (bf) said he can't trust me and idk what to do." It annoys me so much. And it's all dramatic stuff. One day she's bragging about her huge basket of valentine candy and the next she has red eyes from crying all night.
She came in class one day and said "Omg someone told me to leave and I asked why and they said because I always bring drama to the group and I don't!" How do I deal with this? (link)
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The way I see it there are a couple of options.
1)Ignore her completely. She needs to understand there are more people in the world than her and that if she doesn't start realising that, she will end up with no friends at all.
2) Take her to one side and explain this problem. Maybe she doesn't realise that she's doing it. Explain that she has this tendency to talk about herself far too much and that even when you have problems you'd like to discuss, you don't get a chance to, so you'd appreciate her being more thoughtful in the future.
3)Fight fire with fire. Next time she starts talking about herself, bring the conversation back to you and start talking again. Eventually, she may start talking about herself less, in the face of information from others to talk about.
4)If she interrupts you saying something about yourelf again to talk about herself, make a comment along the lines of "Oh, I'm sorry. Was I finished??" or "Oh we're back to talking about you again are we?" This may lead back to number 2 but at the end of the day, this girl needs to put an end to her self-centred behaviour because it will only make life difficult for herself in the future.
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i really love acting and drama but i'm definitely not a good singer. i actually want to have some career in theater. i just need to know: do ALL auditions require you to sing? or do some just have you act? dont say you should take singing lessons because i dont believe its possible for you to sing better if you naturally are bad. (link)
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It really depends what form of acting you wish to be involved in.
If you want to be in musicals then yes you will need to be able to sing and dance. However, if you wish to act alone, there are a load of shows at the theatre or in amateur dramatics groups where you won't be required to sing.
For example, if you were acting in Shakesperian plays, you wouldn't need to sing or in most theatre plays there are no singing roles. The Importance of Being Earnest, The Woman In Black etc etc.
Just make sure you keep an eye open for any auditions along these lines and you should be fine. You should also be able to phone up and ask if there is any singing required in auditions before you attend them. Failing all this, see if you can rope someone into paying for you to have singing lessons!
Good luck!
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