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My name's Montana. For a 13 year old, I've been through alot. I love helping people out & taking plenty of time on each response. Feedback definitely motivates me to give more advice ^_^! I'm definitely NOT your average girl. Even though I may seem like it on the outside, I'm very outspoken & opinionated. I'm athletic but girly at the same time. I'm really into music, theatre, volleyball & cheerleading. Got a problem? I'd be happy to help. Just drop it into my inbox & I'll get back to you right away. I check up on Advicenators at least once a day.
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ok,i am a music industry proffesional singer/songwriter,i want to set up my own business selling my albums via the internet...where do i start etc??? (link)
www.cafepress.com allows you to upload your own tracks to a CD & distributes them for you. Great place for muscicians to start getting their music out there! Plus, you make a profit of course :) Good luck!


I really like this one guy he flirts a whole bunch with other girls but he respects me more then the other girls as far as i know. do u all think its better to be respected of flirted with? (link)
I think respected is way better. Think about it: as girls, we tend to flirt... alot. It's in our nature. We don't necessarily always like the guy we're flirting with but we still do it. Since he doesn't flirt with you as much as them, that means he respects and cares about YOUR feelings. As for them, he's just doing it because he is a guy.


my bf's bday is 6/7 and i dont know what to get him...we're not exceptionally close but weve been together for 2months. my mom suggested throwing him a party but it wont work out because of a camp im going to the next day. he likes video games and movies and thats the extent of it. thanks! (link)
Guys are really hard to shop for. Whatever you do, don't get him a gift card. He might take it the wrong way, like you didn't take the time to pick the present yourself. If he like svideo games & movies, ask him if there's any movie he wants. Do it casually so he doesn't get it right away that you're wanting to know about a birthday present. Good luck!


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Lucky me, I just happened to get my period a few days before I leave for the beach with my friend. It's Thursday and we leave on Sunday, and my period usually lasts for about 6-8 days. I've never used a tampon before. I asked my mom, but she was no help. She just said hopefully it'll be done by the time I leave. Any suggestions on what I should do? (link)
Tampons are way better than pads & they may seem scary but they really aren't. Inside each package there's directions on how to use them. I personally recomend Tampax Compact. They are tiny and easy to use. There is a clear diagram on the back. It may take a few tries but you'll get it and feel comfortable. Don't give up & follow the diagram. If you're relaxed & do exactly as it says, you shouldn't have a problem. Good luck!


you know how we all sometimes have quotes as our away message on AIM? well does anyone know any for BBQ's? instead of saying "oh outside having a BBQ" anyone know any BBQ quotes? thxxx (link)
Here are some BBQ away messages for you:

-Tanlines & fresh cooked meat... yum!
-Shakin` & bakin` outside!
-B to the B Q
-Kickin` off summer with a BBQ!
-BBQing in the sun, baby!
-Loud music, hot sun, GREAT food... what's not to love?
-Love=BBQ


kay well I was with this guy for a year i basically lived with him i was never home id go home to visit once ina while we told each other we loved each other and of course thought we would be together forever.. well forever doesnt last as we all know.. but he has a girlfriend now.. someone that ive known since i was like 5 use to be friends with then didnt like each other anymore.. when we broke up he told me he didnt wnat to be with anyone but then like a week later he was with her & still is but he always comes to me like im his back up girl he cheats on his girlfriend with me my question is do you think he still has feelings for me? or he just uses me because he knows he can? im still heartbroken and cant get over him but am living to live my life without him but it hurts even more when he uses me and tell me he loves me then leaves and then im just his friend again I wrote him a note the other day saying that i cant let him use me anymore because its only hurting me more and it not fair to his girlfriend. He tells her he loves her now but i jsut dont see how you can love one person then ina week happy to be with someone else and in 2 months tell them you love them.. thanx to anyone who trys to answer (link)
Guys can really suck sometimes. This is one of those times. To honest, even if he still did have feelings, how do you know he wouldn't do that to you? Cheat on you with some other girl. If he's doing this to you but still dating her, you should break this off now. Sadly, he's a jerk (in my opinion) & you deserve MUCH better. Writing him that note was smart.

Just remind yourself what he's doing to his girlfriend by cheating on her & that could end up being you. That should sway your decision. Good luck & if you need anymore help, let me know.



i cant tell u my name>>>im 14 years old, im not in a relationship right now..ther is this guy i haev known for along time n that i kind of have a crush on..he says he is getting married to a girl that loves him but he does not love her..he has ruined his life by doing a whole lot of stuff. he is in love with one of my close friends but she wants nothing to do with him..so he thinks gettign married n moving far away is a good idea. now i want him to knwo that i love him very much n care for, him but i just dont know hwat to do know..HELP (link)
Wow, there certainly is alot going on in this situation. You should tell him you have feelings for him immediately. He's making a decision that will change his life forever & you could have the power to stop him. Ask him to meet you somewhere & tell him exactly how you feel. It may seem very outrageous but he might have the same feelings & tell his "future wife" that he doesn't feel the same way about her. Good luck! I'm here for you if you need anymore advice.



