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well i'm in the 8th grade and 14 years old.. this is my 2nd year at the school i am now and ive met alottt of friends, boy and girl, there is this boy is my homeroom and study hall and his name is ryan.. we've been good friends since 7th grade and we even dated for a little while during the summer.. lately i think that i started to have feelings for him and hes been giving me alot of attention.. hes always giving me hugs, writes me notes, and for example today he like rushed to get the seat behind me in study hall and he was like giving me massages and playing with my hair and taking pictures of me on his camera phone.. i really dont know if he was flirting with me or was just being friendly.. but then i was going through his cell phone today and saw text messages from this other girl that says like i love you and stuff.. i know that hes not with her cuz this other girl has a boyfriend.. but im just really confused right now.. can someone give me some advice on this situation? (link)
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It sounds to me like he likes you. The girl leaving messages may like him...doesn't mean he likes her though. I think you should talk with him and get to know him. He may ask you out one of these days. :)
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ok well my ex (name not needed#1) asked me out again and ive been with this other guy (name not needed#2)#1 is so nice and hes cared for me so much but ther both my ex'es and i dont know what to do so please help from your advice #2 is kind of mean to me but he kisses me with passion #1 is kind of slow on that and ive waited for him for 9 months we've been together then we broke up. now im confused if they were one person they would be SUPER GUY! and they dont know each other but they heard about each other from my firneds and they hate each other! I need help please.im thirteen and im female (link)
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I think ex 1 sounds good. If 2 is mean to you then his "passionate kisses" won't make up for that very long. Try ex 1 and if he doesn't kiss you...kiss him. :)
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I really like this guy. But he's too shy to ask me out and I have to ask him if I was this to work. How do I ask him out? What should I say? (link)
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You just simply ask him. Would you like to go to a movie with me? Or whatever. Just seems hard...really isn't. Its just the thought that he may say no that makes it seem that way. :)
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How do you get guys to notice you without making a complete fool of yourself? (link)
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Be yourself, talk to them. You won't make a complete fool of yourself. Just talk about something you know about. Better yet ask them about something you don't know about...let them talk. They like that. :)
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i love my X but he has a gf now.. we were together for 8 months and i broke up with him and left for vacations. after i came back he asked me back but for some reasons we never hooked up again and fought. he started dating this girl and now they are together. when he was with her he used to call me but i never answer my cel because i was angry at him. about a month ago we saw each other at a party and he was with my best friend the whole party taking about me, he said "i would leave my gf just to be with her, i still love her." and more.. we talked but not much because i was too nervous to face him. we chatted and i asked him if what he had said was true and he said yes after that we didn't speak again, he didn't do anything neither did i. about 3 days ago he saw my best friend in tennis and they talked. she said "i always believed that you and alex would end up together" and he said "me too".. he always has in his nicks about past love and first love quotes like "i would never love the way i loved you" "it's so hard to forget about you" .. in his profile (wich he updates every week" he has "single" in his status. my parents were getting divorced, i was dealing with bulimia and my mom found out and gave me a hard time, i was feeling very low about me at that time but now i want him back. i think i'm losing him because he has on his nickname "now a love story is coming to an end" ..PLEASE advice me because i DO love him but put yourself in my position and tell me exactly what would you do!! remember that putting myself out there IS REALLY HARD.. PLEASE..advice me!! (link)
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It sounds like he still likes you to me. You still like him. You just keep avoiding each other for some odd reason! You really need to muster up your courage and have a talk with him. In person or online it doesn't matter which. Afterwards though, you have to continue to talk. You can't just wait for the other one to make the first move the next day. Go find him right away and start talking. I know it will be hard for you but if you want a relationship with this guy you're going to have to just do it. Hope it works out for you. :)
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ok there is this boy at skool he really likes me but I dont like him aand he gives me alot of nice things but I dont like him and I dont want to tell him so what should I do and should I give him back his things or keep them???? Please help QUICKLY (link)
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If you don't like him then you really shouldn't accept his gifts. He is probably taking that to mean you like him.
