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My heart is NOT a toy.
Okay, so there is this boy that I dated for 9 months, lost my virginity to, and was totally in love with. He broke up with me on Valentine's day and I haven't been quite the same since. I still love him, and he keeps playing with my head and my heart. He said he still loved me and he just needed some time to himself because he's a senior in high school and he's busy, which I understand. But he was busy before, and everything wa fine. We go to different schools, which made things tough, but I think it was worth it.
And I saw him a week ago and he kissed me just like he used to. I mean - it felt like he really loved me, still. So then everything seemed okay and we were talking about getting back together. It seems like every other time we talk, he changes his mind.
So is he actually unsure, or is he just playing me?
Love,
Arlo
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Without knowing the guy, it will bevery hard to say whether or not he definitely is confused or playing around.
I know it's a bit of a cliche, but you need to talk to him about it. If you were together that long and clearly had a pretty serious relationship, he owes you an explanation of his behaviour.
See if you can meet up with him somewhere, sit him down and say that he keeps giving you mixed signals. He can't dump you on Valentine's Day, of all days and then kiss you!! It's unfair to you and he just can't treat you like that, giving you mixed signals and possibly false hopes. Find out from him what is going on in that head of his and once you know, you need to give him the options. He can either be with you or he can be without you but he can't keep messing you around.
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Does it really matter if he is just unsure or if he playing with you?
Either way, deliberately or not, he isn't being good to you. He is hurting you.
Is he really so awesome that you are willing to ride his emotional roller coaster with him until he maybe, possibly, sort of notices that you are still standing here waiting for him?
Take a step back; stop putting your heart on the line for a guy who isn't willing to take the same risk.
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I hate to say I think he is playing you.
I think he wants to keep you around as a back up in case he can't get any elsewhere to be honest.
I think its way passed time for you to find someone else. :)
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