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I have a friend named Rob who I've known all my life and he tells me everything. We both made friends with a new younger girl named Lena (we're in eighth grade and she's in seventh) and we have a great time together. Rob is a really nice guy, and I think that Lena is mistaking that for him liking her, and she's starting to like him. For example, whenever we are doing something, like bouncing on the trampoline, and Lena falls over, he's over there helping her up again, and she's mistaking that for him liking her. Rob has told me himself that he doesn't like Lena as more than a friend, but I don't want Lena to ask him out and break her heart. What do I do?
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WEll if i was you i wouldnt get into it.Everyone has there heart broke at least once in there life.Its just a part of living.If it happens she'll pick herself up and go on!!good luck hope i helped!!
steven
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it seems to me as if you might have a thing for rob. i know youre probably thinking, "no, i dont- he's just a friend", but thats what youre making it out to seem like. if you dont in fact like this guy, then let lena do what she wants. she's a big girl, and she knows what she wants. if she gets hurt, all the more power to her for future references. thats a main part of growing up. let her make her own decisions, and she might even thank you for it in the end, if you clue her in on your opinion.
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casually talk to Lena
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just sit down and have a talk with her, tell her the truth. lies will only make things worse. because imagine, if she did ask him out and then she gets rejected, imagine how she would feel knowing that you knew the whole time that he didnt like her....so just be straight up honest with her..thats the best thing you can do..
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Unless you want him for yourself you just don't get in the middle. One or the other of them will get mad at you. If you want him for yourself...ask him out before she does. :)
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well you could tell leana that he doesn't like but you have to make sure she knows that you just want to help so that she doesn't get hurt. or you could just let it go on for a lil while more and she will probly get over him. hope i helped!!
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well, as a girl myself, girls always think that if a guy is nice to them, that they like them, believe me, me and tuns of my friends have felt that same way! :) and shes glad that he is an older guy too! just have him say that he doesnt want a girl friend now and he is sorry if he hurt her, and he didnt mean to, and that he wants to remin being one of her friends!
thanks for letting me help you, and i hope that i did help!
best of luck!
always-
kels
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you should tell rob that lena thinks he likes her.then let him handal it
-kk
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It's really sweet that you are concerned about her like that. I know plenty of guys like Rob who are incredibly kind & sometimes make alot of younger girls who don't know him as well, think he likes them. You have to talk to her even if that seems impossible. You may think she'll be very upset but think how upset she'll be if he turns her down one-on-one. When you talk to her, make sure you give her plenty of compliments such as "she's a very pretty girl" & "she'll have plenty of boyfriends" but make sure you tell her the truth about Rob. Hearing it from you will be much easier then hearing it straight from him. If you need any more advice, feel free to ask me & good luck!
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Don't beat around the bush about it. Just confront her about the situation and be honest. Just tell her that you've been noticing her taking things the wrong way and let her know, nicely, that Rob isn't interested in her. Then let her know that you're only trying to be a friend and help her out.
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first off, assumptions have a loooonnnggg range of accuracy from reallie accurate to really not. make sure your concerns are true. i know what youre saying and all but make sure just in case you do something stupid (heehee ive done that before and trust me it is NOT pretty). if you are sure then there are two options: 1) you can tell her straight out or 2) let things take their course. ya noe?
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Stay outta it.
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Talk to Lena about it just tell her that he doesnt like her more then a friend..
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Maybe you can try talking to her. Say stuff like, oh isn't he a great guy? He’s so nice. I think he likes this girl in 8th grade but I'm not sure. That way she starts questing the fact of him liking her. You can also flat out just tell her what kind of guy he is, how he acts and how he intends all of it to be taken. Good Luck!
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