If he continues to bother you then you will have to tell him you only like him as a friend or something. Especially since you have taken gifts and sort of given him the wrong idea. I know you don't want to but you may have to.
He seems to be nice to you and everything, what is it you don't like about him? Maybe you should give him a chance and see what he is like? Just asking :)
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I used to like this guy, and I never knew he had a girlfriend. I've liked him since December, and he's shown "signs" of liking me by staring at me and smiling. When I found out he had a girlfriend, I cried a little and thought I'd never like him again. Then, a week later on Saturday night, I talked to him on AIM. We had a lot in common, we like the same movies, show, etc. We stayed up talking until 11:30 at night, he flirted with me (kinda) and I thought the next time I'd see him he'd be comfortable to talk to me at school, but it was just like it used to be. He just would stare at me, constantly. I know his "girlfriend", and it still seems like he likes me too. He's two years older then me, and he considers me as "young". What should I do?
-Broken Hearted.
~I rate high for good answers.~ (link)
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It could be that he just wants to be friends and enjoys talking to you. He can like you without wanting to date you. I think you could continue to talk to him and get to know him though. Things do have a way of changing sometimes. :)
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i like this guy at my school, and everybody's telling me that he likes me too. we went out before but it only lasted a few days, because i just didn't feel comfortable around him. but now i like him again, and he keeps telling everyone he might ask me out again. the problem is, when i go out with him i don't like him but when i don't go out with him i like him. i keep changing my mind about if i like him or not. if he asks me out, what should i say? because i'm afraid if i go out with him again, i might keep changing my mind about if i like him or not. im really confused. i don't know if i really like him or not. please help!!!
signed, confused (link)
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What makes you uncomfortable around him? What I mean is...Do you just never know what to say or does he just give you the creeps?
If he gives you the creeps then you need to follow your instincts. If it's just that you never know what to say then try it again and see if it's better. :)
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I snuck out last night and went to see my boyfriend. His parents found out I snuck out, and they're telling MY parents. How do I get outta this? I can't tell my parents the truth before they call, because what if they don't even call? I already talked to his mom, and shes not happy with me, and shes not willin to give me another chance. What do I do?
Thanks!! A BUNCH! (link)
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I think it will go easier if they find out from you. Not that they will like it any better. I'm afraid you're in trouble either way. Better plan on not doing it again and have a good speech about how you've learned your lesson prepared! :)
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my dads in prison for beating up my mom and for possesion of drugs he has asked to see me i really miss him even though his done wrong should i go and see him or not for all the misery his put my family in. (link)
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Even though he's been an idiot (sorry), you should go see him if that is what you want to do. Idiot or not he is still your dad. Drugs can make people do things they might not do otherwise. If he is cleaning up his act then I see no harm. What does your mom think about it by the way? :)
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I really want to enter the NA Miss Competition in my state, but my parents are big anti-modeling and anti-cheerleading because they think it's a brainless thing that only focuses on the outside. They don't really know that this competition takes grace, poise, and intelligence to win, and it's not even focused on beauty. I really want to let them know, but they have EXTREMELY closed minds about things like that. If I mention the word "model" in front of my mother, she flips out and gives me her anti-modeling speech. My parents are from a rigid family that believes in moral values and modesty, and there is only that in this competition. How can I show them that I want to be in this competition and open their minds to it? (link)
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Get all the information you can about it and show that to them. If it is not a beauty contest then they will probably be OK with it. Show them some evidence. :)
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My brother is 12 years old. A couple years back, we would always get into fights and I would always yell at him back. He would just take it in, or cry. Lately, everytime we get into a fight..he get's VERY physical and will fight for whatever he says! He is very violent..(he will climb on you and jump and scratch the heck out of you)It's starting to scare me because I can't even yell over him anymore. He's only 12 and I think he needs anger management! My parents think it's my fault because I make him mad first..but the only reason I yell at him is to set him right. He is VERY out of control when he's mad and he cries ALOT. Please give advice.. i don't know how to take this anymore..(I would hit and scratch him back..but that would only make the problem worse and he would keep on persisting to claw me out)..I'm a 16\F by the way. Thanks..I rate (link)
