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talk to him...
OKay well theres this guy and i went out w/ him for i guess about 5 mouths then i got kinda scared becuz we got so close and im scared to get close to people so i broke up w/ him. and i still love him. i want to tell him in person (ive already have online) but it seems like ever sence i broke up w/ him he doesnt care like all his friends he doesnt talk to. my friend pointed it out to me and i feel sooo bad. i realli want to talk to him but i dont no how. im not normaly shy around guys half my friends are guys and i get all shy and shaky around him its realli weird but can anyone help?
Sorry its so long.
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It sounds as though you have very strong feelings for this guy and when you have run away from feelings like yours for so long, you're bound to feel shy and nervous and shakey when you're faced with an opportunity to confront them.
I can understand why you're reluctant to get close to him. After all, when we've been hurt in the past (as I assume you have) it's difficult to accept the idea of becoming so vulnerable again. However, if we don't risk being vulnerable, we never get the chance to know true happiness. There's an old saying that great love means great risk and it's very true.
Try to meet up with him somewhere you know you won't be interrupted and you can have his full attention. Then tell him why you broke up with him. Explain whatever it was that happened to you in the past that made you so scared to be with him and that in spite of that, you know now that you would rather risk being hurt again than to carry on without him.
If he's half as miserable as he sounds, he may be a little unsure about getting back together. After all, he's been hurt now too but if he really cares, and it sounds like he does, I don't think there will be a problem.
Good luck.
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It's ok to get scared to become close to people. But, you have to learn that it's something you have to risk in order to decide for yourself if this person is enough for you to trust. When you leave them, or runaway you never let them have a chance to prove their honesty.
So, you have to open up in order to trust people again to get close.
As for this guy, you should exlain to him in person the truth. Tell him that you really messed up by breaking up with him, and that you are scared of getting close. If he doesn't react to it, or doesn't take you back, then nothing can be done. He'll know your reasons, and thats all there is to it.
-TheTeenGirl
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