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17/f ((i donno if that helps but whatever ))
okayy so lykee like on the left side of my pelvic area it hurts whenever i laugh or cough.
and i have no idea what it could be...so im a bit worried.
isnt your appendixx on the left side too?
oh gosh im worried.
helpp! (link)
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I wouldn't worry about your appendix really. You don't mention nausea, vomiting or loss of appetite.
Those are the main symptoms along with abdominal pain, which will actually be hard to tell where the pain is.
Being 17 & female, see there it was important! It could be any number of problems associated with being female. If it continues to hurt, or has been hurting a while, I suggest you see a doctor and find out what it could be.
If nothing else it will be a relief just to find out it is nothing to serious. If there is a problem, the sooner it is treated, the better you will feel.
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okay so ive been with my bf for 3 months and were 15 and pretty serious. and the other day he decided to smoke a cigarette and the last time he smoked it was weed and he wasnt going to tell me but i found out and got really mad bc i would rather have him tell me so he doesnt feel like he has to hide things from me. and he said he would never do it again. i mean i dont really care about weed because its not like as powerful and he doesnt do it like alot. but like cigarettes are just disgusting and i asked him multiple times if he smoked because i saw him a little later that night and he smelled gross. and i asked my friend if he did and he said he did and then i asked my bf if he did and i asked him like seperatley if he smoked weed then if he smoked cigarettes and he said he would never smoke cigs and im just like ... idk what to do because on a survey thing he says he has a secret and i really believe thats it. but like i wanna seem like i trust him to because i do, i really do trust him like i love him and i want him to know that he can feel comfortable telling me anything. im so confused please help:( (link)
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Can't say I ever thought I would see the day that smoking weed was considered the lesser of the two evils when compared to cigarettes! I've always wanted to be a rebel!
You don't trust him. If you did you wouldn't be worried about all this. He isn't telling you he smokes because you don't like it, and have probably told him so. That doesn't make lying about it right. After all, there are people who will rat him out!
I have to agree with the adviser before me. He is immature. If he is a smoker, he probably isn't going to quit for you. Its just not that easy.
Your best bet will be to either accept the fact he does and tell him its ok, or drop him and move on. Depending on how grossed out you actually are.
If you're asking him multiple times about his smoking, believe me, he is taking that to be disapproval & possibly nagging. He is not going to feel comfortable enough to tell you about it
if that is the case.
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Some medications, like ambien, trazodone and anti-depressants, will give me nasal symptoms, like congestion, which causes swelling. I'll wake up and my nose will be all swollen and stuffed up and stuff. Is there anything I can take that would help? I have tried nasal sprays, and allergy drugs like Allegra and none of them really seem to help. I also use ice, which helps a bit, but does anyone know anything that will really help?
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Check with your doctor. Its not a good idea to even try home remedies while taking other medications. You could even worse reactions. Call the doctors office and ask his nurse about it.
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15/f.
Alright, so I've asked both of my parents numerous times about piercings. My mother is more considerate, but when talked about with my father the question brings up termoil and anger, and usually ends in some type of yelling. I've been heavily thinking about getting my nose, and/or belly button pierced, against my fathers wishes. If I do, does anyone know a good way to hide the fact I have them?
(Our family has a boat, and we go out on it frequently, so please don't suggest that I wear a shirt to cover my naval around him) (link)
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There is no way to hide them. You also have to be at least 18 to get piercings without your parents permission. Because of infection I wouldn't recommend any self piercings.
Just keep talking and maybe you will get dad talked into it. Maybe find some pictures of people with those type of piercings that look good. Most people only see the pictures of those who look like escaped psychos. Show him they can look very nice.
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Okay Try to bare with me. I am seeking advice for my Great Aunt...
