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National American Miss
I really want to enter the NA Miss Competition in my state, but my parents are big anti-modeling and anti-cheerleading because they think it's a brainless thing that only focuses on the outside. They don't really know that this competition takes grace, poise, and intelligence to win, and it's not even focused on beauty. I really want to let them know, but they have EXTREMELY closed minds about things like that. If I mention the word "model" in front of my mother, she flips out and gives me her anti-modeling speech. My parents are from a rigid family that believes in moral values and modesty, and there is only that in this competition. How can I show them that I want to be in this competition and open their minds to it?
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Get all the information you can about it and show that to them. If it is not a beauty contest then they will probably be OK with it. Show them some evidence. :)
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I've been in a pageant before, and its not about beauty on the outside. They also ask you certain questions, such as "What word describes you most, and why" and you'll have to speak, and give an explanation. I remember the interview before the whole pageant (for me, it went interview to get into the pageant, if you made it, then in a few weeks you had orientation, later that night, we came back to the hotel for a high-security party, then we had an interview with all the judges and they told us how to act before we went in, like shake the hands, etc., then a week later we had rehearsal and then that night was the pageant), they asked me a bunch of questions such as "What do you do in your spare time?" and at the time I was volunteering at a local hospital and I was in Girl Scouts and I earned a big award. Of course they're going to pick me over a girl who says "Oh, I get like, manis and pedis and talk on my cell phone all day long". See, being more involved will get you in the pageant. All those girls on stage have done something amazing in their lives, which is why they're up there...not just because they have blonde hair and a skinny body. Many of those girls have something in common with your family, they believe in moral values and modesty as well. So you're parents really have nothing to argue about. If you want to be in this competition really bad, you should let your parents know that, and regardless of what your dream is, they should support it. Tell them you think you're capable of doing this and you would like to give it a shot. Also, you can tell them that you've talked to a few people who have been in pageants and they're far from being shallow. Its hard work and whether you win or not, you feel good, you've gained self-confidence and experience on stage and speaking in front of others (which will help in just about any field you go into as a career). Good luck, tell me how it goes.
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This isn't what you want to hear, but I agree with your parents. How do people win schloarships by their apperance? It's really ridiculous. They probraly believe that your inside matters most and they don't want a superficial contest to get in the way.I'm sorry that this is not going to help much, but if I were your parents I would say the same thing..Just think how they are viewing the situation.
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Hey!
Well I hate to tell you to go againist your parents will but here's what i would do.
First i would start out with a mom/dad(which ever one is easier to get to) "you know how you told me i could be anything i wanted to be when i grew up" they would be like "yes honey" then you should say "well its not like i want to pick up a career in modeling(even if you do want to) but i would like to particapate in the National American Miss compation."
Sure at first they may react with a no but you keep saying you told me i could be anything i wanted to be i just want to try this and see if its for me then give them the cold shoulder. Eventuly they will wear down (after 2 or 3 days of cold shoulder/begging) Hope i helped and i hope to see you on the National American Miss.
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thats a tought situation...this is prolly not what you wanna hear but your better off not doing it. the reason being is that stuff like that has its emotional struggle and its hard when its something your parents dont support or are forced to support. my parents didnt like me playing sports and its a constant battle to get them to take me places and support me. oh and if it turns out to be a total flop (it happens to everyone at least once) theyll just give you the whole "told you so" thing and say thats what they wanted to protect your from. follow your heart. <3
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First of all im a cheerleader youre parents are totally wrong about us it doesnt focus on the outside obviously they havent seen cheerleading lately it takes ALOT!! but to make them open their minds to it explain to her why you want to do it and what it takes and that its not based on looks!
Hope I helped !!
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