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I guess he's just decided he isn't going to take it anymore. You guys will have to find a better way to get your point across to each other. Instead of yelling try calmly discussing the problem. :)
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Ok, I never knew my parents I guess my mom was a druggie and my dad was a pimp so they didn't really want a kid around. Well because of that I've been in "the system" for my whole life. I've been in and out of foster families and only 2 of them have ever considered adoption. Well I've been staying with this family for 2 years now. It's really great I absolutely love it they're so nice and they really make me feel like I'm their child. Well my mom (foster mother) was considering adopting me, she sent away for the papers and she was really thinking about doing it. But then my mother (birth mother) showed up. She said that she's cleaned up and that she wants to be able to raise and spend time with her daughter. I've never met my mother before and I don't know if I should go with her. I mean I have a really good thing going now these are the nicest people I've ever met and they want to adopt me. I'm afraid that if I go and get to know my mother and it doesn't work out I will blow my chances with this family. I really want to be a part of this family. I love these people but I've always wanted to meet and spend time with my real mother. I have so many questions that I know only she can answer. I talked to my foster mom and she said that I could talk to her and that I can get to know her and still be a part of this family but my mother said that she's leaving to another state so I have to make a choice. I don't know what to do. Please help me what should I do? (link)
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Now this is only my opinion. This is really serious and something you'll have to work out for yourself.
I would stay where you are. You don't say how old you are but I'm guessing you aren't in grade school. That means you've bouncing through a LONG time. You have now found a good life with people who care about you. Something I would guess you've been searching for a long time. personally I wouldn't take a chance on promises.
Your birth mother may be fine now. But honestly she kind of blew it a long time ago. She had problems and if it was drugs then those drugs were more important to her for a long time than you were. She now wants a relationship with you. I think it would be fantastic for you to get to know her. I also think that if you were my child I wouldn't be moving away from an opportunity to know you. That choice is entirely hers to make. You have made another life and do not have to accommodate her. If she wants to move then write her letters. Do not be made to feel guilty about her choices. Be selfish. She really has no business trying to make you choose. She has a lot to learn yet about relationships I think.
I think you should have contact with your mom, even if it is only letter writing. You stay put in a stable family who loves you. You deserve the family you have now and they sound like very wonderful people. I wish you luck with your decision. :)
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Ok,I didn't know what category to put this question under, but I guess that doesn't really matter right now. My life is falling apart.
My parents are getting a divorce, because my older half sister and nephew (they're in rehab) are planning on moving in with us (she'd take my car and my room) and my mom doesn't want her to. My Dad feels it's his duty as her father. They'd already been having problems, and my mother's set of parents (my last set of grandparents) are dying, and she'd been really depressed lately. My mom decided the best way to get over it is to leave and go to Washington. None of us know exactly where.
So now, in since my Dad is in Michigan a lot, for his job, it is up to me to run a whole house-hold (cooking, cleaning, shopping, EVERYTHING!) and go to school. I have 4 little brothers and sisters (ages; 11, 8, 6 and 5)... On top of this, I have a job at a hospital, and am picked up by my uncle every day at 6:30 so I can work for two hours. I also realize that I'm very depressed, and have been ever since my ex dumped me two years ago. I can't seem to get over him, and if I even try to date anyone else, I always find some reason to dump them.. please help me.. somehow.. I know it's long.. I'm so sorry.. (link)
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I imagine there is more to your parents divorcing than your sister moving back in. Though I don't necessarily think its a good idea. I don't know that it is best to have 2 people fresh out of rehab living with impressionable young children. I would think that the stress of living with young children wouldn't be the best for them either. I hope staying with your family is just until they get jobs and enough money to get a place of their own.
