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I have a friend named Rob who I've known all my life and he tells me everything. We both made friends with a new younger girl named Lena (we're in eighth grade and she's in seventh) and we have a great time together. Rob is a really nice guy, and I think that Lena is mistaking that for him liking her, and she's starting to like him. For example, whenever we are doing something, like bouncing on the trampoline, and Lena falls over, he's over there helping her up again, and she's mistaking that for him liking her. Rob has told me himself that he doesn't like Lena as more than a friend, but I don't want Lena to ask him out and break her heart. What do I do? (link)
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Unless you want him for yourself you just don't get in the middle. One or the other of them will get mad at you. If you want him for yourself...ask him out before she does. :)
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i have a really mean grandma and we have to go over there every sunday with my dad we stay over ther for 6 hours theres nothing to do one summer my sister and i went there to stay for the summer and she tourtured us i was 11 and my sister was 15 she wouldnt let us do anything she yelled at us fo everything is there any thing anyone can do to help me put my grandma in control?????? (link)
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Are you staying for the summer again or are talking just the Sunday visits?
She probably has no idea what to do with you! Try doing something she might enjoy. Don't ignore her involve her. Ask her what your dad was like as a boy. I bet she has some good stories you could use to torment him with later!
If she's just a crotchety old broad that you can do nothing at all to please...stay out of her way as much as possible. Go outside...make friends with the neighbors or something.
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My name is Jack and I'm 22. Sorry if this is long but I really need the help. I recently found out that I have a 15 year old half sister named sarah. I've been searching for her for a long time and I finally found her. Well when I first saw her I noticed that she had scars on her arms that I think were from cutting herself. The more I talked to her the more I noticed something was wrong. At first she wasn't saying much I figured that was normal I mean she had never met me before and she had just found out that I was her half brother. I've been seeing her everyday for about 2 weeks now and she still seems really nervous like she's almost afriad to get to know me. I've also been trying to meet my father but evertime I go to see him she comes to the door and says he's not home even though his car is there. I asked to meet her mom and she said that she wasn't home either. This goes everynight. Well this afternoon I stopped by without calling first so sarah didn't know I was coming I wanted to surprise her. I heard yelling so I tried to see what was going on but the door was locked. I stood there for 5 minutes before my sarah came to the door. She looked like she was limping and seemed to be in pain. She said that she was going to a friends house so she couldn't go with me today. I asked about her parents again and again they weren't home. Well after she left I went in the house I saw that my father was drunk and her mother was too. I think they could be abusing but I just don't understand why she would hide it. I'm really worried about her. She's a really nice kid and I don't know what to do. I'm beginning to form a relationship with my sister and I don't want to ruin that. Getting to know my father isn't that important to me right now because I've found something better. What should I do to make sure that suspicions are correct? and don't say talk to her because she won't tell me. Also if she is being abused would it be a good idea to turn her parents in even if she doesn't want me to? I'm thinking about asking her to come live with me but I don't know much about 15 year old girls. Would having her move in with me be a good idear or are there other options that will be better for her?
Thank you in advance
Jack (link)
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If and when you find out your suspicions are valid...turn them in. Even if she temporarily gets mad at you it will be worth it knowing she is safe.
I think you should let her know that your door is always open and that she has someplace to go if and when she needs to. Make sure she has all your numbers and if you have to invest in a cellular phone for her (if she hasn't one). Doesn't have to have all the bells and whistles just a way for her to contact you if needed.
Hopefully she will trust you more as she gets to know you. If your suspicions are correct she may have a hard time trusting anyone. I'm sure she loves her parents even if they do treat her badly and don't deserve it. Kids are just that way. She wouldn't want to get them in trouble. I think ( though its a little late now) You should maybe contact someone in authority at her school and have them help you keep an eye on her. If they even suspect anything is amiss they are obligated to turn it in as a suspected child abuse case. It may take them getting turned in for you to get any kind of custody of her anyway. Be prepared in case that happens.
For now work on gaining her trust. Show up on time. Keep promises etc. I think I would give her surprise visits now and then too. If you can afford to do so you might also consult an attorney and see if he/she could offer anything else of use to you. Good luck to both you and your sister. :)
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hey i have a problem! i think my family hates me.....grandma,sisters,brother and uncle to be exact. ( to help those are the people i live with )anyway i think i hate them to cause they hate me and yell at me all the time so i should hate them to!i want to leave the house really badly. my grandma says i'll be grounded if i leave but i dont care what should i do? (link)
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I really doubt that they all hate you! I think you are a typical teenage girl with emotions flying every which way and hormone overload. It will get better. Don't do anything you're going to regret later. They probably think you are being melodramatic about everything. Just stay out of their way when you get to feeling down about things. :)
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kay i thkn my whoel family hates me > my mom is acting like she doesnt want me she makes me do all the work in the house. if she could she could probly put me up for adoption. but i kno my dad wont let her. i kno my dad loves me. i want ot run but i ahve no where to go. the rest of my family livies 2 hours away. she acts like she has to take me places > she does it because she has to not because she loves me. i have no clue what to do??? pleaz help me!!!
