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convice to date
i am in 8th grade and am a 13 going on 14 female. my parents are really tough and i've had one secret relationship and i didnt work out. 2 years later (today) i want to got out with someone else.i will make the first move but i am afraid it wont work out if i cant date. how do i confince my mom and dad to let me date?
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A lot of parents can be strict about dating. When I first started, my parents actually made my sister go with me!! They only worry and fret and are strict because they're worried something bad might happen to you while you're out with a boy or that you will start having sex underage or irresponsibly.
Of course, the problem here is that you already betrayed their trust by going out with a boy when you weren't supposed to and that would have resulted in them feeling they can no longer trust you. What you need to do is to prove to them that you can be trusted to tell them the truth.
To start with, tell them that there's a guy you really like and you wanted to ask him out but you know they're concerned about you so you wanted to check it with them first. Chances are, they might not take this seriously bearing in mind what happened last time but you need to ask them what you would have to do for them to trust you again and to let you go out with this boy. Whatever they suggest, even if it's something embarrassing like bringing him over for a 'family dinner'first, agree to it. They will want to test your maturity so agree to their terms and conditions because you won't get your way without it!
In most cases, letting the parents meet the 'new guy on the scene' is a good step, because they want to check him out and make sure he will look after you and treat you with respect. Once they are reassured that he will be good to you, there shouldn't be any more problems.
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well i have found in my own experience that parents wouldnt have the problem with their kids dating if they met the person. now this will sound old-fashion and might embarrass you but its what my parents agreed to and their STRICT! before you and your date go out on your first date, have him comeover to your house and meet your parents, let them lecture him and talk with him for at least 10 minutes, and then go out on your date. this works becuase parents wouldnt have the problem with their kids dating if they knew who the dat was and knew if he/she was a good person and they deserved their precious child! so my advice is ask your parents if they will bend the rules and allow you to date if you promise to ALWAYS bring home your date first to meet them. good luck!
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tell them that you think your old enough to have a "real" relationship.Say that your mature enough to handle a realationship.Say that youll call them when youll come home from your date,and tell them where youll be at so othey know not to worry.If their pretty strict parents,i would say that you could suggest going on a group date first or maybe a double date until your parents can trust you and the guy enough.Get your guy to meet your parents so theyll have a feel for him and see how he is.If they still dont budge,dont worry your still kinda young,your parents will let you date eventually i wouldnt suggest having secrect realtionship because your parents might find out and it might not look to good,but who knows maybe if you do do that,theyll realize that they maybe make a mistake and that you are mature enough to date : ] I hope i could help hun GOOD LUCK!
♥ danielle
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