Okay Remeber I told you about My couisn Brandon that pass away? whoes My aunt Patty Son? well okay thing is Brandon did had a daougher was 15 when he die. before he die. she had a fight with bradon (Her dad) Saying she hate him and stuff. and when he was dying he try to call her and she never calls back.. ok after brandon pass away she never came too the funeral or send fallowers or card you know too her grandma.. whoe my Great Aunt.. okay then like that time My aunt try too call or send a letter about her dad. and tori who is her half sister that was maybe 3 or 4 wrote her letter. never hear or hard from.. okay now pass 7 year now.. This week My Great aunt Gotten a Graduaction Card with picture. and thing is she not put her Grandpa Name on it along with her grandma.. and she not writ too her grandma. but she did writ too tori who is now 6. she ask tori sorry she didn't writ then. and ask hows she was and tell her about her school and freinds.. thing is my aunt think she just wants money or not shure what she try to do. iwas thinking maybe she not writ becouse she rather see her in person i am not sure. it very cunfuse. but thing is my aunt dose not want to forgive her for what she did and hurt her dad..
i hope you get it . lol. if not that ok (link)
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I'm a little confused but I will try!
I imagine that your cousins daughter has lived with a lot of guilt over the years. While she had no way of knowing her dad would die after their argument, that would be an awful thing to have to live with. She said things she probably didn't mean, and now she can't take those things back.
It may have been hard for her to talk to her grandmother after all that. Guilt, and maybe she even blames herself for his death can be tough to live with. In her mind she may even feel her grandmother blames her for what happened. In the heat of the moment, maybe she even said something that made her granddaughter think she did. If she does blame her, its time for her to get over it. Accidents happen and you can't blame one who was a teen at the time for it.
This is something that letters won't solve. Your aunt will probably have to actually go see her and then they can talk and maybe resolve a few things.
As for the graduation announcement, most people send them to all their family. Usually the parents send them out. I doubt it is her way of asking for money. If your aunt feels it is then just have her send a nice card. Getting an announcement doesn't mean you have to send anything more.
I really think they need to get together and speak in person.
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That does make a bit of a difference if he died of cancer and she knew he was dying. She probably should have known better.
She probably still has feelings of guilt. Teen years are tough and many teens say and do things they regret as they get older. She will just have to learn to live with it. It will be hard for her to do.
Seeing her grandma may make her feel even more guilty. They may never have a good relationship.
A lot will depend on how your aunt chooses to handle it. If she can find it in her heart to forgive her granddaughter, they may eventually
find some sort of relationship with each other.
If she can't, well, that's sort of understandable too.
She still doesn't have to send money for graduation if she doesn't want to. If she wants
to forgive her, she can write a little note in a card and see if anything comes of it.
As for Tori, if she wants to know Brandons daughter, she should be allowed to. She may be a little young right now. So its up to your Aunt until she can decide on her own.
Continue to prey for them all. Thats about all you can do right now. They have a lot to forgive each other for. It wouldn't be easy for any of them.
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do people who used to smoke pot and stopped still have the same "stoner attitude" as before? like being passive/lazy-ish (link)
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I know several people who smoke it and go to work everyday. They are far from lazy. That is a stereotype that makes for funny movies! So, unless the persons just passive/lazy by nature, you have nothing to worry about.
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My mother is so annoying and self-centered and my husband dislikes her intently. She calls our house 1-7x every day! She just moved back to our location and is a 3x widow in good shape. Holidays are hard because my husband and our 2 kids have always enjoyed being together and that is our time but now she wants to move back here and expect me to provide her happiness. She won't do anything to make friends of her own. I'm so stressed out about all of this and just need a little advice. I'm in my 50's and female. Thanks so much! (link)
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I have to agree with solidadvice. Your mom must at least be in her 70's. Good shape or not, she probably isn't going to be one to get out and make friends.
Holidays are for family. She is part of your family weather your husband likes it or not. You realistically won't have her around for many more years. Your children may one day resent not getting to know her too.
I can understand you not wanting her at your house 27/7. Talk to her about that. Make her understand that you don't want that. You do have your own life. But, that does not mean she can't be a part of your life. She is family. Think about it. Do you want one of your children to treat you or your husband like this one day? That is what they are being taught right now. Its ok to ditch an old parent.
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My soon to be boyfriend and I NEVER talk. All we've ever done is text, IM, and say hi every once and a while when bumpping into each other at school. Well, I've heard from him and many others that he likes me. He's really outgoing and an awesome guy. But whenever I call him or do anything in contact with him, he acts like he doesn't want to talk to me and gives me one word answers and seems completely disinterested. We've kissed a couple of times (literally one second pecks) and every time afterwards when I look at his face he looks disgusted. I really REALLY like this guy and know for a fact that he's crazy about me. And that's why I'm confused as to why, if he likes me so much, acts like I'm an annoyance or just avoids me when we spend time together. I really like him and want to go out with him but, honestly, I see no point whatsoever in going out with him if he's going to continue acting this way. It irks me like crazy to talk to him now even though I'm crazy about him too. I'm unsure as to wether dating him would just be wasted time and am puzzled as to why he chooses to act like an angry five year old around me. Please, I really need some advice! :) (link)
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Since communication is important in every relationship, I wouldn't waste much more time on this one. It sounds like this guy is to immature for a real relationship at the moment.