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Mothers don't usually wait this long if they don't want their kids! I think maybe she is going through her own problems right now and may be taking them out on you. That doesn't mean she doesn't love you. If you want to find out for sure you can tell her that and watch her cry!
Sisters have been ass pains forever. They only quit when you no longer live in the same house! Just ignore her for the most part and maybe she'll leave you alone.
If all else fails take your worries to dad. I'm sure he would be more than happy to set you on the right track about it all. :)
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kay well I was with this guy for a year i basically lived with him i was never home id go home to visit once ina while we told each other we loved each other and of course thought we would be together forever.. well forever doesnt last as we all know.. but he has a girlfriend now.. someone that ive known since i was like 5 use to be friends with then didnt like each other anymore.. when we broke up he told me he didnt wnat to be with anyone but then like a week later he was with her & still is but he always comes to me like im his back up girl he cheats on his girlfriend with me my question is do you think he still has feelings for me? or he just uses me because he knows he can? im still heartbroken and cant get over him but am living to live my life without him but it hurts even more when he uses me and tell me he loves me then leaves and then im just his friend again I wrote him a note the other day saying that i cant let him use me anymore because its only hurting me more and it not fair to his girlfriend. He tells her he loves her now but i jsut dont see how you can love one person then ina week happy to be with someone else and in 2 months tell them you love them.. thanx to anyone who trys to answer (link)
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Forever can last that long if you care enough to put the effort into it. Don't give up that idea!
Yes, I think you are being used. If he loved you and cared for you and your feelings then why on earth would he be dating someone else? You know that. Now do something about it. Do not so much as talk to this jerk again. Find a guy who puts you first and doesn't need anyone but you. :)
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I went to the movies with my guy friend who I'm really starting to like & a bunch of other people a day or two ago. I want to suggest that we go again but just the two of you. How should I talk to him about this? (link)
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You tell him this: I had such a good time at the movies with you the other night. Think we might go again sometime? If he says yes get a day and time from him! :)
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im 13 and a female. i have this friend who i like. i really dont kno him buti kno off him. he knos who i am and he told my best friend that he was scared that if i got to kno him i wouldnt like him. its like he is afraid i would break his heart but i just want to get to kno him and move on from there. what should i do? (link)
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Make the first move. Ask him why he thinks you wouldn't like him...since you do! :)
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ok so my friend (Amber) is so confused and i dont no how to help her. This guy that she has liked asked her out and she said yes. Well then a couple days later this other guy asked her out and she really liked him to, but he is moving. She is having seconed thoughts about this hole thing. Should she brake up w/her bf to go for the other one or should she stay with him? (link)
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Is a guy considered a boyfriend just because he asks a girl out one time? That one is new to me. Oh well...
You go out with whoever you accepted first. I don't think that has changed over the years. You don't have to go out again if you don't like them or didn't enjoy their company.
She can tell the second guy that she already accepted an invite from guy 1 but that she would like him to ask her again sometime. Then, he knows she isn't just snubbing him.
The second guy is moving anyway so she'd better just keep him as a friend and not get to attached. :)
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okay so ive been goin out with this guy for like 2 months and we're both 14. i really like him alot and i want to invite him over to my house. but i dont know how to keep him entertained... because its not like i can have him in my bedroom because my parents will b home. what can we do? i never had a boy over to my house before so im kinda new at all this. please help me quick. and i dont want some things like play board games... cuz thats lame... or do alot of people do that with their boyfriends and girlfriends?
