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i like this guy at my school, and everybody's telling me that he likes me too. we went out before but it only lasted a few days, because i just didn't feel comfortable around him. but now i like him again, and he keeps telling everyone he might ask me out again. the problem is, when i go out with him i don't like him but when i don't go out with him i like him. i keep changing my mind about if i like him or not. if he asks me out, what should i say? because i'm afraid if i go out with him again, i might keep changing my mind about if i like him or not. im really confused. i don't know if i really like him or not. please help!!!
signed, confused
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You probably shouldnt go out with him then. Or just make up your mind.
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If your around him, I believe you should be comfortable and feel like you want to be with him. If he's talking nicely to you, and you don't get that "special" feeling, then you must not really like him. You might be picturing him different when he's not around, but when you actually know his personality, it doesn't feel like he's the one. I suggest you talk to him about going out again, and if you don't feel any attraction, don't go out with him.
-Alexa
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what i say is make a list of pro's and con's (what you like and what you don't) if the pro's are more then the con's then you do...if you keep changing your mind though maybe you are just scared to go otu with him because you don't know if you are goign to hurt him or anything like that.. make sure if you go out with him you are sure that you like him because if you don't and you do go out with him some one is going to get hurt!... another thing is to go otu with some one you shoudl feel comfortable around him.. you should be able to tell them anything and if you cna't do that .... maybe he not right for you!...hope i helped good luck hun!
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OK, here is the thing. You need to ask yourself some serious questions to get things straight.
How do you define "LIKE"? After answering this question go on to the next, and view it from your definition. Do your answers fit? If not why?
(No, this will not be fun. Yes, it will actually help.)
Are you sexually attracted to him?
Do you actually spend time with this guy during the day?
Does he make you laugh?
Do you think he is a good person? In what ways yes or no.
Does he treat you differently on a date than he does everyday? If yes, in what way?
Are you afraid of being alone with him?
Are you afraid of him being alone with you?
(Yes, there is a difference in the questions. Think hard.)
There are endless more, but these should start you brain in a pattern to help you figure out what you want.
Luck and Love!
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What makes you uncomfortable around him? What I mean is...Do you just never know what to say or does he just give you the creeps?
If he gives you the creeps then you need to follow your instincts. If it's just that you never know what to say then try it again and see if it's better. :)
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well i Kind of know what you mean really confusing huh? well i cant only think of one thing that you could do id to try going out with him and if your still uncofurtable with hin then tell him you dont want to go out.
hope i helped
Sarah
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Dear confused,
It sounds as if you like the idea of this guy, or the idea of going out with him, but you don't necessarily like him. I would definitely put off going out with him until you get to know him a little better. That's the only way you'll know what exactly it is you like or don't like about him. Good luck sweetie.
Linda
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It sounds like your not ready for a romantic relationship. Until you know for sure having a boyfriend is something you want, just be friends.
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