What has he done to make you think he is crazy about you? Someone who can't bother to speak to you is NOT crazy about you.
See if you can get him to talk to you about all this. Be honest with him about how you feel. If you don't see change immediately, find yourself another guy.
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I want to break up with my girlfriend, but I have no idea where she lives, her parents blocked my phone, I don't know any of her freinds to carry the bad news to her, and it's summer for us. How can I break up with her? (link)
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Sounds like her mom doesn't want you calling. I'd just consider yourself broke up and move on with your life. If she wanted to bad enough she would have found a way to contact you.
Don't feel bad about it or guilty for moving on. Just do it. :)
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Someone I know is in South Korea for a teaching job right now.. Hes got a contract for a year.. With all the stuff happening with North Korea, if it gets worse would they send him home or just make him stay over there if it got really bad? THanks =] (link)
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I am not 100% positive, but I do believe the United States would call for an evacuation of Americans should things get really bad there.
If he got really worried I suppose he could break his contract. I doubt he could legally be held to it if an emergency situation should arise.
Here is a website for you. If he doesn't have this info, send him the link.
http://travel.state.gov/travel/tips/emergencies/emergencies_1212.html
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i have to take a urine sample tomorrow for a job interview but i'm on my period. is there any way i can hurry up my period flow, like by drinking a lot of water tonight? (link)
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Adult answer here. No. Drinking water will have no affect at all on your period. However, being on your period will not affect your urine test either.
You will be allowed privacy. It won't be a big deal.
A potential employer will NOT allow you to take the test later. If you even ask, they will assume you have something to hide. Just take the test and don't worry about it. It will be fine.
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i just need a streaight answer (link)
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So long as you feed the dog normal dog food as well, cheerios aren't going to hurt the dog.
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I've had this best friend, Amy for like 15 going on 16 years. I cheered my 7th Grade year, and we were really close, then I quit and we drifted apart, so this year, my 11th grade year, she wanted me to cheer because we had become close again, so I tried out, and made it. Now, she has these other friends, one of them in particular, Kara who has this boyfriend, Trevor, and his best friend Sam had sex with my best friend. Now she's like crazy obsessed, and he's not the cleanest guy, he's very controlling, he's compulsive, obsessive, an she just wont talk to me anymore.
Idk what to do, she's my best friend, and we both hate not talking to each other, but now, she seems like she'd rather have him.
I've talked to her about it, and she did choose him. He don't like me, so I guess neither does she.
I've talked to her in everyway, she says that she doesnt want to choose and that she isnt going to put up with me acting like that, when really I aint done anything.
BTW, her parents dont want her with this guy, and she knows it and still goes behind their back.
I just want MY friend back, not Kara's friend, or Sam's beneficial friend.
What should I do? (link)
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Its natural for girls who start dating to spend more time with the boyfriend. It can seem they are abandoning you, but that's just the way things happen. It will happen to you one day too.
What you need to do is set aside special time just for the two of you. Go shopping, stay over at each others house...just whatever. Maybe once every couple of weeks.
Don't worry, she still likes you. She just has a boyfriend now. The boyfriend will always have priority over girlfriends. The same will be true of you when you get a boyfriend.
What you will have to stop doing is telling her and anyone else what a rotten guy he is. He may very well be all the things you say, but she won't like you talking about them. It will make her stay away from you and could end your friendship. You just come off sounding jealous.
Make new friends. She may be your best friend but the relationship has changed now. It will never be the same because some guy will always come first. If not for her then for you. Its normal.
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I'm not quite sure what catergory this was supposed to go in, so I just picked one that seemed relevant.
I just finished my first year of college and I met some amazing friends. It turns out that yesterday I found out that one of my amazing friends passed away. He lived in a different state so there is no way I can go to his viewing or funeral.