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Really! I would never have guessed you were only 14! Hang in there. I hope everything works out well. You sound like you're very mature for your age. You still need to be rid of a few responsibilities though. Take time to be a teenager. I really hope all goes well for you. :)
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my mom passed away one year ago. my dad has since then remarried. it's really hard on me. how should i show this woman i'm ok with it? (link)
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I think if you just treat her with a little respect she will know. You can tell her too. She would probably really appreciate knowing. :)
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my parents divorsed when i was 3, my dad got remaried about 2 years ago with out asking me or even telling me about it, or her. i hate her and my dad knows but doesnt care how do i get rid of her!?! (link)
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I've had a few step mothers myself. I do understand you not liking her, I also know you need to at least try if you care about your father. You don't have to be best friends just be civil. Your dad doesn't have to ask permission to get remarried. Neither does your mom. Adults usually do whats best for them. Its to bad parents have to get divorced but they do. It is just easier than working out their problems I guess. You really do have to try to get along with her. It will make your dad happy and he isn't going to get rid of her. Your not liking her and being mean to her will only make him more protective of her anyway. I'm afraid your stuck with her.
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a couple of weeks ago my friend i will call her "Sarah" just got dumped. And her ex dumped her because of another girl. he would not even tell her that though he made his friends tell her. but it seems like he still likes her but when i ask him he just says "yeah right no way you wish" and he is always looking at her in a good way. and he is always talking to her and stuff. is he cheeting on both girls? What should i do? thanks in advance. I rate 5s (link)
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I think if she's been dumped that's all that matters. He was a chicken to have a friend let her know instead of being man enough to do it himself. I don't think you guys should worry much about what he's up to now or with who. Tell your friend to set her sights on someone else and show this guy that she really doesn't care what he does (even if she does). :)
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I like this guy and he used to always look at me when i wasn't looking. When I turned we gazed into each other's eyes for a milisec. But now he doesn't really do that anymore. He knows that I like him because his sister told him. My friend likes him too, but he doesn't like her (thank god) lol. She doesn't really like him anymore, but whatever. I just want to get to know him and stuff like that, but I get a vibe thats like weird. I can talk to him, but I'm afraid of his reaction. He is also "talking" to another girl (I overheard him talking on the bus) Should I even bother liking him, but i still want to get to know him. I don't know what to do? Please help, I rate high.
~Linda (link)
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I don't think it's going to hurt anything for you to talk to him and get to know him better. Just think of something he might be interested in and start talking. His talking to another girl doesn't mean you can't talk to him too. Go for it. :)
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When my girlfriend had a baby she took off a couple weeks after the baby was born. So I've been taking care of her by myself. Well my girlfriend called me and said that she needed money and that she's coming to take Lisa, our baby, and not to fight her on it because she has the right as her mother. I don't know what to do. I still care about her but I think she might be doing drugs again and I don't feel like our baby will be safe with her. I'm afraid that she'll just leave her like she did before except this time I won't be there to take care of her. Does she have the right to take Lisa or can stop her from taking her? If I can stop her how can I do that without causing a lot of stress for the both of us?
Thank you in advance
Jack (link)
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Do not let her have her. She abandoned you both. You have a good chance of getting custody if you want to fight for your daughter. Your girlfriends drug problem is also in your favor. No matter what happens it will be stressful, so you might as well get a lawyer and fight to keep your daughter no matter what it takes.
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There is a few preppy people in my school. I always usually talk 2 this one person which she is considered preppy but she only talks to me when she is not around her "friends" I get along w/ the other preppy people in my school just not very often sometimes she is mean and nasty and sometimes she talks to me. I need some really good comebacks for her when she calls me like a slut and a whore but im not so i need some great/ awesome comebacks. thx 4 ur help! :) (link)
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Just tell her you aren't going to dignify her comments with a response. You don't play stupid name calling games. :)
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