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Will she be safe?
Ok I am 16/m and my father recently passed away. He was the only one taking care of me and my little sister, Sarah.(my mother diched us when Sarah was born.) Sarah is only 6 and I've been trying to take care of her and myself but it's not working. We don't have any other relatives that she can go live with and I can't keep taking care of her. My school counselor has been trying to help us anyway he can and he recommended handing her over to the state. He said that it would be easier on the both of us if I did and it would give her a chance at a better life. He said that there a lot of foster families out there who end up adopting the children that they take in. Does anyone know how the "system" works? I mean if I do give her to the state will she be safe or is she better off with me? It's really hard for me to take care of her and I don't feel like I'm a good parental figure. I have a job but it doesn't pay enough to take care of the two of us. So if anyone knows anything about the foster care system or whatever it's called please let me know. I want to make sure that it's safe for her so that I can determine what will be better for her. Thank you.
John
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keep her i know it is a big responsibilitie but thats the only part of family you got when she gets to the age of 8 she will start to be mature and you wont regret giving her away if i had a little sister and somthing happened i would keep her because when yall both grow up yall can have a big relationship maby you get her to go down to peoples houses and clean it for twent buck a day then she can afford to live with you lol
hope i helped love brittany
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My experience with foster homes was not good, and I was in 4 of them. I was 6 when i was in my first one, and my foster parents were really awful. I was moved around so many times in my childhood, and the state ended up having a drawerful of files on me by the time I was 12. They ended up just putting me back with my mother, and she was the reason I had been in foster care in the first place. In my case the system really did not work. It was also the case for 1/2 of the other kids I came across in the foster homes,they ended up having a lot of psychological issues.
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I am sorry about your parents...you sound like you7 really love your little sister...and the best thing that you could do would be to geive her up to the state. They will give her a home where she can grow up and live as normally as possible. The foster care system is very responsible and works well. If Sarah doesn't like the home she can tell the state she wants to be moved. I hope everything works out for you and your sister. Even if you decide to give her up to the state you can still visit her because after all, she is still your sister.
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yes i think that handing her over would give her a better chance at a life but cetrainly not a happier life she would end up being very confused with another family since shes only 6. so if you do hand her over to the state she might have a better life but maybe very sad. and yet again if you do decide to hand her over then you might want to visit her in her new home to make sure she is ok and that would problay make her feel safe and not so sad
Good luck
sarah
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aww hunny!... she will be really safe... they wouldn't let anything happen to her.. but she most liekly would want to stay with you.. you could prob. go see her etc. the system is really easy.. what they do is they take her in.. and she might stay in an orphanage for a little til they find her a family to stay iwth ... after this .. they will put her in the home prob. temporarly then she will problemby get jumbled around a lot into different homes... im not exactly sure that this is the exact thing that do know-a-days but here is a VERY good website if you would like to look up on things [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) i hope i helped.. and i hope EVERYTHING works out! <3
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