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my friend's parents..
ok so my friend's parents both have cancer.. well actually the mom just got over it and is still feeling pretty bad and her dad just found of he has a tumer. they have to do surgery, radiation, AND chemo. its really hard for her because a while back i found her outside (at my party) crying and she told me what happened. i dont no what to tell her because its so hard for her. what do i do to comfort her through all of this?
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Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do to make the situation go away and I know that's what you are going to be desperate to do right now.
The best thing you can do is to be there for your friend. Try taking her out shopping a few times or arranging some fun days out for her to theme parks or events, to take her mind off the situation. You need to remember that she will want to be there for her parents so try not to make it on days when there's chemo going on or similar treatments.
Also, have a chat to your local directory enquiries or library, as there may be a support group she can speak to about this. There are often groups of people who get together who are going through the same things and for something as common as cancer, there's bound to be support groups.
In the meantime, just make sure she knows you are there when she needs you and offer her a shoulder to cry on. She's going to need a lot of emotional support while her Mum is recovering and her Dad is being treated and she'll probably be too concerned to cry infront of them so she will need someone to go to for that and someone to take her mind off things when it gets too much.
However, be careful not to shoulder all the burden yourself because even with the best of intentions, you could find yourself overwhelmed. Make sure you get some of your other friends involved and do some things as a group. She'll feel better knowing she has a lot of people who are there for her.
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she may not want to talk about it.. but let her know, "if you ever want to talk about ANYTHING, i'm here for you and i will always be here for you. even if you just want someone to lean on, or jsut be with you, im always here." let her know that yo uare always there for her no matter what.. but after saying that, dont bring it up unless she brings it up first. and DONT say, "i know how you feel" becuase you can't. say, "i understand why you are feeling that way. i wanna do anything i can to help." just let her know you are there & when she needs it, talk to her and comfort her, but dont bring it up with her unless she brings it up with you. goodluck<3
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I don't think there is really much you can say. It's a sad and unfair. By just being there and listening, you are helping her greatly.
Be sure to let her know she has friends that love and support her, and that you will always be there for whatever she needs.
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Listen.
The best thing you can do is let her talk it out with you. It isn't necessary for you to say a lot. Just be there for her and let her cry on your shoulder.
Hope all goes well for her.
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