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my dad has a brother and he is my uncle my dad and him got in a fight like 15 years ago and they still are fighting ever since then they have been fighting the whole family has been split apart i am not able to see my cousins ever my dad tried apolygizing and it didnt work my uncle has treatened my papa by emails (not going into detail) i want are family to get along but have no clue what to do if you have any serious advice i would love to see it
brittany
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Hello Brittany,
Welcome to the club! My dad is at war with my uncle Mike, and has been for over 20 years.
My extended family is huge, and I miss a great many of them. By huge, I mean 147 cousins.
If you can find out what they have been arguing about, it might help you to figure out what to do. As has already been pointed out, there is not a whole lot that you can do about it if they are bound and determined to be angry with each other.
My dad had an exceptionally good reason to be upset with my uncle Mike. Mike, almost got me killed when I was eight years old. He lied and told the rest of the family that it was my dad's fault.
I was there, and it was not my dad's fault. Because Mike was so one to tell the entire rest of the family about the situation, he, of course, told it from his unique and completely false point of view. It was some time before my dad even knew that the rest of the family was aware of the situation. By then it was too late to undo the damage that Mike had done.
I really do feel your pain, and know exactly how you feel. You want to be the one to fix things so you can all be together again. Me too. :-(
I honestly don't care if I see Mike or his family again for the entire rest of my life. The rest of my aunts uncles and remaining hundred and 45 cousins are priceless to me and I would give anything to be a family again.
I have only one suggestion which may or may not do any good:
Sit down and write your uncle a letter. Tell him that the situation has been breaking your heart for all these years, and you would do anything to make things right. Ask him what the problem was. If it was something stupid they may not even remember.
The tears of a young woman have moved many a mountain of a man to do things they never thought they would.
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
DangerNerd
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I know you would really like to help but there isn't much you can do. Your dad and his brother are grown men and will have to work it out the best they can. Maybe they never will, It sometimes happens that way. I would hope it doesn't but it could. The best thing is to just let it go and hope your uncle gets tired of holding a grudge. :)
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I am so srry to hear about your family. You just need to stay strong and talk to God. He will help you through it and will do what ever it takes to help you get through your crisis. Stay strong and maybe and hopefully allthings will work out. Hope all goes best! And God bless.
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Dear Brittany im sry to hear that but if you want to get your family try talking to your cousins and make your dad and his brother stop fighting and tell them that they dont have to be friends but you want to be able to see your cousins and also ask them wat their fighting about
Signed ~Caring Greek~
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Hey
I know what you mean. My mom and aunt were fighting for a long time, and we barely got to see my cousins or go to birthday parties. Maybe you should try talking to your dad about it..maybe even your uncle. Its hard to give advice when idk what the problem is, but the best thing to do is probablly just talk with them about it. Just because they have stupid problems doesnt mean that they should take it out on you and your family. They should deffinately try to work things out. And maybe if not..tell your dad to get a new email adress so he doesnt get threatening emails from your uncle. That way nothing can get worse. Im really sorry that this is happening to you and i hope everything turns out ok someday..<3
.:*Leah*:.
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Ok, I have the same problem as you, my mom and my uncle have been fighting ever since I was 5 and what helped them get a little back together is give them some time away from each other and then tell them that you dont want them to fight and all you want is a family that gets along. I hope I helped you! From the famous ToNy!
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