I want him to know that I will miss him and I'm sorry that I can't go to his funeral/viewing. I don't know how I'm supposed to do that. I want him to know that I'll always be thinking of him and he'll forever be in my heart.
I know you'll probably say "you just did" or "pray to him, he'll know" or "he'll know" but I guess I want more than that. I don't know exactly. I just feel so bad that I can't go. I don't know. I just need some advice or something.
May Angels Lead You In (link)
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I like Crazystylists idea of writing a note to his parents. That would help not only you, but them as well.
Funerals are mostly for the living. Whatever your beliefs, he will know, as you mentioned.
There is one thing you can check into. They may not have it where he lives, but it may be worth it to you to check. Here where I live there is a funeral home that now broadcasts services online. If you can find out the name of the funeral home, you can check with them. Most have websites now where you can at least go to leave a note. That may help you too.
If others in your circle also knew him, you could have your own small memorial service for him. Doesn't have to be anything fancy. Just a get together to talk about him and what he meant to you.
Sorry for your loss.
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Alright i want to get a blackberry but its too expensive with the internet. is it possible to buy a verizon wireless blackberry and then call and cancel the internet because when you go to buy one they say "you have to have internet on it" but i know many people with a blackberry and no internet on it. (link)
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If Verizon ( or any phone company) offers a blackberry with internet, then no. You can't get it and then cancel internet. You will have to sign a contract agreeing to use that package for probably at least a year. If you are under 18, they won't deal with you anyway. Your parents would have to do it.
If you know many people with the phone but no internet, your best bet would be to ask how they got that deal.
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ok this is going to sound completely and totally psycho but whatever. so 1st of all, im so in love with my boyfriend. but he really cant deal with life anymore.
hes bipolar, hears voices, has depression and a bunch of other problems. but you would never know any of this because he is the class clown and captain of the football team. he always acts really animated and pretends to be the happiest guy in the world. but hes not.
i really love him so much but he wants to commit suicide so bad. ive talked to him about it and stopped him countless times. but now hes at the point where hes at peace with dying and is ready to go. i would be devastated if he did this and i would probably take my own life. i cry about this every night and i cant stand to think about it. but this is what he wants to do and i know it is.
the only reasons hes not doing it because he doesnt want to hurt me, and hes afraid of going to hell. but heres the thing, i had this completely psycho thought of killing him. out of love, but still. i was gonna go over one day and give him a hug and kiss him, then hold a gun to his back and shoot him. i know it soundsss completely crazy, but then it would save him from going to hell, and i would go instead. and he would not worry about me being sad, because i was the one to do it and i would just put the gun to my head next anyway. i dont know if i could bring myself to kill the love of my life, but the thought that he would finally be happy and in a better place than he is at now, makes me wanna do it. but i still think i sound completely psycho so can someone help me out with this. i dont wanna kill my boy. thankssssssss (link)
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You don't give an age but I am going to assume you are a teen. If not I'm sorry.
TELL HIS PARENTS! Tell someone and get him help. This is not something he or you as his girlfriend can do anything about. If his parents aren't an option, then someone else who can get him help.
Don't make excuses about why you can't tell someone. Would you rather have him dead? Keeping his thoughts to yourself in this case is just enabling him. If you want him well then get over thinking you can come to his rescue and save him. You can't.
You don't kill someone out of love. I don't even know where one would get that idea. If he is afraid of going to hell, that's a good thing. Maybe he needs to talk to a minister or someone.
You know it is very easy for someone who is close to a person who is depressed to this extent, to become depressed themselves. With the delusional thoughts you are having, you need to seek some mental health counseling yourself. You are not thinking clearly or wisely at all. You are in an unhealthy relationship. You both need to get help.
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I'm not sure if you are someone who knows about these types of things, but if you don't... please don't ignore my question, instead could you give me the name of a columnist who may be a nutritionist? or just knows a lot about nutrition? Thank You :)
Anyway, I am 5'1 and I'm about 156 pounds. I wouldn't say that I look as short and fat as I would seem to be. Most girls my age are about 110 pounds and most of them are even taller than me! They all look so cute in their bikini's and I just am so jealous. I refuse to go to the beach with them and pool parties just because of the fear for being in a bathing suit. I know that there isn't anything wrong about wearing a one piece or a tankini, but most of the other 16 and 17 year old girls wear bikini's. I'm sick of being so afraid of my body. This summer I want to wear a bikini and I'm determined.
