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divorce and custidy
this is long but i need help: my parents wanted to get a divorce a month ago. they didnt go through with it. but this time my mom got the divorce papers and my dad signed and took it to court. something was wrong with the papers. my parents want to do split custidy and i SHOULD go with my mom cause shes more responsible and has a real job. my dad is gone lots and has a lawn and snow plow service. i've told 2 of my friends. but not my best friend who've i'v know for 4 years. but my mom wants to move to milford, and my dad will stay in south lyon( their about 20 mins apart). IF i end up going with my mom when should i tell my best friend. but last time i told her i was moving she freaked out and i ended up not moveing. When and should i tell her i MIGHT move? and should i move with my mom? please help,xoxo
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First of all your family is your family no matter what happens they will both love you even if you chose one over the other.
with your friend tell her that you are moving, 2 days before you really do move, that way you have 2 full days to spend together
with your parents again stick with your gut instinct and also follow your heart. they will both lead you to the right way.
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I'm very sorry that your parents are getting a divorce. It's one of the worst things that can happen to a family.
If your best friend really is your best friend, then she will feel your sympathy for the divorce and realize that your mom is the best choice to go and live with because she is more responsible.
You and your friend can still stay in touch. Although, you will most likely go to different schools, email, IM, letters, or the phone make a difference in a relationship.
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First of all, I'm sorry your parents are getting a divorce. It's always a pretty nasty affair and I hope you're not caught in the middle of it too much.
Since your Mum is going to offer you a more stable environment then you would be better off going with her. When you're young, you need to have as much of a stable environment as possible and she will be able to offer you that.
As far as your best friend goes, she will be very upset if you do move but since it's not finalised yet, I wouldn't tell her right now because there's no need to worry her unduly. Wait until the whole thing is sorted out and you know that you definitely are going. Then tell her and promise to write/phone/e-mail and stay in touch.
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I think you should let her know that the possibility of you moving has come up again as hurtful as it is to tell her. I don't think you'd want to tell her a few days before or when theres not much time to do anything together before.
I think you should move with your mom because you know that is your safest and most comfortable bet. And you mentioned that Milford and South Lyon are 20 minutes apart? That isn't very long, so I don't see why your best friend should start getting so upset because things could be worse.
-TheTeenGirl
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