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Embarassed
I've known this girl since kindergarden and we used to be really tight. Now, im 13 and she has horrible personal hygene,spits when she talks, and yet I still think she is a genuinely sweet person. She is sometimes really mean to me and says I'm fat or that im a big and I eat too much. Yet, she is practiccally emaciated and barely eats anything. I'm embarassed to be in public with her. I know that when you are "friends" with someone you should NEVER EVER be embarassed of them, but why do i feel this way? I've talked to her about her hygene but she thinks everything is fine and that her 5 inch long nails are "pretty". I've also told her that It hurts me to tell me im fat because well im 4.11 and im 90 pounds :-\. She has no friends and her family is taking me on a cruise for spring break. I feel like the reason im staying friends with her is because of the cruise.
What is wrong with me im not a mean person!!
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You sound like your in a tight situation. Your not fat. I calculated it on a BMI. Your accually underweight. So she shouldn't call you fat.
I really think that your friend feels that she is fat so she takes it out on you. I know it sounds a little weird. But it's true in most cases.
She doesn't sound poor or anything from what you said about the cruise. So from that I believe that she can cut her 5 inch nails. Plus, you might could tell her in a nice way to start swallowing her spit.
I know that you really like your friend and you don't want to hurt her. But telling her is being an honest friend!
-GD
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I think your friend is either anorexic or bulumic. I dont really know what you should do, I would figure it out after the cruise. lol
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I would feel the same exact way if i was treated this way too..[By the way you aren`t fat]
Yes i do think you might only want to be friends with her because of the cruise i mean thats an awesome thing to be able to do..
Her spitting while she talks might be something she can`t help..But other hygene problems is something she should be able to take care of herself && shouldn`t be told to do it..But she`s probably so use to it && don`t notice she might smell or have bad breath..
I difantly don`t think your a bad person tho!!
♥Dez
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To be honest, I can understand why you would feel this way about her. First of all, she tries hard to knock your self esteem and then wonders why she has no friends. The fact that she isn't particularly nice to you makes you think about all the other things that are wrong with her and therefore feel embarrassed to be around her.
By the sounds of it, this girl has very low self esteem. If she didn't have certain issues like this with herself, she wouldn't make comments like it about you. If she really is too thin, perhaps you ought to make sure she isn't suffering with some form of eating disorder. It's quite common for sufferers to point out when other people are overweight, because it takes the focus away from how they feel about themselves. If you're sure this isn't the case, it will just be because she has low self esteem. She probably is also quite defensive because she's aware of her hygiene issues and the way she spits when she talks.
Try taking the issue with the cruise out of the situation for a minute. Imagine that you aren't going on it at all. How do you feel about her now?? If you still don't really like the idea of being around her, make sure cancel it right now. You have to bear in mind that if you do go on this cruise, you will be stuck with her for the duration and you won't be able to get away if she shows you more attitude.
It's tough to stop being friends with someone if you feel you are their only friend. But trust me, you aren't going to be abandoning her. If she treated people with more respect and sensitivity, she would be able to get as many friends as she wanted.
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First of all, I have a friend thats about your height. & In personal fitness class one day, the coach said she was under weight and needed to be 90pounds. SO DON'T WORRY! Your "friend" might just be jealous.
2nd of all, I think you should either work things out with her or not be her friend. If she embarrasses you, why?! I deffinatly can't help with that situattion if you don't tell me why.
Please leave a message on my page! I'll try to help you out some more!
Anneke x33
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