I went to Whole Foods today and talked to the guy in the section with all the nutrition shakes and pills. I told him that I wanted something to loose weight, that was good for me. He let me buy two samples of this shake that I replace with two meals a day with. Here are the facts:
Garden of Life- "Perfect Meal"
Low glycemic index. Effective and healthy weight management with a healthy diet and exercise.
Calories................180
Calories from Fat..............0
Total Fat...............2g
-Saturated Fat..........1g
Cholesterol....................50mg
Sodium...........115mg
Total Carbohydrate.............22g
-Dietary Fiber...............5g
-Sugars.................3g
Protein...................19g
Vitamin C.................50mg
Calcium..................275mg
Iron..................2mg
Chromium.................200mcg
He said the mix half of the powdered substance with vanilla soymilk for breakfast, and then the other half for lunch. Then eat a meal for dinner of all the food groups.
I was thinking for my dinner I would eat (all small small small portions)....
Meat- half a link of turkey green onion sassuge chopped into rounds and cooked on a hot pan on the stove.
Vegetables- Half a cucumber
Fruit- Half a banana
Fats Oils and Sweets- NONE (since thats what I need to get rid of)
Grain- None...
..... does that sound good? I'm really picky. I just want to make sure that I am doing this right.
ALSO, I know I have to exercise, and I have exercise videos that I will do DAILY. I will do a cardio one and a yoga one everyday.
How long do you think that it would take for me to get this flat tummy?
(oh and can I also copy and paste this question to someone else because I really need the answer by tomorrow :} ) (But you were deffinatly my first choice, Young Grandma! ) (link)
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I really wish I knew more about this! I have the perfect person to help you though. I just hope he
answers as quickly as you need him to. He is very good and while he is not a nutritionist, He is a certified fitness trainer and knows a LOT about diet and exercise in a healthy way. I personally would ask him this question.
Let him no you are serious. He has stopped answering a lot of questions because when he gives people the good advice they need, he has been rated down because people just don't want to hear the truth.
Feel free to copy/paste your question to him. He is going to give you the answers you need to be a success! Good luck. :)
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=MikeCFT
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Okay, i'm going to be having sex with my boyfriend for the first time on his graduation nighy, June 3rd. We have protection and everything i was just wondering how long did it last on your first time? its both of our first times.
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Foreplay can last a while. Your guy may be a little excited the first time or two and not last very long. Its perfectly normal, so if that happens, don't worry about it. It has NOTHING to do with how much you love each other.
Sex, like everything else in life is a learned thing. Do not get disappointed because you have read stories or heard tales from other teens about how great it is. A couple has lots of things to learn about each other and what pleases the other. That takes time.
I'm not saying it can't be pleasurable or fun. Just don't expect some perfect thing complete with fireworks the first time. I'm sure a lot of young girls feel disappointed after reading some of the answers given here by other young story tellers.
Relax as much as possible & use that protection.
If your relationship lasts a good long time, it will get nothing but better.
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I have these really small bumps on/around my nipples. They almost look like small pimples. And I've had them for about a few years now. Does anyone know what these are? Should I get them checked out by the doctor?
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They are called Montgomery glands, and they are perfectly normal. No need to have them checked by a doctor at all. All women have them. :)
Here is a search for you if you want more information. There is a link to images in the
search as well, should you want to see what others look like.
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my friend abbie is 16 and we both live in pennsylvania. she is adopted and she hates living with her mom. her mom is just so rude and always complaining saying adopting abbie was a mistake...abbie has 2 underages and a caseworker. my dad wants to adopt her so she can live with me and my dad. is that possible? how do we adopt her? and etc? are we able to adopt her? will her caseworker allow it? i need as much infomation as possible! thanks! (link)
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It not unusual for teens and parents not to get along. Once adopted you become like any other child a person has of their own. Unless she is being abused by her parents, she is theirs until she is 18. Then, she can do as she pleases.
So, no. Your family cannot adopt her. She is no longer without parents. I don't even know why she would still have a caseworker, unless she is a problem child. Regardless, she will have to deal with a rude mother who doesn't understand her, just like millions of other teens.
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