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Nothing wrong with a board game or card game. Watch a movie. Sit on the porch and talk. Make some cookies. You'll think of something! :)
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My guy friends giving me hints that he likes me. There are plenty of them except he likes another girl & our whole class knows that he does (ever her). Sometimes it seems like if he likes her & could tell her then if he likes me why couldn't he tell me? The signs are big & they're really hinting toward liking (talks to me on the phone for a long time, memorized my phone number, always finds an excuse to touch me, gazes into my eyes etc). How can I confront him about this? (link)
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I think I'd be asking him that question. Sounds to me like he may like you too. Go find out for sure...maybe he doesn't know how you'll take it and doesn't want to mess up what you already have. Let him know nothing will change either way. :)
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Well okay im going out with this guy [we will call him Yellow] and last night i found out that he was moving to a different state. But for some reason i was happy! i dont know why though because hes my boyfriend and i love him so much. Why is this!? im 14 \ f. please help [I RATE HIGH!] (link)
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Maybe you are just eager for some change in your life. Nothing wrong with that! :)
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my dad has a brother and he is my uncle my dad and him got in a fight like 15 years ago and they still are fighting ever since then they have been fighting the whole family has been split apart i am not able to see my cousins ever my dad tried apolygizing and it didnt work my uncle has treatened my papa by emails (not going into detail) i want are family to get along but have no clue what to do if you have any serious advice i would love to see it
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I know you would really like to help but there isn't much you can do. Your dad and his brother are grown men and will have to work it out the best they can. Maybe they never will, It sometimes happens that way. I would hope it doesn't but it could. The best thing is to just let it go and hope your uncle gets tired of holding a grudge. :)
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i cant cope. My mom use to be an alcoholic my dad use to beat my mom my mom us when she was drunk adn now i love to get drunk because ut gets rid of my troubles and i dont know where to start. I looked afta my sis and mbro when i was 9 and now my moms clean and moved out of my dads house i dont know where start i love my drink but dont want to go the same way as my mom. I hold a chip on my shoulder but dont quite know to who and dont know wot to do about it. Please please help. Vicki x (link)
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Children of alcoholics have a higher rate of becoming one themselves. If you have trouble leaving it alone...tell mom. She's been there. Get help for the problem before it becomes a really big one. :)
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ok so i told my bff (who's a guy) that i liked him. I went out w/him last year but we broke up. I wrote him a letter b/c he was moving. and i gave it to him after a party. that night he called me and was like i was surprised when i read ur letter. i was lik o. and he said that he wont act weird around me tomorrow (we had another part). and that he was goin to write me a poem and give it to me. that was the end of the conversation. the next day i saw him and we didnt really talk that much. at the end i gave him the biggest hug b/c i wasnt goin to c him ever again. he invited me over to his house to hang out. and im goin to go over to his house. well im not sure if he's goin to ask me out but i want him to. well there's this other guy and i like him to. he has this thing on his profile that says there is sum1 special out there for me. and i asked him who it was and he said that i would find out who it is at camp.(were goin together) so i kind of think it might b me but im not possitive. i dont no wat to do! i like them both and i want to go out with both of them. p.s. im 13 and a female (link)
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Well, one is moving so I guess you need to go for the one staying. :)
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This boy & I have been flirting/messsing with eachother all school year now. Everyone can tell we like eachother but neither of us will make a serious move. I know he won't because his friends will tease and he's a little shy/immature. I'm afraid of rejection & being teased. It's the end of the year and this boy is one in a million, I like him very much. What can I do to let him know being friends isn't enough and over the summer I want to see him? (link)
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You just get brave and tell him so. One of you has to do it! Do it now before someone else snatches him up. :)
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ok so me and my boyfriend broke up because he stalked me and he still kinda does.he got mad becuase i hung out with this guy down the street who is 15.me and the guy hung out alot by ourselves and we never did anything like that.my (ex)boyfriend always accused me of doing things with him.not just him but a bunch of others guys and the guys who he thought i was doing stuff with stop talking to me because my ex boyfriend is 6'5 or 6'6 so none of the guys wanted to get in fights.was i right for breaking up with my boyfriend?i was really missing my guy friends=( (link)
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Yes you were right. Any guy who doesn't believe what you tell him and mistrusts you that much is not worth the trouble. I'm sure you will find someone better than that. :)
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i cant tell u my name>>>im 14 years old, im not in a relationship right now..ther is this guy i haev known for along time n that i kind of have a crush on..he says he is getting married to a girl that loves him but he does not love her..he has ruined his life by doing a whole lot of stuff. he is in love with one of my close friends but she wants nothing to do with him..so he thinks gettign married n moving far away is a good idea. now i want him to knwo that i love him very much n care for, him but i just dont know hwat to do know..HELP (link)
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I think you'd better stay out of this one. If he's getting married he's to old for you! Sounds like he's having a pity party to me. Probably trying to get your sympathy for some reason. There isn't a law that says he has to marry anybody. If he does then there isn't anything you can do about it. Don't EVEN get involved with this guy...no matter how much you like him.:)
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i have been dating my b/f for one month now and i cant stop thinking about him! it's crazy, i'll be watching tv and then for no reason i will think of him. or if i'm listening to the radio, a song will remind me of him. i mean even when i'm shopping or eating. he is constantly on my mind! nd i have been totally crazy about him for a year, and he said he has liked me since he first met me. he tells me all the time about how he cant get me outta his mind either. we'll be on the phone for hours and it will be 2 in the morning nd he's so tired but we never hang up. he says its bcuz he wants so hear my voice and as soon as he hangs up he misses me. i think i love him, i always get this excited crazy feeling when i just think about him and i smile all the time for no reason, i feel like a dork.
do you think i love him? (link)
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Either that or are madly infatuated. Either way enjoy it! :)
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ok so im going out with guy now and like every time im with him and his friends i can never talk to him cus im really nervous i might say something really lame and his friends will laugh at me. when he is about ot leave im to scared to hug him goodbye . i dont want him to think i dont like him so how do i talk to him without being scared? please help fast! i rate good! (link)
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First of all don't worry about what his friends think of you. You aren't out to impress them. So long as he likes you... that's what counts!
About hugging him...what does he do? He could just as easily hug you. Try your best not to be scared. Remember you don't have to be the one to do everything. He should be helping out. You might tell him how you feel about things if you could get some time alone with him. :)
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