I am trying to get some really cute skirts... Do you know of anyplace that has cute summer/winter skirts that are cheap? I am trying to get a style and I have found I like the vintage. If you could give me the websites or even the names of some stores, that would be more than helpful !ThAnKyOu!
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Abercrombie has very cute vintage-y skirts right now. The store does have a rep for being on the pricey side however, I picked up 2 mini's over there for $12 a piece that were on sale. They were really cute & I'm sure if you head over there you could find a few you like. Also, Hollister makes inexpensive skirts (especially sale ones) & American Eagle. You could also check out a thrift store as odd as that sounds. There's REAL vintage stuff in there that's one of a kind & no one else will have one. Happy shopping!



ok so me and my boyfriend broke up because he stalked me and he still kinda does.he got mad becuase i hung out with this guy down the street who is 15.me and the guy hung out alot by ourselves and we never did anything like that.my (ex)boyfriend always accused me of doing things with him.not just him but a bunch of others guys and the guys who he thought i was doing stuff with stop talking to me because my ex boyfriend is 6'5 or 6'6 so none of the guys wanted to get in fights.was i right for breaking up with my boyfriend?i was really missing my guy friends=( (link)
First off, power to ya, sister! You did the right thing. He was controlling & pocessive & NOT the kind of guy you want to be dating. Any guy who would restrict you from hanging out with your guy friends, accuse you off doing things with them & stalk you is just a negative person in your life. Don't feel bad about what you did. You made a brave choice & now you'll be able to live normally again. However, if this current stalking gets out of hand, tell someone. Your ex could blow this out of proportion and things could get rough. DON'T let this scare you, just be aware of your resources. If you need any more help/info, let me know.



I have a friend named Rob who I've known all my life and he tells me everything. We both made friends with a new younger girl named Lena (we're in eighth grade and she's in seventh) and we have a great time together. Rob is a really nice guy, and I think that Lena is mistaking that for him liking her, and she's starting to like him. For example, whenever we are doing something, like bouncing on the trampoline, and Lena falls over, he's over there helping her up again, and she's mistaking that for him liking her. Rob has told me himself that he doesn't like Lena as more than a friend, but I don't want Lena to ask him out and break her heart. What do I do? (link)
It's really sweet that you are concerned about her like that. I know plenty of guys like Rob who are incredibly kind & sometimes make alot of younger girls who don't know him as well, think he likes them. You have to talk to her even if that seems impossible. You may think she'll be very upset but think how upset she'll be if he turns her down one-on-one. When you talk to her, make sure you give her plenty of compliments such as "she's a very pretty girl" & "she'll have plenty of boyfriends" but make sure you tell her the truth about Rob. Hearing it from you will be much easier then hearing it straight from him. If you need any more advice, feel free to ask me & good luck!



i want to be on the volleyball team next year... but i suck at volleyball. i have all summer and i want 2 get good, but i cant join a team because im going to be on vacation in july. how do i learn 2 play? (link)
This was my problem a while back. I wanted to be on the team at my school but I wasn't good at all. There aren't teams in the summer, but there are camps & workshops. Camps are for a week or two where you can train & learn the basics. Workshops can go up to about 3 days & they teach you the fundementals of the sport. If you can't do either then I reccomend the book "Winning Volleyball For Girls". It really helped me out alot. It goes over the moves, tecniques and exercises you can do both on & off the court. If you don't already have a volleyball, get one. It doesn't have to be expensive & it can be indoor or outdoor. Toss it around, try to immitate some of the positions in the book & you'll be fine. Serving can be the hardest since you need arm strength so make sure you stay fit during the summer. Need anymore volleyball advice? Feel free to ask me! =]



i have this really good guy friend, and he's always really nice to me and treats me really well. but as far as other girls go, he cheats on them, talks bad about them, and completely uses them. he's tried to get me into a physical relationship w/ him a couple of times, and each time i've sternly told him no, because i know what happens to every one of his girlfriends ... the problem is now, that his current girlfriend is my good friend. i don't want to see her get hurt the same way he hurts every other girl who crosses that line with him, and i tried to explain to her that he can be a total jerk to his girlfriends.... but because i spend so much time w/ him (he's a close friend), now she thinks i like him, and that i'm just jealous... which is 100% not true. i would never go out with him... ever. i'm smarter than that. but anyway, what do i do... do i let him break her heart? and how do i get her to understand that i'm not trying to steal her man? (link)
Wow, this seems complicated. Luckily, I have JUST the solution. Tell this friend of yours that you don't like him & that you are telling her the truth because she is your friend & you don't want her to get hurt. Then just walk away (or sign off if you're online) & let her think about it. If you keep on persisting then she'll start to think you're doing it just because you like him. Try it just one more time being stern & telling her that you're worried about her. Also, give some examples of his past girlfriends so she sees you really are telling her the truth. Good luck & it's nice to know there are people like you that would go to all this trouble for their friends. If you ever need any more advice, feel free to ask me!





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